Become More Compelling

Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen. For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting. Not anymore. In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more...

Have you ever been talking to someone and it seems like they already know what they're going to say, and they're just waiting for you to stop talking so they can say what they want? I call this the "spring-loaded response trap" and it signals to the other person that you've checked out of the conversation. (Not a good look if you want to have better interactions with other people.) Often, this hap...

No one likes to be interrupted.    But look, it's bound to happen from time to time.   Maybe your new friend brings up something that you know a lot about, and you interject.    In this episode, we'll cover what you can say to get back on track and show the other person that you were listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak. (We'll also cover what to do if you were interrupted.)   --- Be...

There's this jerk of a cognitive bias called the Spotlight Effect. We tend to place more importance on ourselves in any given social situation.  And we tend to overestimate the amount that other people notice us. When it comes to improving our people skills, this isn't helpful. Here's how to use it to your advantage! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio gui...

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "They think I'm awkward/quiet/shy" then you've fallen into the mind-reading trap. (It's okay, we all do at some point) Mind reading isn't doing you any favors in social situations. In this episode, we'll cover the mind-reading trap and how to avoid it! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying g...

Do you ever fall into the "Why Questions Trap?"   If so, that's totally normal.   Why questions tend to focus you on the problem, not a solution.   In this episode, we'll cover how to transform those why questions to help you take action!   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podca...

There are different phases to learning any new skill or starting any new project.   1. "This is going to be easy!" 2. "Okay, there's more work here than I thought..." 3. "WHAT'S THE %#@K!^G POINT?!" 4. "Okay, I'm feeling good again..."   In this episode we'll cover the entrepreneurial roller coaster, and what it means for learning people skills.   --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and ge...

How you introduce others matters! In this episode, we'll talk about how you can take your introductions to the next level. (This is an easy way to stand out and be likable.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skill...

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about the difference between goals and systems. Goals are great, but they keep you in a constant state of failure. If you've always been a "goal person" then you need to check out this episode like yesterday. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles...

Does being really really ridiculously good looking = better people skills? The answer might surprise you. (Hint: Focus on what you can control, and you can control a lot) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!)...

"Be yourself!" "Be confident!" These are things that you'll hear a lot as you improve your people skills. Should you follow this advice? What does "Be yourself!" even mean?! I explain more in this episode. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help y...

A LOT can happen in 10 years. In this episode, I'll walk you through an exercise by Debbie Millman that will help you get clear on what your life could look like in 10 years. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skil...

We all have a lot of things we WANT to do, but wanting doesn't mean much without deciding to take action. Learn the difference between wanting and deciding and take action to improve. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your pe...

It can be tough trying to stay social during quarantine . Here are a couple of tips to help you stay social and improve your people skills! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge your people skills!) --- Have feedback or have a qu...

I'm trying a new format with this episode. (First in a series) You'll learn a people skills tip in about 10 minutes or less. Let me know what you think! This is a borderline superpower that will help you be your best socially. It took me years to learn this, and you'll learn it in about 8 minutes. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjo...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here. --------- How can we craft a powerful message? A message that says everything we need to say in a neat package? A message that can inspire everyone from your small team at work, to tens of thousands when you're behind the camera or mic? On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, m...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of BMC Radio, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills I have my friend Paul Sanders ( @PaulSandersSCP)  from  Get The Friends You Want . Paul Sanders is a friendship & social skills coach, and author of the "Get The Friends You...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Rob Riker ( @robertgriker ) from  The Social Winner .  Over the last few months, I've seen a lot of questions about making friends...      This podcast will answer all these questions and m...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Kyle Ingham ( @DistilledMan ), founder of The Distilled Man . Kyle is awesome, he has the poise and style Don Draper and the wit and charm of Ryan Reynolds. In this wide-ranging conversatio...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery . (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram) Myke is a really interesting guy, he was born in Asia, move to the Middle East, then landed...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Any time you're learning a new skill, it can be tempting to dive in head first and consume ALL the information. Often this leads to analysis paralysis. This is the opposite of action. Lately, I've been thinking about the concept of taking action without overthinking. (Somethin...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden ( @IrreverentGent ) founder of Irreverent Gent . In this episode, we tackle a crucial topic: Confidence. What is it? How do you get it? How does it impact different areas of you...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Between the hours of 8-5, are you typically sitting? If you are, then you need to (stand up) and listen to this episode of Become More Compelling Radio . Most of us intuitively know sitting is bad for us. But just how bad it really is may shock you. My guest is Zack Arnold ( @...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Let's face it. We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've  hit the send button on this potentially life-changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves: "Should I have sent that? Was that a little too much?" (Spoiler: YES, IT WAS TOO MUCH, NOW I WANT...

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang ( @friendformula ) founder of The Friend Formula . A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about social skills so that he could perform at a hi...