Beloved: Christian Healing for Identity & Self-Worth

Discernment isn’t always as simple as “knowing what’s right.”Often, it’s the process of untangling what you’ve been taught… from what is actually true. In this conversation with Dr. Chritin Fort, we explore discernment through both a theological and psychological lens. We discuss:– What discernment actually is and how to recognise God’s voice– How to understand your emotions (confusion, anxiety, a...

There are certain behaviours that are hard to explain, not because they’re subtle, but because they’re confusing. You can feel that something isn’t right, but without the language, it’s easy to question yourself instead of what you’re experiencing. In this episode, we step back from modern psychological terms and look at what the Bible already says about these patterns. 2 Timothy describes traits...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re never quite enough… like you second-guess yourself, overthink everything, or struggle to set boundaries—this may be why. Growing up with a narcissistic parent doesn’t just affect your childhood. It shapes how you think, how you relate, and how you show up in adulthood. In this video, I walk through 8 common signs that often show up later in life, including: chronic...

If you grew up feeling like you had to walk on eggshells, constantly prove your worth, or question your own reality—this may explain why. In this video, we break down 11 signs of a narcissistic parent or family dynamic, including projection, conditional love, emotional manipulation, and identity erasure. If several of these resonate, you are not imagining it—and you are not alone. This is the firs...

What if the patterns you’ve accepted… weren’t love— but something you learned to survive? This is Beloved. A space for healing, discernment, and truth. Beloved was never just about relationships. It’s for women who know something hasn’t felt right— even if they didn’t have the language for it. Women who have experienced: confusion instead of clarity intensity instead of safety and dynamics that fe...

I wanted to share a brief update with you. Over the last few days, I’ve felt led to pause the podcast for a short time, not because the work is finished or ending, but because I want to make space to listen, pray, and ensure that what comes next is God-led and not rushed or forced. I believe deeply in honouring seasons of listening just as much as seasons of speaking. Right now, I’m choosing to si...

Can we truly claim to love God if our hearts are consumed by anger or hatred toward our father or father figure? In this episode, you will gain: * clarity on the connection between loving God and handling father wounds * practical understanding of choosing love over hatred without compromising boundaries * insight into why healing matters for breaking generational cycles of brokenness * actionable...

What if the exhaustion you feel isn’t from doing too much — but from constantly being someone you’re not? In this episode, you’ll gain: * clarity on why father wounds often lead to people-pleasing * insight into why authenticity feels risky when safety was conditional * freedom from the belief that being liked equals being aligned * a biblical framework for choosing truth over approval * practical...

Have you noticed how many relationships today feel out of balance, where women are forced to lead, protect, or provide, while men shirk responsibility or cling to control? Could father wounds be at the heart of this pattern? In this episode, you’ll gain: * understanding of how father wounds affect both men and women * insight into how these wounds shape modern relationship dynamics * clarity on ho...

Have you ever accepted less than you deserved — not because you lacked ability, but because you didn’t fully see your own value? And later realised it wasn’t just about the job… it was about self-worth? WHAT THIS EPISODE WILL GIVE YOU In today’s episode, we’re talking about how father wounds and unhealed trauma can quietly shape the standards we accept — at work, in relationships, and in life. If...

Have you ever met someone who treated you well —consistent, kind, emotionally available —and your first thought was: “He’s nice… but something’s missing.” Or worse:“He’s boring.” What if “boring” isn’t the problem? What if it’s the first sign of safety? In this episode, you’ll understand: * why healthy relationships often feel dull after emotional chaos * how father wounds wire us to confuse inten...

You want a healthy relationship, right? But somehow… you keep dating the same man, same pain — just dressed differently. Today we’re talking about 4 key things you gain when you pause dating and how taking a break from dating might actually be the thing that helps you finally end up in the healthy relationship you’re longing for. The last time I was in a relationship, I was ranting to my therapist...

