Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction

You’re reading Towards Embodied Living — a Substack exploring what becomes possible when we stop abandoning ourselves in order to live, lead and create. So, I did a thing. Says almost every woman sheepishly as she announces something she’s done, is doing or has done with nervous trepidation. My thing was that I registered on a dating app. If anyone had told me even a few months ago that I would ha...

You’re reading Towards Embodied Living — a Substack exploring what becomes possible when we stop abandoning ourselves in order to live, lead and create. What happens when the things you’ve spent years nurturing no longer need you in the same way? In this episode, I speak with Ana Flores , founder, writer, community builder, and Substack host of Done With the Hustle and Her Wisdom Era. Ana shares h...

You’re reading Towards Embodied Living — a Substack exploring what becomes possible when we stop abandoning ourselves in order to live, lead and create. What does spirituality look like when your life is actually happening — when there are children, noise, cities, and real stakes? In this episode, I speak with Jennifer Cerero , creator of The Spiritual Lounge , about practical, embodied spirituali...

What comes through when the mind finds nothing to do but notice? A poem noticing connectivity with voice-over. For the original post, visit: https://florenceukpabiokwusogu.substack.com/p/and-you-poem-noticing-connectivity A bit about me... Hi, I’m Florence. Mother, writer, voice and visibility midwife, and Embodied Experience Designer for women returning to themselves and their creative expression...

Back in February, I had the pleasure of interviewing business coach and author Marisa Guthrie for the first episode of Season Two of The Awakening Woman Podcast . Marisa describes herself as a “reluctant capitalist” — someone who recognises the realities of the economic systems we live within while also questioning the extractive values they often promote. Her work explores the complex relationshi...

The Rising of the Creatrix — the final episode of The Awakening Woman: Ready to Thrive. After seven episodes of truth-telling and system-calling, we arrive here: the moment of rising. This isn’t about self-care tweaks or better boundaries for the same broken arena. It’s about walking out of the arena altogether and birthing something new — success on your terms, rooted in truth, frequency, and sou...

What if success wasn’t something to chase — something you were never meant to inherit? In this raw, revelatory episode, I share the truth behind what it really means to awaken and succeed as a Black woman in systems never built for us. This is my most personal transmission yet — a reflection shaped by my recent fall, my daughter’s terrified eyes, and the deeper fire that has been rising in me ever...

What if joy wasn’t a luxury — but a lifeline? In this soul-nourishing episode, I’m joined by intuitive coach, speaker, and joy weaver AJ Smit, whose vibrant presence and lived wisdom light up every corner of this conversation. Together, we explore what it really means to awaken — not just spiritually, but viscerally, relationally, and creatively. We talk about: ✨ How joy becomes a sacred signal o...

What if midlife wasn’t a crisis — but a calling? In this heart-opening episode, I’m joined by educator, speaker, and midlife mentor Denise Drinkwalter , who brings over 30 years of lived and professional wisdom to the conversation. Together, we explore what it means to stop waiting for permission and finally choose yourself — not just in theory, but in practice. We talk about: Why women feel rage...

What does it mean to awaken — not just spiritually, but politically, emotionally, and bodily? In this bold and unfiltered conversation, I sit down with Rachel and Nasreen, the co-creators of Women Are the Medicine , to explore what happens when women begin to listen to the wisdom of their bodies and refuse to keep playing by the rules of systems that were never made for us. Together, we talk about...

What happens when a woman finally steps across the threshold of self-abandonment… and chooses herself? In this rich and resonant conversation, I’m joined by writer, healing coach, and creative force Marcy Neumann — who brings more than 50 years of hard-won wisdom to the table. Together, we explore what it truly means to cross the sacred threshold into self-love, especially after years (or decades)...

What does it mean to be an Awakening Woman? Beyond spiritual performance and self-optimisation — a return to truth, wholeness, and embodied power. In this episode, Florence unpacks the dominant definitions of “awakening” in both spiritual and personal development spaces — and offers a powerful alternative: awakening as embodiment, not escape. Through tender truth-telling and fierce clarity, she in...

