Before You Do with Verlyn

Most marriages die not from a lack of love, but from neglecting the marathon's unspoken rules. What if the secret to lasting love isn’t just about romance, but preparation for the unexpected? Kyle Colavitti, a seasoned storyteller and speaker, reveals the essential questions every person should ask before saying "I do" — and how these choices can make or break a lifelong partnership....

Most women and parents overlook thesilent crisis impacting our community’s future: our marriage rates are plummeting, and it's shaping a generation that’s disconnected from the importance of family. Why are so many of our daughters influenced by a narrative that undervalues marriage — and how can we change that perspective before it’s too late? In this eye-opening episode, Verlyn Tarlton, a se...

Our culture has lost sight of the power of shame — and the consequences are clear. In this provocative episode of Before You Do w/Verlyn, Coach Verlyn makes a compelling case for bringing shame back, not as guilt, but as a vital force to restore dignity, virtue, and community values. Growing up in Washington DC, Verlyn recalls a time when shame was a social glue—when adults cared about how they we...

Most women miss the secret to truly empowering their relationships — and it’s all wrapped up in a misunderstood word: submission. What if understanding this simple concept could unlock the peace, protection, and partnership you've been craving? Verlyn Tarlton, your favorite premarital coach and Auntie who’s seen the transformational power of truecooperation, dives deep into how submission isn’...

Most people overlook the real test of a relationship — how your partner responds when life doesn’t go according to plan. In this eye-opening episode, Verlyn Tarlton shares profoundinsights from her personal health challenge, revealing what truly defines a partner’s character beyond the honeymoon phase. Discover why the foundation of lasting love isn’t just about chemistry or shared interests but a...

Unlock the truth about submission that could transform your marriage or relationships today. Why do so many women struggle with the concept, and what do you really need to know to navigate it successfully? If you've ever felt confused, overwhelmed, or evenresistant to the idea of submitting to a husband or authority figure, this episode will challenge your perspective and equip you with practi...

Most women underestimate the profound impact their habits and mindset have on attracting and sustaining a healthy marriage. Viair Myles shares empowering, practical strategies that transform your focus from self-improvement to becoming the partner your spouse—and you—deserve. In this eye-opening episode, discover how your emotional maturity, appearance, and daily routines directly influence your r...

In this episode of "Before You Do w/Verlyn," Verlyn is joined by Dean and Tiffany Parker to explore the multifaceted nature of marriage. They discuss how treating marriage as purely romantic overlooks its biological and economic intentions. The conversation delves into the importance of intentional decision-making in relationships, the role of community in supporting marriages, and how these eleme...

In this conversation, Coach Verlyn Tarlton and Dr. Joyice Robinson Myers discuss the critical importance of understanding boundaries and access in marriage. Theyexplore how managing access before marriage can prevent issues later on, emphasizing the difference between social and emotional misuse. The discussion highlights the dynamics of attraction, the significance of awareness in relationships,...

In this episode of "Before You Do w/Verlyn," Verlyn Tarlton delves into the realities of marriage beyond the wedding day. Celebrating 19 years of marriage, Verlyn shares insights on the effort, patience, and intention required to build a lasting partnership. She challenges the fairy tale mindset, emphasizing the importance of problem-solving, emotional maturity, and mutual support in a m...

In this episode, Verlyn Tarlton delves into the real agenda behind media narratives, exploring the dynamics of gender wars and societal perceptions. She shares her insights onhow media influence shapes public opinion and the importance of accountability and positivity in addressing these issues. Verlyn draws from her personal experiences to highlight the need for a more balanced and truthful narra...

In this conversation, Verlyn Tarlton shares her insights on love, relationships, and self-improvement. She reflectson a recent concert experience that highlighted the beauty of love in the city and emphasizes the importance of maintaining a positive mindset. Verlyn encourages listeners to work on their appearance and attitude to attract love, while also stressing the significance of healing from p...

Do you have the proper support you need? Does your world revolve around your spouse? In this enlightening conversation, Verlyn Tarlton and Lisa Chin explore the complexities of marriage, emphasizing that it involves more than just two individuals. They discuss the importance of understanding relationship dynamics, the empowerment of partners in parenting, and the necessity ofcommunity support. The...

In this insightful episode of "Before You Do w/Verlyn," host Verlyn Tarlton delves into the complexities of blended families and the crucial role of setting boundaries with ex-partners. Discover why it's essential for the current partner to address issues with the ex, and how establishing clear boundaries can lead to a harmonious family life. Verlyn shares personal experiences and pr...

In this engaging episode of "Before You Do with Verlyn," host Verlyn Tarlton welcomes back her favorite couple, Byron and Margaret McKie, to discuss the intricacies of relationships and marriage. They delve into the challenges of modern dating, the importance of self-healing, and the evolving dynamics of partnership. With candid insights and personal anecdotes, the McKie's share thei...

In this thought-provoking episode of "Before You Do with Verlyn," host Verlyn Tarlton and guest Amani Jackson dive deep into the concept of "high value" in relationships. They explore the subjective nature of value, challenging superficial standards and emphasizing the importance of character, integrity, and emotional intelligence, while challenging societal norms and encouragi...

In this insightful episode of "Before You Do with Verlyn," host Verlyn Tarlton welcomes Jatoyia Armour to discuss the profound journey of self-discovery within marriage. Jatoyia shares her personal experiences on how marriagerevealed her strengths and the importance of nurturing oneself alongside the relationship. The conversation delves into the balance between love and self-awareness,...

Join host Verlyn Tarlton in this engaging episode of "Before You Do" as she explores the essence of femininity and the importance of embracing the qualities that define being a lady. Through personal stories and cultural insights, Verlyn discusses how societal changes have influenced women's roles and the value of maintaining dignity, class, and softness. Discover the power of femini...

In this candid conversation on the Before You Do with Verlyn podcast, Gerald Davis shares his insights on the modern dating landscape, particularly focusing on the challenges posed by social media and the pre-application process that many face in dating today. He discusses how these factors contribute to a jaded perspective among individuals navigating relationships. He shares advice about dating,...

Do you believe your man should think like you? Are you surprised when he doesn't act like you? The conversation explores the dynamics of communication in marriage, focusing on gender differences in problem-solving approaches, the importance of emotional support, and strategies for effective conflict resolution. Verlyn Tarlton shares personal experiences and insights on how couples can navigate...

In this episode of "Before You Do with Verlyn," host Verlyn Tarlton delves into the complexities and insights of polygyny with guests Iyyob and Rebkah Yahudah. They explore the purpose and vision behind polygyny, addressing common misconceptions and emphasizing the importance of integrity, unity, and community building. Join the conversation as they share personal experiences and perspec...

Join Verlyn, your favorite pre-marital coach, as she discusses how to stop debating with men using the art of effective listening and conflict resolution in relationships. Verlyn shares personal experiences and practical insights on how to bridge the communication gap, manage conflict, and understanding between couples. Discover the power of listening, the importance of empathy, and how to transfo...

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In this heartfelt episode of the "Before You Do with Verlyn" podcast, host Verlyn Tarlton welcomes Jocelyn McClure to explore the profound role of forgiveness in marriage. Jocelyn shares personal insights and practical advice on how to navigate offenses, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and communication. Tune in to discover how talking to each other with love and understand...

In this episode of the "Before You Do" podcast, host Verlyn Tarlton delves into the essential topic of how to treat a man, emphasizing that the journey begins long before marriage. Verlyn shares personal insights and experiences, highlighting the importance of mindset and the role of community wisdom from "big mamas" and aunties. Tune in to explore the dynamics of respect, unde...