BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

You had an amazing weekend together... So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅 If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered after closeness, why your brain starts scanning for problems the moment you finally feel safe, and how t...

You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵‍💫 You know your attachment style. You've read the books. You can literally watch yourself spiraling... ...and somehow you still can't stop. In this week's episode I'm breaking down why knowing better isn't the same as feeling safe... and what to do when your nervous system goes into full-on su...

Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen. In this episod...

Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!)  Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from Mr. Maybe-Right? Tired of playing the waiting game with your phone? I’ve got you covered! For 20ish minu...

You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫 If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you. Because here's the hard truth: The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up. In this episo...

They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong. But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire. In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care. Becaus...

If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits? This episode is for you. We’re diving into: ✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens ✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter ✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have ✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it ✨ the difference between a re...

This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral. And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who ar...

If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶 Not because your needs are too big. Not because you’re “crazy.” Not because you care too much. But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy. Easy to date. Easy to communicate with. Easy to not disappoint. Easy to never need anything. So now you: 💭 overthink every con...

“If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety 🧠 How this mindset turns you into a silent tester instead of a communicator 🔥 The subtle ways it makes you pull back,...

Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered? Yeah. That counts as testing. And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels exhausting, unstable, or emotionally unsafe… even when your partner is actually showing up for you. In this episo...

We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts 🧠 The sneaky way reassurance becomes emotionally addictive 🔥 How constantly checking breaks trust with yourself 🪞 Why asking “Are we okay...

You know they’re a good partner. They text back. They show up. They follow through.   And yet… you’re still spiraling. 😅   You’re analyzing tone. Second-guessing everything. White-knuckling your way through a relationship that is actually safe.   And if you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I just relax when nothing is technically wrong?”   This episode is for you!   Because here’s the hard truth: some...

3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Anxiety Triggers (That Most People Skip) If you’ve ever felt terrified that they might leave… If a delayed text ruins your whole day… If you logically know it’s not that big of a deal, but emotionally you feel completely hijacked… This episode is for you. 🫶 Because here’s the truth, being aware of your triggers doesn’t mean you know how to face them....

You’ve done the work. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Saved the reels. You know your triggers… and yet somehow, you’re still getting activated. 😅 So what gives? In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing better and feeling better... and why self-awareness alone doesn’t stop emotional triggers or anxious attachment patterns. Because if you’re honest, sometim...

If you’ve ever caught yourself rereading texts, overanalyzing tone, imagining worst-case scenarios, or feeling your chest tighten because something feels off... this episode is for you. In this episode we’re talking about what to actually do in the moment when you start spiraling in your relationship. Because spiraling in relationships doesn’t mean you’re dramatic, needy, or broken. Most of the ti...

Let’s talk about something that feels productive… but is actually keeping you stuck: working harder in your relationship. You know what I mean. You’ve got the notes app open in bed. You’re rewriting the text. Replaying the conversation. Journaling it out. Trying to say it the right way so you don’t sound needy. And it feels like you’re doing all the “right” things. Like you’re being thoughtful, se...

Today’s episode is a really special one because I’m joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we’re talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder: What does secure love actually feel like? Not the Instagram version. Not the “perfect relationship” fantasy. But what it feels like inside your body when the spiraling, the overthinking, and the constant...

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we’re talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times. You tell you...

In this week’s episode of the Be That Healing Girl podcast, we’re getting real about one of the biggest patterns in anxious attachment: trying to “project manage” love instead of actually participating in partnership. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor… overthinking every interaction… or secretly wishing your partner would just know what you need without you having to sa...

Why didn’t Valentine’s Day feel the way you hoped… even though your partner is actually a good person? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I’m breaking down the real reason you felt disappointed after Valentine’s Day, a weekend together, a date, or quality time — and why it triggered doubt, overthinking, and questioning the relationship. This conversation is for high-achieving, se...

Worried they won’t show up for you on Valentine’s Day? Spiraling about whether you’ll feel chosen, loved, or disappointed? This episode is for you. 💔 In this week’s podcast ep, we’re talking about relationship anxiety around Valentine’s Day... and why overthinking romance, surprises, and expectations can actually block the connection you want most. If you’ve ever: - Wondered if you should tell yo...

If things feel safe in person but the moment you’re apart your brain goes into panic mode… this is the episode to save, replay, and send to your bestie. In this episode I share: ✨ Why your brain goes into “red alert” even when there’s no actual danger ✨ What overthinking is really trying to protect you from ✨ How anxious attachment can show up as avoidant behavior ✨ The sneaky ways your anxiet...

In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you. Because here’s the hard truth: 👉 Overthinking in relationships isn’t emotional intelligence. 👉 It’s avoidance. 👉 And it qui...

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘 Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be lovable.” If your brain tells you, “If I stop trying, nothing will happen,” and you're scared your relatio...