Beat Your Genes Podcast

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 04:25. Q1: Divorced dad entangled with ex 12:28 Genetic commitment calculations 27:14 Q2: Stuck with a closed-off boyfriend 33:53 Hugging an un-huggable friend 42:09 Final thoughts Q1: Any advice for a divorced dad who is still entangled with his ex wife? We have been d...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:41 Q1: How common are affairs? Is this typical human behavior? 34:12 Q2: Am I broken or just in the wrong pair bond?  57:40 Tenacious Delusions in Psychology 1:15:35 Final thoughts Q1: Can Dr. Lisle talk about the frequency of affairs, particularly in modern western...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 04:31 Q1: My daughter doesn't care about her appearance – could it be more than just preference? 14:32 Q2: Our 42 year old dependent daughter said she'll kill herself after we die 32:35 Communication & Negotiation 39:06 Q3:   My pot-smoking husband's libido has decrease...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:35 Q1: I'm pretty but my ugly competitors are getting plastic surgery! 19:05 Q2:   My big, expensive wedding is coming up… but I don't want to get married anymore 27:59 Q3:   Can I increase my estrogen to get more beautiful? 44:28 Final thoughts Q1: You say that a wo...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:39 Q1: I've alerted my wife that she has distortions, but she still has them! 18:53 Irrational emotions vs distortions 29:48 Q2: Why would someone complain about their job but do nothing differently? 47:51 Q3: How can I get over the loss of my husband? 57:33 Final th...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips 0:32 Q1 Nephew is suicidal, but he called to tell me 09:19 The psychology of suicide 30:08 Follow up question from E355 37:20 Q2 My husband is addicted to marijuana – can he change? 53:07 Q3: I'm one month sober – can it last? 1:14:19 Conclusion Q1: What do you do when a family...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips 0:22 Q1 H usband just decided he no longer wants kids 18:08 What could have gone wrong?     27:01 Cinderella Effect 32:06 Q2 I'm pregnant and need emotional support, but my husband is focused on his business 44:10 Conclusion Q1: I'm a 39 year old woman and my husband has just d...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. Q1: How does one know if or when it is time to settle in dating? I'm 45 years old and have only dated men who I would consider a friend, and have never met anyone who excites me like a romantic partner would. Therefore, I let these men go, kept looking for the next best thing and never found it....

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 0:51 My wife hired an escort but says it wasn't technically cheating!  19:01 I'm going to grad school to find a rich husband, but I'm not that into it 40:38 Scratching the psychological itch to get revenge Question 1: Dear Dr. Lisle, I'm a 38 year old male and I work ve...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld.   0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 1:09 My son doesn't work, spends all day in his room, and lacks interest or motivation 17:08 What causes motivation? 21:40 I married a man I don't love 25 years ago 42:24 Very happy with my partner of 12 years, but want to experience someone else as a comparison   Que...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses a listener's question about transference and counter-transference.     0:00 Intro 0:57 Question #1 2:46 A synopsis of psycho-dynamic thinking 9:36 Psycho-dynamic thinking is naïve and bizarre 11:21 What is a therapeutic relationship 20:10   Attraction can o...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, we discuss a recent survey reported by survey artist, @Aella_Girl (on X).  This survey reveals some interesting deductions about human mating difficulties in finding our "Magic 10%". Dr. Lisle explains what the term "Magic 10%" means, and we then go over 2 listener questions – th...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the idea of "going crazy", a question about personality and intelligence testing, a question about disagreeable co-workers, and a follow-up from episode 347. 0:00 Teaser Clips 1:23 Question 1: Woman cheats on her husband then snaps 9:57 Can it be induced by ps...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle gves us an update on his upcoming book, and we take a question from a listener who is rethinking a friendship with their friends' husband following the death of his wife. 0:00 Teasers and Intro 0:23 Year in Review and Book Update 23:42   Friend acting unbothered followi...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses our first question in which a wife feels like she's sometimes just being used for sex and food. Question #2 is from a listener wondering if some people are just doomed to never find love. 0:00 Teasers and Intro 1:21 Question 1: Wife admires husband but sometim...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the concept of Beating Your Genes and applying evolutionary psychology as a therapist, and then he answers listener questions on dating, dietary disagreement, and mutual decision making in relationships.  0:00 Teasers and Intro 1:56 Applying evolutionary psych...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, we discuss our last episode 345 being removed for 'medical misinformation' even though we have video proof of what was referenced in the offending episode. After an appeal, our video was re-instated, but the creepy feeling of censorship remains. So we are moving to the X platform....

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the US Presidential Election and what to consider if you are distraught or if you are celebrating the results of President Trump being elected. Also, Dr. Lisle discusses the concept of morality – what is it? Is it innate? Is it taught? 1. Dr. Lisle weighs in o...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today's Part 2 from episode 343, Dr. Lisle discusses a potential explanation for why homosexuality persists in the population despite homosexuals having fewer children.  1. I understand that the very basis of natural selection is transmission and expression of genes - basically we are all evolv...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.  In today's show, Dr. Lisle explains how genes are passed on through generations and just how complex and interdependent they are. However, sometimes this can lead to the mistaken belief that societies can easily breed certain traits into or out of their population.  1. Dr lisle you've often mentio...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, Dr. Lisle's discusses a term called The Ego Trap in the context of the following listener question: 1. Do you think Lebron James is ego-trapping his son Bronny? He has tweeted that Bronny is going to do extremely well he just needs a bit of time, but in reality the kid looks like...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, we discuss the following listener questions about evolutionary mismatch at work, academia, and retirement.   1. I was on straight energy conservation mode for years at work. Putting in minimum effort and getting poor performance reviews. I hated it but for the life of me I couldn...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   In today's show, we discuss   different questions on social anxiety and finish with a short question about dating. 1. Is there a social strategy that involves not competing in an effort not to be seen as a threat? I am a woman and believe I notice in myself a tendency to make myself small around...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.   Question 1: I had a very traumatic childhood, but I don't blame my experiences with my violent alcoholic mother for any of my stupid adult decisions.   I did those all on my own -- with some help from my parents' genes, of course.   What Dr. Lisle teaches on this topic makes sense to me.   I have...

Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.     Intro 0:00 Question #1: 0:30 I have been with the same man for 13 years (since I was 19) and we have 2 children together. Though we have had our ups and downs and areas of incompatibility I believe our relationship is good, I love our family and want it to continue. However there is a part of m...