Be Refreshed

🥊 Note: this talk is a continuation of the one-two punch we started about parenting in the previous episode 🥊   There are THREE phases of parenting… And you’ve got to pivot your roles and goals at each milestone. 📈   Here’s why knowing the three phases is helpful… 🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁 1️⃣ If you know which stage you’re in, you know the “role” to play as you parent 2️⃣ If you know what you want...

Parenting happens by design or default. And, honestly, it’s easier— though it seems more difficult— to do it with a plan. But doing it with a plan requires a few things. 👇   I went into the studio with a friend who invited me to discuss my “part art / part science” long-term approach to parenting. Remember, we got a second chance to do the parenting thing all over again, implementing the adj...

It seems like there’s never enough time to do the things that need to be done… … much less “go deep” in all of this parenting stuff and make sure the most important things happen. (Yes, it’s easy to feel like a failure as a parent.) 💔   But what if we could capture significant moments each day as part of the parenting journey? What if we created “positive triggers” that just opened up strate...

In episode 8 we dialogued about the three phases of parenting…. 🔴 0- 5 years, discipline = building a foundation 🟠 6-12 years, training = developing soft skills 🟢 13+, coaching = equipping them to make good, “life” decisions   We discussed why it’s important to understand— ➡️ which phase you’re kid is in ➡️ the primary “role” you need to play as a parent ➡️ the importance of recognizing wh...

Randy and Tammy talk with their in-laws in this episode about the role of grandparents— which is, first of all, to SUPPORT their parents. This includes the in-laws. They ask the question, “What do you need…?” And they get answers ranging from “come babysit the kids, because we trust you more than others” to other responses like just being there to talk through concerns and questions about begin a...

Legacy starts where you end. And, one way or another, we all leave a legacy. Some of us leave a legacy by design; others leave one by default. ⚜️ When it comes to parenting— and grand-parenting— legacy involves imparting wisdom and ideas to other people who will pull in influence from other places over which you have no control… In a sense, then, you need to raise them to— ⭐️ Make the best decisi...

We’ve been talking about parenting— with the bigger picture in mind— for eight episodes now. Ultimately, parents have kids that become parents… … and that means they become grandparents. ⭐️ In this talk, Randy & Tammy talk with their grandkids about things such as— 💙 family traditions the grandkids enjoy (they see beach trips and crafts equally) 💙 the importance of just “hanging out” 💙 the...

Parenting a toddler is different than parenting a teen. And that’s different than parenting a son or daughter who’s now a senior in college or just stepping into the full time workforce. That seems obvious. 🤷‍♂️   But how do you know what each child needs at each stage of life? And how can you not only know WHAT they need but also HOW to transfer that lesson, that bit of leadership to them?...

Now we go back to the talk with Randy + Tammy and their adult kids… Jarod + Abby + Eric + Jackson 👇   This talk takes a turn. Jared gets raw about what he felt— and often feels— about parenting a child with special needs. And the siblings all weigh in… And Randy & Tammy talk about what they’ve learned through the experience.   _____________ So you can keep them straight, here’s who...

We continue the conversation with Randy & Tammy’s son-in-law and daughters-in-law… Here, Randy and Tammy affirm each of them, making the observation that— ‼️ in the future, we— as parents— step back and someone else steps in as their primary confidant, companion, and everything else ‼️they create a new household— and continue our legacy while adding from their background… and making something...

Two episodes ago we heard from Randy’s adult kids (and, yes, there’s more to come from them). In this episode, we shift and listen to what the SPOUSES of those kids have to say about moving into a new family… Remember, we all make decisions and “do things” based on how we were raised. That not only includes us BUT ALSO includes our spouses. They come to each of us with a different background, diff...

Parenting happens by design or default. And, honestly, it’s easier— though it seems more difficult— to do it with a plan. But doing it with a plan requires a few things. 👇 First, you must recognize that PEOPLE are different— including you and your spouse. You’re both parenting from some background (see episode 1) that you need to acknowledge. ✅ Second, every kid has a unique PERSONALITY. Even th...

We continue with Randy’s discussion with his adult kids… In this episode they walk about what it was like growing up as a pastor’s child, as well as some of the memories they have about trusting God for things like fixing cars when you really want to go to the circus. And, ultimately, it all comes down to this… 👉 Being present matters more than you think, because that’s what the adult version of...

It’s easy to talk about parenting. What’s NOT easy is to parent. 🤣 As part of rolling out the parenting (and grand-parenting) resources, Randy decided to get his kids sense of things… Here’s the setup… 🥁🥁🥁 Every year they take a family beach trip— 👉 Randy & Tammy 👉 Their four adult kids 👉 Their grandkids   This year (and, yes, he warned them in advance), he asked the kids if he cou...

Back before the world shut down for Covid (half a decade ago!), we hosted a parenting workshop, pulling together all of our best ideas from a few decades of taking our best shot at it. The difference for us was… well, as we discuss in this episode, we got a second chance to “get it right.” With an almost-empty nest, we found out we had another baby on the way. We catalogued some of our mistakes, m...