Becoming One

If you’ve ever wondered if it’s finally time to walk away from your marriage, or if there’s still hope to rebuild, this video is for you. Most people think the answer lies in their partner... But the truth is, there’s one key step you need to take BEFORE you can make that decision with peace and clarity. Live Upcoming Virtual Workshop October 6th-8th: In Sync & In Love - How to Create a Thrivi...

If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting for your partner to finally change so you can feel peace, this video is for you! After 25 years of coaching couples, I’ll show you why waiting never works and what you can do instead to take back your peace and power in love—starting today. Live Upcoming Virtual Workshop: In Sync & In Love - How to Create a Thriving Marriage Amidst Life's Never Ending To-...

If you want a happier & healthier marriage, but don't have a clue where to start... Then this episode is for you. I walk through 10 powerful questions to ask yourself to help you become a better partner. Because here's the unpopular truth... real change won't come from fixing your partner—it’ll come from one (or both) of you, stepping up & BECOMING the partner you wish you h...

If you've ever wondered why you're losing interest in your partner, If you don't  have the same feelings/feel the love and attraction like you used to, this episode is for you!  Free Marriage Training: 3 Secrets to Resolve Conflict & Create Your Dream Marriage https://www.matttownsend.com/3secretsoptinbosm Learn more about Becoming One: https://www.matttownsend.com/becomingone I...

If you only ever listen to one more podcast on relationships, let it be this one.  This 6 minute episode contains what I believe to be the most transformative piece of relationship advice possible. After 25 years, meeting with 5000+ couples face to face. This, if lived consistently, will result in the biggest positive change possible in your relationship.  Learn more about Becoming One: https://ww...

Toxic communication doesn’t just hurt your relationship—it teaches your kids how love is supposed to sound. Every argument, shutdown, or harsh word becomes part of the script they’ll carry into their own relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize the communication patterns that damage trust, connection, and emotional safety—and how to change them before they get passed down. Tra...

In this episode, I’ll unpack why so many men can "turn it on" in public but, seemingly shut down at home, especially with the person they love most. We'll talk about emotional fatigue, unspoken expectations, and what’s really going on under the surface—and more importantly, what you can do to start shifting the dynamic. If you want to get coached by me on these weekly calls, join my...

Recently someone sent me this question... "My partner is super strong-willed and confident. I admire that about them, but over time I’ve found myself just going along with things to avoid conflict. Now I don’t even know what I want anymore. How do I find my voice again in the relationship?” In this episode, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on why this may be h...

Are you tired of being met with anger from your partner, when you try to vocalize that you'd like more help? If so you're not alone. This is an extremely common problem I see with my clients. In this video, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on why this may be happening. I also break down why mismatched energy and sensitivity levels can create blowups—and h...

If you have an avoidant husband/wife, who shuts down, withdraws, or runs away during conflict, then this episode is for you. Today, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on this very topic. If you want to get coached by me on these weekly calls, join my weekly group coaching program, “Becoming One.” It’s open for enrollment for a limited time! 👉 Sign up here https://ww...

Does your partner always try to "fix" your problems, leaving you feeling unheard, & invalidated? In this episode, I coach a former engineer Jorge, on what he can do to solve this, be a better listener, and help his wife feel validated and truly heard!  If you want to get coached by me on these weekly calls, join my weekly group coaching program, “Becoming One.” It’s open for enrollme...

What if my partner runs away during conflict? In this episode, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program on one of my most frequently asked questions.  If you’re dealing with this, and want to learn from me, join Becoming One and I'll give you the skills and tools you need to transform your communication! Enrollment is open for a limited time! 👉 https://www.matttownse...

Communication can make or break a relationship—but most couples don’t realize the small habits that are slowly tearing them apart. The truth is, we all fall into communication ruts that create distance, resentment, and frustration. But the good news? You can break free and start connecting again.   Today, we’re diving into 4 Common Communication Ruts That Are Killing Your Relationship—and how to f...