In this opening episode of The Awakening Woman: Ready to Thrive , Florence Ukpabi invites you into the sacred space between burnout and rebirth — the threshold. This isn’t just another self-help show; it’s a call to remember your truth, reclaim your rhythm, and begin again. We explore: Why burnout isn’t failure — it’s a sacred signal How systems of performance and extraction disconnect us from our...

Welcome, welcome to the final episode of Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction. Now that I’m into the third year of sharing my deconstruction and deconditioning journey here, I thought that going back and revisiting the idea of faith and how my understanding of faith has shifted and changed would be a nice way to bring things to a close. I actually started drafting my thoughts for this episode back i...

Welcome back to another episode of "Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction" . In this episode, I had a conversation with Laura Lewis, a Substack writer, author, and creator of " The Whole Woman Oracle Deck and Guidebook " on embodiment. This is a topic that I feel very strongly about. Even though working somatically is becoming more popular, it doesn't necessarily equate to what embodiment is. Laura a...

Welcome back to Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction and a deep, reflective, and empowering conversation with my episode guest Ronna Detrick. After leaving a faith she had grown up with and a 20-year marriage to a pastor she took with her the stories of women yearning to be seen, heard, and honoured apart from doctrine and dogma. Ronna's journey is a testament to the courage required to step away fr...

Welcome back to another episode of Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction. A few months back, I was invited to share my experience of deconstructing Christianity as a Black British Woman. Though the post was never published, I have been wanting to share it as a podcast episode so here it is. Please note that I talk about some topics that may be difficult or triggering such as inherent racism, slavery...

Answering some of life’s biggest questions for yourself is a big part of the work of Becoming YOU beyond Deconstruction. It’s about rediscovering what you truly believe and think, who you really are beyond the conditioning and norms that you previously accepted. Join me in today’s episode as I explore probably one of the biggest questions we can ask ourselves - why am I/you/we here on this planet?...

It’s been a while since my last podcast episode and one of the reasons why, which I also wrote about previously is the realisation that I need more space around this journey of Becoming . Life can be unpredictable and challenging, and on top of that when you are doing the healing work of returning to authenticity, old wounds and unanswered questions resurface along the way all requiring gentleness...

Today I am sharing a beautifully organic and rich conversation I recorded with my dear friend Joanna Oliver last year. I didn’t think it would make it because the recording quality was so bad (I’ve learnt my lesson) even the professional that I reached out to couldn’t help me but I think I’ve done a good job of cleaning it up over the last couple of days. The focus of this conversation is on Ident...

Welcome to another episode of Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction. Today’s episode is a bit different, instead of me interviewing a guest, I’m sharing an episode where I was the guest being interviewed on the podcast God, Sex and Sangria by Lurie Kimmerle. If I was to say this podcast episode is about “money mindset” , I would be doing it an injustice, in this episode, Lurie and I openly talk about...

Welcome to the first episode of Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction for 2023! To kick us off, I think it’s really fitting that I talk about the topic of letting go of the blaming, shaming and guilting of ourselves and others as we do this deconstruction and deconditioning thing! So, in this solo episode, I share a powerful shift of focus that has enabled me to let go of hidden aspects of victimhood...

Welcome back to Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction. For the last episode of The Becoming Series, I talk about my “initiation” for want of a better word, into the sacred feminine . I pretty much know that it’s a buzzword now within the spirituality space but that definitely wasn’t my story and how it was being revealed to me as a churched Christian at the time, still struggling with my health. I ha...

In this episode of BYBD, we go back for the second to last time to The Becoming Series where I interview speaker, writer, and philosopher Alex Verville. Through sharing his deconstruction and deconditioning journey, Alex reminds us of the powerful role that the people in our lives play in shaping and moulding our faith, beliefs and life path. Many people remain stuck in a faith or belief system no...

Welcome to another episode of Becoming YOU Beyond Deconstruction. Today we go back to The Becoming Series and speak with Spiritual Teacher and co-host of the Podcast God, Sex and Sangria Lurie Kimmerle. Lurie helps women untangle the bind of God, Men, and Money that keeps them stuck and disempowered through reconnecting to the Erotic and Holy Desire. Lurie openly shares the challenges she has face...