Before it Breaks with Gabriella Pomare

What if your relationship does not actually have a communication problem? What if the real problem is that both of you are exhausted, overloaded, defensive, disconnected and living in survival mode? In the first episode of Season 2 of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with New York City clinical psychologist, speaker, consultant and author of When Life Happens, Dr Rachel Goldman, for a...

In Episode 10 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella shifts the conversation away from the red flags we are constantly told to look for, and asks a different question: what about the green flags we miss before a relationship breaks? In a culture obsessed with relationship red flags, warning signs, toxic patterns and reasons to leave, it can become easy to focus only on what is wrong...

The advice, comparison and commentary we are letting into our private lives. In this episode of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores how social media, TikTok relationship advice, Facebook groups, the group chat, AI-generated messages and curated online lives are quietly changing the way we see our relationships. We live in a time where our most private relationships are con...

Staying for the Kids: Is It Really Best for Children? In this raw and honest episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare explores one of the most difficult and controversial questions in family life: should parents stay together for the kids? Many parents tell themselves they are protecting their children by staying in an unhappy relationship. But what if the children are already living inside t...

What happens when the third person in your relationship is not an affair partner, but an ex who never really left? In Episode 7 of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores the complicated emotional space between past relationships and present love. This episode is not just about co-parenting. It is about old flames, exes, former partners, workplace relationships, family friends...

What if the relationship did not end because of the affair, but because of everything that happened before anyone admitted it? In this raw and provocative episode of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella opens the modern relationship inbox and explores the private messages, blurred boundaries, deleted chats, work friendships, gym connections, after-work drinks, travel moments and emo...

Everyone tells you that having a baby will change your life. Very few people tell you it may change your marriage. In Episode 5 of  Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores what really happens to modern relationships after children, when love can quietly become logistics and the couple who once had time, spontaneity and intimacy becomes two exhausted people managing nappies, day...

Ambition, absence, emotional disconnection and the modern marriage trying to survive work. Not every relationship breaks because of another person.   In Episode 4 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare, Gabriella explores what happens when work becomes more than work, when it starts sitting at the dinner table, sleeping in the bed, coming on the holiday, interrupting the conversation and quietl...

In Episode 3 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare, Gabriella explores emotional affairs, work wife and work husband dynamics, DMs, phone secrecy, deleted messages and the quiet relationship shift that can happen before a physical affair. This episode looks at why emotional betrayal can feel so devastating, how secrecy and denial break trust, and why “nothing happened” can still hurt when emot...

Is space saving your relationship, or is it softly ending it? In Episode 2 of Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare , Gabriella explores one of the most modern relationship questions facing couples today: what does it mean when people are still together, still committed, still sharing a life, but quietly creating more space inside the relationship? This episode looks at the couples who live apart...

Episode 1: Before It Breaks   Most relationships do not break the day someone leaves.   They break much earlier, in what people now call the quiet quitting marriage, the silent divorce, the slow emotional disconnection that happens while the house still runs, the children are still cared for, the calendar is still full, and everyone on the outside still thinks the family is fine.   In the first fu...

Episode 0: A Note Before We Begin Before the first full season begins, Gabriella Pomare opens the door to  Before It Breaks , a raw and honest podcast about  marriage, motherhood, divorce, separation, co-parenting, emotional load, mental load and what really happens before a family changes shape . In this introductory episode, Gabriella shares why she created the podcast, what listeners can expect...