Before it Breaks with Gabriella Pomare

How do you know if your relationship is going through a hard season — or if you’ve simply stayed too long? In Season 3, Episode 4 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare explores one of the hardest questions people ask themselves inside a struggling relationship: should I stay or should I leave? We hear a lot about people giving up too quickly. About commitment. About doing the work. But there is an...

What actually makes two people stay together — not just remain married, but continue to choose each other? After asking “Are we leaving relationships too soon?” in Episode 2, Gabriella sits down with author, podcaster and media personality Zoe Marshall for a candid conversation about the other side of that question: what allows a relationship to survive the ordinary, unglamorous pressures of a lon...

Sometimes a relationship ends with a clear moment. An affair. A message. A fight. Somebody walking out. But sometimes there is no single moment at all. Two people slowly stop being a couple, and by the time one person finally says, “I don't think I want to do this anymore,” the other is left wondering when the relationship actually ended. In Episode 2 of Season 3 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pom...

When does a close friendship cross the line into an emotional affair? In the Season 3 premiere of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare returns to the hot seat to explore what happens before the affair — the silence that replaces honesty, the emotional distance that grows unnoticed, the colleague or friend who suddenly makes you feel seen again, and the secrecy that can turn an apparently innocent co...

S2 E10: Before We Stop Celebrating Each Other: Love, Beauty and Ritual with Kristina Fitzpatrick In the Season 2 finale of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare speaks with Kristina Fitzpatrick of Paper and Flowers about love, beauty, family rituals, small gestures, celebration, perfectionism, creativity and what happens when people stop making moments meaningful. What if beauty is not frivolous, but...

What if food is one of the oldest ways we say, “I love you”? In this episode of  Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare speaks with Diana Manalang, chef and owner behind Little Chef Little Kitchen and Little Chef Little Cafe in Long Island City, for a beautiful conversation about food, family, culture, relationships, community, hospitality and the quiet labour of care. This episode is about food, but...

What happens when a relationship does not break from one dramatic moment, but from all the conversations that never happen? In this episode of  Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare speaks with Dr Sabrina Romanoff, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist based in New York City, about emotional affairs, silence, guilt, avoidance, resentment, attachment, rebuilding trust and the psychology of what cou...

What if the thing you have been calling failure is actually the first honest moment? In this episode of  Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare sits down with Lola Berry — Australian author, podcaster, actor, nutritionist and host of  Fearlessly Failing  — for a warm, honest and deeply human conversation about failure, reinvention, relationships, self-trust, ambition, wellness, therapy, creativity an...

In this episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare speaks with Erica Komisar about children, parenting, marriage, emotional safety and the invisible ways children absorb the relationship between their parents. This conversation explores a powerful idea: children do not live outside the relationship between their parents. They live inside it. They feel the tone. They feel the distance. They feel...

S2 E5: Before the Stories Disappear: Food, Family, Memory and the Rituals That Hold Us Together with Rossella Rago What do families lose when they stop gathering? In this episode of  Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare sits down with Rossella Rago, the creator and host of  Cooking with Nonna , author, entrepreneur and culinary storyteller, for a beautiful conversation about food, family, memory, c...

In this episode of Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare sits down with lifestyle expert, television host, media personality and author Valerie Greenberg for an honest conversation about validation, confidence, self-worth and meaningful connection. We all want to feel seen, loved, desired and understood. But when the need for external validation becomes stronger than our trust in ourselves, relation...

Are you really “too much”—or have you simply been asking the wrong people to meet you where you are? In Season 2, Episode 3 of  Before It Breaks , Gabriella Pomare sits down with  Emma Klipstein , creator and host of the  Too Much podcast , for an honest, funny and unfiltered conversation about modern dating, situationships, relationship red flags, breakups, self-trust and why so many women are ex...

What happens when the life you thought you were living suddenly breaks open? In this deeply personal episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with The Real Housewives of New Jersey star, New York Times bestselling author and mother of four, Teresa Giudice, for an honest conversation about the woman behind the headlines. Teresa opens up about divorce, motherhood, grief, public judgme...

What if your relationship does not actually have a communication problem? What if the real problem is that both of you are exhausted, overloaded, defensive, disconnected and living in survival mode? In the first episode of Season 2 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with New York City clinical psychologist, speaker, consultant and author of When Life Happens, Dr Rachel Goldman, for a...

In Episode 10 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella shifts the conversation away from the red flags we are constantly told to look for, and asks a different question: what about the green flags we miss before a relationship breaks? In a culture obsessed with relationship red flags, warning signs, toxic patterns and reasons to leave, it can become easy to focus only on what is wrong...

The advice, comparison and commentary we are letting into our private lives. In this episode of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores how social media, TikTok relationship advice, Facebook groups, the group chat, AI-generated messages and curated online lives are quietly changing the way we see our relationships. We live in a time where our most private relationships are con...

Staying for the Kids: Is It Really Best for Children? In this raw and honest episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare explores one of the most difficult and controversial questions in family life: should parents stay together for the kids? Many parents tell themselves they are protecting their children by staying in an unhappy relationship. But what if the children are already living inside t...

What happens when the third person in your relationship is not an affair partner, but an ex who never really left? In Episode 7 of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores the complicated emotional space between past relationships and present love. This episode is not just about co-parenting. It is about old flames, exes, former partners, workplace relationships, family friends...

What if the relationship did not end because of the affair, but because of everything that happened before anyone admitted it? In this raw and provocative episode of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella opens the modern relationship inbox and explores the private messages, blurred boundaries, deleted chats, work friendships, gym connections, after-work drinks, travel moments and emo...

Everyone tells you that having a baby will change your life. Very few people tell you it may change your marriage. In Episode 5 of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores what really happens to modern relationships after children, when love can quietly become logistics and the couple who once had time, spontaneity and intimacy becomes two exhausted people managing nappies, day...

Ambition, absence, emotional disconnection and the modern marriage trying to survive work. Not every relationship breaks because of another person.   In Episode 4 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare, Gabriella explores what happens when work becomes more than work, when it starts sitting at the dinner table, sleeping in the bed, coming on the holiday, interrupting the conversation and quietl...

In Episode 3 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare, Gabriella explores emotional affairs, work wife and work husband dynamics, DMs, phone secrecy, deleted messages and the quiet relationship shift that can happen before a physical affair. This episode looks at why emotional betrayal can feel so devastating, how secrecy and denial break trust, and why “nothing happened” can still hurt when emot...

Is space saving your relationship, or is it softly ending it? In Episode 2 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores one of the most modern relationship questions facing couples today: what does it mean when people are still together, still committed, still sharing a life, but quietly creating more space inside the relationship? This episode looks at the couples who live apart...

Episode 1: Before It Breaks   Most relationships do not break the day someone leaves.   They break much earlier, in what people now call the quiet quitting marriage, the silent divorce, the slow emotional disconnection that happens while the house still runs, the children are still cared for, the calendar is still full, and everyone on the outside still thinks the family is fine.   In the first fu...

Episode 0: A Note Before We Begin Before the first full season begins, Gabriella Pomare opens the door to  Before It Breaks , a raw and honest podcast about  marriage, motherhood, divorce, separation, co-parenting, emotional load, mental load and what really happens before a family changes shape . In this introductory episode, Gabriella shares why she created the podcast, what listeners can expect...