Who would you be — what would your life look like — if your father wound or childhood trauma never happened ?Or better yet: If you healed fully, what would the authentic version of you be doing right now? Because many of us do not realise this: Trauma can bury, silence, distort, or completely hide the truest version of who God created us to be. This episode is an invitation to imagine — and reclai...

What do you do when you can’t leave a difficult environment — but you also can’t bear to stay the same inside it? In the last episode, we talked about how to survive a challenging environment with a father or father figure when you cannot leave — how to operate like Daniel, how to serve wisely, and how not to compromise your values. But survival is only half of the journey. Because even when your...

How do you serve, survive, and maintain integrity when you’re in a situation with a father or father figure whose values or behaviours clash with yours — and you don’t have the freedom to leave? Some father-wound situations feel inescapable. You may be living with or near someone whose morals, decisions, or attitudes are in conflict with your own. Their actions may be controlling, manipulative, or...

What do you do when you’ve carried the weight of your pain alone for so long that the idea of finally speaking feels terrifying? Many of us have lived through seasons where silence wasn’t a choice — it was survival. Silence protected us. Silence kept the peace. Silence kept us from being punished, dismissed, or disbelieved. Silence allowed us to function in families where telling the truth meant b...

How do you heal honestly… when speaking the truth about your pain feels like betraying the parent who caused it? One of the silent battles so many of us may face is the tension between truth and honour , especially when the person who wounded us is also the person Scripture tells us to honour. For many people, talking about wounds from a father or father figure feels like crossing a sacred line —...

What do you do when the people around you simply cannot understand your pain — especially when it involves a parent — and their advice feels like salt in a wound? There are certain kinds of pain that only make sense to the ones who lived it. And sometimes the hardest part about healing isn’t the wound itself — it’s the way others respond to it. When someone hasn’t had a toxic or harmful parent, th...

How do you continue to serve, love, and show kindness to someone — especially a father or father figure — who hurt you deeply and possibly continues to do so now? without becoming bitter, resentful, or allowing yourself to be used? How do you keep your heart soft when everything in you wants to pull away, withhold kindness, or make them “feel” what they made you feel? When someone has wounded us d...

Have you ever felt angry at God for the family you were born into — for fathers or father figures who were supposed to reflect His love but instead hurt, abandoned, or wounded you? Father wounds can leave us questioning everything: Why was I born into this family? Why did God allow me to be hurt by the very people meant to reflect His love? It’s normal — even healthy — to feel anger, confusion, an...

How do you know when to speak up and when to stay quiet — especially with a father or father figure who has deeply hurt you? Healing from father wounds doesn’t always mean reconciliation — at least, not in the way we imagine. As we grow in awareness and truth, we often face a tension: the need to express our pain versus the need to protect our peace. Some of us have spoken up too soon and been met...

Have you ever noticed that as you begin to heal, the people closest to you sometimes seem to react in ways that reopen old wounds? What if it isn’t just about them — but about how the enemy tries to use their brokenness, and even yours, to pull you back into pain and division? When Brokenness Becomes a Battlefield When we begin healing, we often become more aware of the wounds in others — especial...

Have you ever stopped and wondered… am I unintentionally repeating the patterns of hurt I experienced from my father or father figure? Could it be that I’m now exhibiting some of the same behaviors that caused me pain?” Welcome—or welcome back—to Beloved for our 50th episode! I’m Cherise Rochelle, and I’m so glad you’re here. Today, we’re tackling something that can feel uncomfortable but is neces...

“What do you do when you see the same wounds you’ve been healing from — repeating in your family?” Maybe you’ve done the work. You’ve prayed, journaled, set boundaries, and started walking in your worth. But then — you look around — and you see your father, your brothers, your sisters, maybe even your nieces or nephews — trapped in the same emotional patterns you’ve been fighting to break. How do...

How do you keep your heart soft when you’re surrounded by people who refuse to change — especially when it’s your own father or family? How do you keep from hardening, resenting, or giving up when the cycle just keeps repeating?” Hello, and welcome back to Beloved! Today we’re talking about one of the hardest realities of healing: when the people who hurt you still haven’t changed. Sometimes that...