Struggling with a difficult mother-in-law? You’re not alone. Many couples face tension, conflict, and stress when dealing with in-laws, which can put a serious strain on their marriage. In this episode, I coach a member of my Becoming One weekly group coaching program as we tackle common mother-in-law issues—setting healthy boundaries, handling toxic behavior, and improving communication with your...

If you struggle to communicate with your husband or wife, due to one or both of you getting defensive, you are not alone. Today, I chat with a caller live and explore effective strategies to foster open dialogue and reduce defensiveness in relationships. This is a segment pulled from my "Becoming One" weekly group coaching program, where I answer your questions live each Friday.  If you&...

I was fortunate to interview Dr. John Gottman, the world's #1 marriage/relationship expert. John has spent 40+ years studying what makes relationships last—and what causes them to fail, and today, he's sharing the research backed strategies happy couples use to build lasting love. LINKS MENTIONED DURING THE EPISODE: Learn more about my "Becoming One" weekly group coaching progr...

I’ve coached 5,000+ struggling couples over the past 25 years, and I’ve found there are 5 habits that separate happy, thriving relationships from those that are falling apart. In my latest video, I’m breaking down the 5 things happy couples do differently—practical, research-backed relationship advice that can help you build a stronger marriage, improve communication with your partner, and stop un...

Marriage is hard—no one hands you a rulebook when you say 'I do.' But what if you had a guide to avoid common pitfalls and build a thriving relationship? In this episode, Dr. Matt's diving into 4 Game-Changing Marriage Rules You’ll Wish You Knew Sooner —practical, eye-opening principles that can transform how you approach your partnership. Whether you’re newlyweds or decades in, the...

Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? In this episode, we uncover the 5 Keys to Fall Back In Love With Your Partner in 2025 . Dr. Matt shares practical tools to help you and your partner rebuild connection and create a relationship that thrives. Whether you’re navigating challenges or just looking to deepen your bond, this episode is your roadmap to falling in love all over again in 2025...

Tired of endless arguments in your marriage? In today's episode, I break down 4 common communication mistakes I’ve seen couples make in my 25+ years as a marriage coach—and share real, actionable tips to fix each one. Listen now and start turning conflict into connection! LINKS MENTIONED DURING THE EPISODE: Learn more about my "Becoming One" weekly coaching program here: https://www...

For many of us, the holiday season brings a whirlwind of unmet expectations, family drama, financial strain, and burnout. But it doesn’t have to be that way! In this episode, we’ll explore five practical steps to help you create an enjoyable, stress-free season. You’ll learn how to: Set realistic expectations to avoid disappointment and conflict. Focus on what truly matters —like love, connection,...

Are conflicts creating distance in your marriage? In this episode, we dive into 3 Principles to Resolve Marriage Conflict Fast . Whether you're dealing with recurring arguments or an unexpected blow-up, these principles will help you elevate your ability to "dance" with conflict. Learn how to defuse tension, communicate effectively, and rebuild connection—without letting conflict li...

In today's episode, Matt discusses 4 questions we should ask ourselves, to make sure we're bringing our very best self to our most important relationships.  LINKS MENTIONED DURING THE EPISODE: Learn more about my "Becoming One" program here: https://www.matttownsend.com/becomingonesm

In this episode, I share 5 beliefs that are killing your relationship, that I've gathered from 25 years of coaching thousands of couples. Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Dh_Jtp1anXQ LINKS MENTIONED DURING THE EPISODE: Learn more about my "Becoming One" program here: https://www.coachwithmatt.com/becomingonesm Find my book: STARVED Stuff: Feeding the 7 Basic Needs...

In this episode of "The Becoming One Podcast", I share my best piece of advice for every stage of marriage, that I've gathered from 25 years of coaching thousands of couples. Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qEMGFPPLWKQ Learn more about my "Becoming One" program here: https://www.coachwithmatt.com/becomingonesm