Be Mom Your Way: The Inner Work of Being a Mother

Motherhood often feels overwhelming, not just because it is hard, but because of how many voices are constantly telling mothers what to do, how to do it, and what is at stake if they get it wrong. In this episode, I explore why every mother feels behind, why decision making feels so heavy, and how too much advice slowly erodes a mother’s ability to trust her own voice. From pregnancy through early...

What happens when you finally get space from the people you love most, and instead of feeling rested, you feel off? In this episode of Be Mom Your Way , I unpack a story from a twin mom who spent ten days away from her toddlers and was surprised by how deeply unmotivated, flat, and unsettled she felt. Through a relatable behavioral science lens, we explore how distance can change the value of what...

In this episode, Jess shares the story behind her twins’ first birthday party — the moment she almost shrunk herself to avoid “what people might think,” and the breakthrough that changed everything. If you’ve ever toned yourself down, worried you were “too much,” or replayed imaginary conversations in your mind before you even walked into a room, this episode will hit home. Jess breaks down the mo...

Competing values are one of the hardest internal experiences in motherhood. It’s the moment when two things you care deeply about pull you in opposite directions — and there’s no option that feels fully “right.” These moments don’t happen because you’re doing something wrong. They happen because multiple parts of your identity matter at the exact same time. In this episode, you will learn • what c...

Repair is the fourth and most complex phase of the Notice, Regulate, Align, Repair protocol. This step is where your inner work becomes visible in your behavior. Repair is not about fixing everything, apologizing constantly, or pretending the moment never happened. It is the next values aligned action you choose after a moment that did not reflect the mother or the person you want to be. In this e...

Align: The Third Phase of the Inner Work of Motherhood™ Framework In this episode, we explore the third phase of the Inner Work of Motherhood™ Framework: Align — the moment when you zoom out from the chaos of your day and remember who you want to be as a mother and as a person. You’ve already learned how to Notice what’s happening inside you. You’ve practiced Regulating with one small internal shi...

In this episode, Jess walks through the second phase of the Inner Work of Motherhood Framework: Regulate. She explains how internal cues shift the body, what regulation feels like in real moments, and how one small internal adjustment can change the direction of a difficult situation. You will learn how regulation works with awareness and how to create space inside yourself before responding. Expl...

In this episode, Jess introduces the first phase of the Inner Work of Motherhood Framework : Notice . She shares real moments from caring for her toddler and twins, breaks down how awareness works in the body and brain, and explains why noticing your internal world is the starting point for emotional steadiness. You will learn what to look for, how to recognize early signals, and how this skill cr...

This week, my very first guest joins me — my mom. 💛 We sit down for an honest, funny, and heartfelt conversation about motherhood across two generations — what’s changed, what hasn’t, and what really matters. From raising one child in the late ’80s to raising three under three today, we talk about presence, pressure, mom guilt, boundaries, and how every decade brings its own version of “doing you...

Ever caught yourself thinking, “I’ve done this before — I know what to expect” … only to realize that pregnancy and postpartum never play out the same way twice? In this episode, Jessica shares the raw, very different realities of her two pregnancies — one with her first daughter and one with twins — and what she’s learned about comparison, control, and the stories we tell ourselves about how it’s...

I’m not sharing this episode because I’ve conquered fear — I’m sharing it because I still wrestle with it. This week, I’m talking about how fear of failure shows up in my real life — as a mom, a business owner, and a human just trying to do things that matter. Not the kind of fear that keeps us safe… the kind that keeps us small. You’ll hear me process how I’ve been redefining what “failure” even...

What happens when you stop trying to “get back” to who you were before motherhood — and start accepting who you are now? In this episode, Jessica opens up about the messy, beautiful middle between ambition and acceptance — between data and presence — and how learning to live with uncertainty has changed her relationship with herself, her work, and motherhood. Drawing from Acceptance & Commitme...

Does other people "helping" you sometimes make life feel harder? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode, Jessica (mom of three under three) talks about what happens when “help” doesn’t actually feel helpful, and why that can trigger so much frustration. She shares her own experiences juggling twins and a toddler, learning to release control, and redefining what peace looks like in a ho...

What if motherhood isn’t about staying calm — but learning how to show up in a way you’re proud of, even when it’s hard? In this episode, Jessica — mom of three under three, behavior analyst, and life coach — shares the mindset that’s helping her handle the chaos with less guilt and more intention. It’s about noticing what actually matters, letting go of what doesn’t, and finding small moments you...

In this first episode, Jessica — mom of three under three, including twins — shares the data behind how rare this season of life really is and why it can feel so isolating. She opens up about her own “why” for starting More Than Mom and what she hopes it becomes: a reminder that you’re still you , even in the high-volume years of motherhood.