Bei’s Coffee Corner

I started with temporary positions, and it lasted for quite a few years. Now, I eventually got a permanent position. Rome is not built in a day.

It's hard to be yourself. But try to be comfortable with yourself. What other people think about you might have some sort of impact, but eventually it's you deciding whether you want to like yourself or not.

Life is full of ups and downs. 

No matter where you are, there are always difficult people. How do you deal with them?

Some updates

How do you feel about failures? Do you feel jealous of someone?

Have you ever got mad because of rule breakers? Have you ever had a moment that everything was good until there is a bad one?

Are you a lurker? Do you think being able to get pregnant is actually a biological disadvantage for women?

The Dropout. Inventing Anna. Tinder Swinderly. It seems like there is a trend about con artists. Which one is your favourite?

I think it might be because of how I grew up. It could also be my personality. But I cringe when receiving compliments. Just don't know how to react. 

I've been obsessed with writing lately. So I decided to take a writing course (that I actually paid for). I've been loving it and wish I did this a lot earlier.  I'm still on the Psychology of Monday. Read this part about planning with margin of errors. Finally found out why I had anxiety when doing my previous job. 

Sometimes, I just wonder, why do women have to give up a lot of things to succeed in a professional arena? Why?

Casually chat about how I have been feeling about constantly learning the language and the job.

Blaming others for something I don't like is way easier than taking my own responsibility to make it the way I like. That's why I tended to think that it's other people's fault that I didn't get what I wanted... 

Have you ever been afraid of making mistakes? Have you ever been affected by how you grew up?

I listened to Dare to Lead about the episode of Regret. Here is the quote: “Over time, people regret what they didn't do than what they did do. Regrets of inaction are far more common than regrets of action." -- Dan Pink What kind of regret do you have? How would reflection help?

This episode, I brought my best friend Alysha in to share some of her thoughts about friendship. 

Comparison happens all the time. And sometimes it's not out of your own choice. But when comparing, tell yourself that everyone's life and experience are shaped differently. What they have achieved is based on their life, experience, education and so on. These are the things that you might not have. We haven't achieved what other people have achieved not because they are smarter than we are, just...

We tend to be really harsh on ourselves when learning new things. We want to master it right away without realizing that no one can really achieve it. Then, we start to doubt our own ability and think we are really terrible. When I pointed this out to my student, she burst into tears.

I kinda figured out that I don't hate holidays. I just hate celebrating. I like days off, but don't like that I HAVE TO do festive things to show my participation. 

Sometimes you can do everything right and things will still go wrong. The key is to never stop doing right. -- The Hate U Give

Is there ever a moment that you feel happy about somethings's suffering? Brene Brown has given a different explanation to this concept.

Sometimes you start a book and thought you'd finish it soon, and then you never finish it... This is my goal in 2022. I am going to finish the books I have started but never finished.

In 2022, it's time to be smarter and more responsible for my adult life. Start from saving money and see how far it'd go.

My 2021 was full of nothing. Nothing really changed. Nothing exciting. But I have learned a lot in 2021. I started my therapy to learn my emotions and feelings. I started to say no to things and people that I don't feel uncomfortable with. I started to have followers who share a lot in common. Life continues and things will get better.