Becoming - A space for the woman who’s been everything but seen

Have you ever looked back at a season that almost broke you… and realized it was actually shaping you? In this episode of Becoming with Sarah La’Joy , I’m sharing what pain taught me. We’re talking about the friendships that changed, the disappointment that lingered, the prayers that weren’t answered the way I hoped, and the quiet ways God restored me. This isn’t a conversation about pretending th...

Sometimes growth doesn’t look like gaining more — it looks like being more intentional with what (and who) you allow into your life. In Part 2 of God Changed My Perspective, I’m talking about what really happens when your mindset shifts. Not just how you see things… but how you move. Because when your perspective changes: • you stop over-explaining • you become okay with being misunderstood • you...

Sometimes we pray for God to change the situation… but instead, He changes how we see it. In this episode of Becoming , Sarah La’Joy talks honestly about what happened when God started shifting her perspective. From letting go of petty reactions to learning not to over-explain herself, she shares how protecting her peace became more important than proving a point. Through real life moments motherh...

Comfort Is Costing You, Nothing is falling apart. You’re not in crisis. You’re not spiraling. You’re just… comfortable. And that’s the problem. In this episode, I’m unpacking the hard truth I had to face: You cannot live on autopilot and expect to experience the full life God promised you. We’re talking about: • Wanting the mind of Jesus and the body of the baddest stripper — but avoiding the work...

What happens when you stop surviving and start living from wholeness? In this episode of Becoming, I talk about how reclaiming my soft life helped me appreciate my beauty — not just on dressed-up days, but in the quiet, ordinary moments too. I share reflections on slowing down, being present, enjoying life with intention, spending time with God, and learning how to feel beautiful without performin...

What if the soft life isn’t something you buy — but something you remember? In this episode, I talk about reclaiming a way of living that once came naturally to me. From childhood tea parties and the safety of being covered, to adulthood where silence feels uncomfortable and peace takes intention, this conversation is about slowing down without guilt and letting go of the armor we picked up along...

My kids are four years apart — which means they met different versions of me. Not because I didn’t love them. Not because I didn’t try. But because life kept changing me. In this episode, I’m reflecting on motherhood through postpartum depression, deployments, starting over in new states without family nearby, and learning how to keep going even when I felt empty. We talk about guilt, grace, survi...

This season didn’t start with noise — it started with peace. In the first episode of Season 2, I’m reflecting on life after becoming. The quiet confidence. The unfamiliar calm. The realization that I might already be who I once prayed to be. We talk about learning to trust peace, singing love songs to myself as a form of self-love, and unlearning the belief that I was “too much.” This episode is a...

In the Season 1 finale, Sarah La’Joy strips back the armor and speaks from the heart about what happens when survival stops serving you. This episode is a soft, honest conversation about releasing survival mode, choosing peace on purpose, trusting God more than your patterns, and finally feeling safe enough to lay the heavy things down. Because we wasn’t put here to carry a damn thing. If you’ve e...

Motherhood didn’t give me time to get healed first it grew me while I was still trying to figure out who I was. In this episode, I’m opening up about the real moments that shaped me: the day I snapped at Cameron while I was sick, the years I used buying things as a way to “show love,” and how God is gently leading me as I learn to lead my kids more softly. This episode is for the mama who loves he...

There was a time I waited for people to treat me right — until I realized, I set the standard. This episode is about learning to handle yourself the way you’ve always wanted to be handled with patience, peace, and care. 🍵 Inspired by Teyana Taylor’s words, “I expect to be treated like a cup of tea,” I share what it looked like to finally slow down, start my days with intention, and live from a pl...

Peace is beautiful but she’s not cheap. 🍃 In this episode, Sarah La’Joy opens up about what it really costs to live in peace the people, habits, and versions of yourself you have to release to step into God’s timing. From late-night surrender on her yoga mat to quiet mornings where peace finally found her, Sarah shares how she learned to stop rushing, stop explaining, and start trusting. Because...

