Becoming You Again

Imagine finding a secret perk to divorce that transforms everything about how you see yourself, your life, and your future. That's exactly what this episode uncovers – the extraordinary gift that divorce offers women: the ability to have the best of both worlds. Most divorced women struggle with guilt for focusing on themselves, feeling trapped between societal expectations of motherhood and...

The darkness of divorce creates the space for our rebirth as we learn to reject society's harmful narratives and embrace our authentic transformation. Darkness gets a bad rep, especially during divorce, but what if it's actually the birthplace of transformation? Drawing inspiration from Lyz Lenz's book "This American Ex-Wife," in this episode of Becoming You Again, I’ll ex...

Grief is an inevitable part of divorce, but the shame and judgment that often accompany it? Those are completely optional. In this episode, I explore why so many of us pile unnecessary suffering onto our natural grief during divorce—whether it's shame about past behaviors, feeling we weren't "enough," or guilt about hurting others, especially our children.   Drawing on the Budd...

Divorce creates the perfect breeding ground for resentment - that heavy, persistent feeling that can linger for years after your marriage ends. But what if you could finally set down that emotional burden?   This episode dives deep into understanding what really fuels your post-divorce resentment. Through practical exercises and thoughtful guidance, you'll learn to identify the specific ways...

Divorce guilt is one of the heaviest burdens mothers carry, particularly when it comes to our children. We're bombarded with messages about "staying together for the kids," research on divorce's negative impacts, and cultural narratives that paint divorced families as inherently damaged. But what if we've been looking at this all wrong?   In this episode, I challenge the n...

Struggling to feel grounded after your divorce? The path forward begins with something surprisingly simple: being present.   When we're caught in the cycle of regret about the past or anxiety about the future, genuine healing remains out of reach. In this episode I’ll share a powerful yet straightforward technique that can transform how you navigate post-divorce emotions. The 5-4-3-2-1 ground...

What happens when the future you've always planned for suddenly disappears? After divorce, many women find themselves trapped in a pit of despair, believing their chance at happiness vanished along with their marriage. But what if this challenging transition actually offers an unexpected gift – the freedom to design a future that truly resonates with who you are?   In this episode I’ll explor...

When the emotional waves of divorce hit unexpectedly, leaving you wondering if you've somehow failed at healing, know this: you're experiencing grief in its most natural form. Grief during divorce isn't a linear journey with neat stages and timelines—it's an unpredictable rollercoaster that can send you soaring one day and plummeting the next.   The profound disconnect between...

Have you ever noticed how society teaches women to shrink, stay small, and remain quiet? From childhood, we're conditioned to take up less space physically and emotionally, to soften our opinions, and to prioritize everyone else's comfort above our own. After divorce, this pattern often intensifies as uncertainty looms large.   But what if divorce actually offers something revolutionary?...

Communication patterns can make or break relationships, and understanding the destructive "Four Horsemen" identified by relationship expert John Gottman can help you build healthier connections after divorce. Being able to recognize these patterns in yourself gives you the power to change your communication style for all future relationships.   Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and sto...

We've all been there—those moments during divorce when our minds spiral with thoughts that feel absolutely true: "I wasn't good enough," "I've ruined my children's lives," or "I'll never recover from this." But what if these certainties are simply stories your brain has constructed, not objective facts?    In this episode, I reveal how the tho...

Ever notice how fear seems to drive every decision during divorce? That gnawing feeling in your stomach that whispers you're ruining everything—your future, your children's lives, your finances—even when you know leaving is the right choice. This invisible force keeps you frozen, making decisions from a place of survival rather than authentic wisdom.   What if there was another way? What...

The power to feel emotionally safe, even when life feels uncertain, might be the greatest gift you can give yourself after divorce. But our brains make this challenging in ways you might not realize.    Have you ever wondered why leaving an unhappy marriage feels so terrifying, even when you know it's the right choice? The answer lies in how your brain processes certainty versus uncertainty....

Feeling powerless in your divorce? That's exactly when you need this simple yet profound somatic practice for reclaiming ownership of your body and presence.    During the most challenging times of divorce, we often feel like everything's spiraling beyond our control – legal proceedings, relationship dynamics, and major life transitions can leave us disconnected from our own sense of age...

"When will my life feel normal again after divorce?" It's a question that haunts many of us during this profound transition. The discomfort of changed routines, financial shifts, and parenting adjustments feels deeply unsettling. But there's a fascinating biological reason behind this distress.   Your brain's primitive amygdala interprets these changes as potential threats...

Divorce throws your emotions into overdrive, with stress levels soaring as you navigate uncertainty and major life changes. But what if one powerful stress-reduction technique isn't about better coping mechanisms, but rather dismantling a fundamental belief most women carry?   The distinction between being "nice" and being "kind" holds transformative power for women going...

Most women going through divorce don't realize they've been living in codependent relationships, desperately seeking external validation rather than trusting their inherent worth. In this transformative episode, I introduce you to a powerful reframing of codependence as "emotional outsourcing" as coined by Beatriz Victoria Albina - the habit of chronically seeking our sense of...

Exhausted by trying to check "self-care" off your already overwhelming to-do list? You're not alone. In this episode of Becoming You Again, I’ll dive deep into the distinction between what most of us have been sold as ‘self-care’ and what actually nurtures our wholeness after divorce.   Join me as I break down why these surface-level approaches are merely "pretend self-care&quo...

Anger is perhaps the most misunderstood emotion in a woman's divorce journey. While society readily accepts men's anger, women are often told to push it down, stay calm, or avoid this powerful emotion altogether. This harmful double standard creates an additional barrier to healing that we need to address head-on.    In this empowering episode, I break down exactly what anger is from a n...

Today, I’m introducing you to "Morning Pages," a transformative practice developed by Julia Cameron in "The Artist's Way." This simple yet profound exercise helps you tap into mental and emotional honesty. When navigating divorce, we often tell ourselves we shouldn't feel certain emotions or we pretend they don't exist. Morning Pages creates a private space to ac...

Divorce can be a profound emotional upheaval, bringing along a whirlwind of grief that often is ignored. In this episode the conversation will navigates through the unique ways grief can manifest in the context of divorce, tackling societal pressures that often lead to minimizing one’s emotions.   As you listen, discover actionable steps for creating space to grieve and heal. By embracing the mess...

Feeling stuck in the whirlwind of divorce and its aftermath? Learn how to reclaim your power and find alignment between your mind, body, and intuition. In this episode of "Becoming You Again," you will learn the four-step process of divorce recovery.  Understand how misalignment can lead to indecision and helplessness, and discover practical tools that will help you regain control of you...

Feeling trapped in a cycle of financial anxiety and scarcity? Discover how you can break free after divorce. In this episode I share my personal journey from a limiting belief system about money during my marriage to embracing a mindset of abundance and financial empowerment.  I open up about the struggles of constantly feeling like I couldn't afford anything and how I was inspired to challen...

What would it feel like to let go of trying to control everyone around you, and instead shift your focus on what is actually within your control. This episode is a journey into liberating ourselves from the emotional burden of others' behaviors by insights from Mel Robbins' compelling book, "The Let Them Theory." Discover how Robbins' straightforward and scientifically-bac...

What if embracing your emotions during a divorce could be the key to finding independence and fulfillment? Join me, Karen Nelson, as we explore this transformative idea in "Becoming You Again." Society often tells us to hide hard emotions, like anger, fear, and sadness. But the most effective way to heal from your divorce is to create a safe space to process these emotions fully and deve...