Beauty in Battle Podcast

Send us Fan Mail The most important thing you can do in your marriage is learn how to communicate properly to your spouse. Why? Because communication is all about CONNECTION! When you dated your spouse you had no problem communicating. But then you got married and all of a sudden communicating became hard. But it doesn't have to stay that way!  In this episode we'll dive into two familia...

Send us Fan Mail Today is part 2 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage.   Here's a quick sneak peek:  The Purpose of sex is intimacy  The Product of sex is LIFE  That’s why it’s Pleasurable But when the pleasure overtakes the purpose then you forfeit the product .  Here are the FOUR KEYS TO GREAT SEX:  Rhythm  Recognize  Relax  Reward  Are you interested in being coached as a co...

Send us Fan Mail This is a topic we've been waiting to tackle! In this episode, we are going to share a three-part framework on how to view sex as well as four powerful keys to great sex.  Can't get any better than that, can it?  Today is part 1 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage.  Here's a quick sneak peek:  The Purpose of sex is intimacy  The Product of sex is LIF...

Send us Fan Mail A few weeks ago we had lunch with one of our pastors from church and his wife. The way they interacted with each other was one of the most refreshing and enlightening experiences we've had with a couple. After 22 years of marriage, they are still "madly" in love with each other, love being around one another, all while being in full-throttle parent mode.  We sat in...

Send us Fan Mail Would you like a very simple three-step plan to magnetize your spouse to you?  In today's episode, that's exactly what we'll tackle. We share three keys that will unlock gridlock in your relationship and put you on a path to thrive.  But it's not just for hurting couples - healthy couples can (and should) use these same keys to move their relationship forward a...

Send us Fan Mail Join us as we share a story about our 12-year-old daughter who was in a traumatic accident that threatened her vision. What we have learned from her during this time has helped us in our own relationship.  Specifically, little Lundi has shown us three keys for choosing hope in the midst of a trial. Applied to your marriage, these keys are pivotal in keeping your hope anchored on t...

Send us Fan Mail Never before have we lived busier lives and needed to put safeguards in place to protect ourselves from the stressors that crush our bodies and ruin our relationships.  In this episode, we're going to talk about the dangers of "busyness" and distraction on our bodies and our marriages. We've learned that the real issue isn’t the increased stress, it's the...

Send us Fan Mail This episode will blow your hair back (assuming you have hair!).  We interviewed some close friends of ours, Eric and Rachel Beck, about how to connect deeper with your spouse by discovering the unconscious emotions that fuel your emotions. You guys are going to love these two! Eric is a rock-star business coach who's helped thousands of entrepreneurs own their business witho...

Send us Fan Mail While in college, our old strength trainer used to say, "You’re only as fast as your slowest leg!"  In marriage, this means you're only as strong as the weakest partner! All of us go through times of pain and heartache, struggle and strain. This is one of the reasons God gave us the gift of marriage - we have a built-in helper in our time of need! The question is, h...

Send us Fan Mail Last week we looked at the power of emotions and how trapped emotions wreak havoc on our bodies, our souls, and our relationships. This week we'll look into some practical steps we can take to process those emotions. An emotion is tied to what happened to us. A feeling is tied to how we process that emotion. If we don't process our emotions properly, we'll end up wi...

Send us Fan Mail Trapped emotions rob us of joy and destroy our relationships, leaving us a shell of the marriage God intended for us. Not only that, they destroy our physical bodies.  In this episode, we'll take a look at a powerful verse that shows us the importance of exposing hidden emotions and how God can help us get to the bottom of them.  Psalms 139:23-24 states, “Search me, O God, an...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we interview some longtime friends, Denny and Heather Smith, who show us that even a seemingly perfect couple is anything but perfect! Denny and Heather are both on staff at a church in Indiana and they share their powerful story of how they found love in the midst of difficult times early on in marriage.  Heather also shares her story of how anxiety almost wrecke...

Send us Fan Mail We live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey.  This episode is part 2 of a dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple things we can do to ass...

Send us Fan Mail We live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey.  So in this episode and the one that follows we dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple thin...

Send us Fan Mail Many of you know that Tori is a certified coach for the Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence, but for those who don’t, well, she is! And in this episode she’s going to dive deep into the three “instinctual subtypes” of the Enneagram.  Knowing how you behave “instinctively” will help you not only understand yourself but relate to your spouse on a deeper level.  In short, there are...

Send us Fan Mail We all have five core needs:  Security - Who can I trust? Identity - Who am I? Belonging - who wants me? Purpose - why am I alive? Competence - what am I good at? In today's episode we're going to dive into each of these and show you how God meets those needs in you through your spouse.  We'll also discuss the core relational need of a husband and the core relationa...

Send us Fan Mail Today we're going to dive into the four stages of parenting and a very simple, practical way we can stay in love while parenting our kids. As any married couple with kids will tell you, it can be a real challenge!  Our foundation is in Exodus 33 where we see how God parented the Israelites and stayed connected with them at the same time.   Throughout the book we see the Four...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is all about dating in your marriage. Often times when we get married that's the thing that gets pushed aside because of our busy lives. But it's vitally important if we want to keep our relationship strong and growing.  We'll discuss three key aspects about dating:    DATING IS ABOUT DISCOVERY DATING IS ABOUT CONNECTION DATING IS ABOUT DREAMING  We&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Before two can become one, one needs to be one (a whole person).  Relational health is born out of individual health.  Often times in marriage the problem isn’t US - it’s ME.  The problem we’ll talk about today is FEAR. We're going to show how fear is literally debilitating to your relationship.  Fear draws us away from those we love.  Faith draws us toward those we love.  KE...

Send us Fan Mail Today we're talking about THE LOVE LOOP. This is just a fancy term for when spouses are connected and nothing is hindering their relationship. Like your wedding ring - it's fully connected in a perfectly formed loop around your finger.  Marriage is the same way. And in order to keep that loop secure, we have to excel in the power of GRATITUDE!  When your spouse does some...

Send us Fan Mail When we first got married we quickly discovered one of the most difficult things to do was to accept each other for who we really are.  Not because we didn't love each other, oh no! But because we discovered certain things we didn't like about each other. Fortunately, we made it through those early years and learned some powerful keys that helped us along the way. Here&a...

Send us Fan Mail George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”  To strengthen your marriage you have to learn to communicate well. We know it goes without saying, but all-too-often we think we're saying one thing but our spouse hears something completely different. What do we do in those situations?   How can we learn to...

Send us Fan Mail What married couple doesn't have to deal with forgiveness? It's something Tori has to deal with on a regular occasion. HA HA!  In this episode, we're going to tackle the issue of forgiveness and the danger of unforgiveness, and how unforgiveness in the heart gives someone control over your life.  We've heard it said, "Refusing to forgive is like drinking p...

Send us Fan Mail When you got married you became ONE with your spouse. This gave you the 10x factor!  But Satan wants you divided because he knows he can't win if the two of you are operating on the same page.  One of the ways to combat this is by proactively creating healthy habits in your relationship.  A healthy habit is anything that draws you together with your spouse.  It's finding...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know there are two main types of thinking in marriage?  If you want a thriving marriage you have to learn to think both emotionally and transactionally.   Emotional thinking is subjective and is tied to how you "feel." Transactional thinking is objective and is tied to "logic."  Typically, you will fall into one category more naturally than the other. B...