You ever realize how easy it is to show up for everyone else and how hard it can be to show up for you? In this week’s episode, I’m talking about the moment I stopped waiting for someone else to pour into me, and learned how to pour back into myself. From folding everybody’s clothes to letting the kids handle their own, from late-night dinners alone to rediscovering peace in silence this is the pa...

There’s a difference between being loved and being needed — and this week, I’m talking about what happens when you’re always the glue holding everything together. From friendships that fade once you stop fixing everything, to relationships that start to feel like work — I’ve been there. In this episode, I open up about the birthdays I spent waiting for someone else to make me feel special, the pra...

You ever realize some of the things you’ve been praying for are still sitting right where you left them? This episode is a heart talk about nurturing what God gave you the dreams, the healing, the peace, the purpose. Sarah La’Joy opens up about the quiet work of consistency, the difference between assignment and attachment, and learning to take care of what’s yours without losing yourself in the p...

People thought they knew me by my last name. As a Johnson, I carried toughness like a badge. As an Elliott, I carried responsibility like it was my only identity. But neither name ever told the whole story of me. In this episode, I share the weight of the names I inherited and married into — the expectations, the pressure, the invisible load. And I share what it meant to finally choose La’Joy — th...

Ever prayed, “Lord, I give it to You” … but then went right back to worrying, planning, or trying to fix it yourself? 🫣 Yeah, me too. In this episode of Becoming , I’m talking about my trust issues with God. How survival taught me control, how being the oldest child and a military wife made it even harder to let go, and what I’ve learned about surrender, patience, and God’s timing. I share:✨ Rea...

Sometimes silence gets mistaken for healing. But unspoken grief, friendship breakups, and the envy nobody admits out loud? That silence can wound deeper than words ever could. In this episode, I open up about losing my ex–best friend, what it really felt like when claps turned into comparisons, and how displaced trust left me grieving in ways I didn’t even have language for. This isn’t just about...

At some point, you realize: the bare minimum just doesn’t cut it anymore. Not in relationships. Not in friendships. Not even with yourself. In this episode, I’m talking about the shift that happens when you decide you want more — more love, more effort, more intentionality, more peace. I’ll share the moment I recognized I was settling, what it cost me, and why choosing “more” isn’t selfish — it’s...

You ever wake up tired — not just in your body, but in your soul? That’s what happens when you spend your life carrying things God never asked you to pick up. In this episode of Becoming, Sarah gets real about the silent exhaustion that comes from trying to be everything to everyone. She unpacks the hard truth: sometimes what we call “being strong” is really just disobedience dressed up as hustle....

You ever look around and think, “I should be further than this by now”? - Same. In this episode, I’m talking to the woman who feels behind — the one who’s lowkey been dragging shame into every new beginning. Whether it’s the gym, Bible study, motherhood, or just giving yourself a little grace… I got you. We’re breaking down why starting over doesn’t mean you failed — it means you’re becoming. And...

She’s strong. She’s got it. She always shows up. But no one ever asks if she’s okay. In this episode of Becoming, Sarah La’Joy opens up about what it feels like to be the safe place for everyone — while silently screaming on the inside. From oldest daughter pressure to invisible burnout, she shares what happens when your needs go unmet for so long, you forget they even exist. This one’s for the st...

I had to break the cycle of surviving. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to make space for peace—even when survival has been your default. I share how lotion became part of my softness routine (yes, lotion 👀), why rest used to make me feel guilty, and how God had to show me: I don’t have to be everything to everybody. We’re choosing softness. We’re choosing peace. We’re choosing...

Whew. I almost didn’t record this. I kept thinking, “Do I really want to do this?” But then my husband sent me a prayer—and I knew. This wasn’t about perfection. This was about obedience. In this first episode, I’m talking about what it took to finally press record. The fear. The softness. The surrender. The moment I realized… this ain’t just a podcast. It’s a healing space. For me. For you. For e...