Be Known: the Podcast

We're not always great at allowing others to interrupt our lives, to stop us to talk and we listen or call us and we actually answer. Or make a bid for connection and we don't turn away. We're not great at this at all. We don't like for our lives to be interrupted. We don't want to be stopped, to be inconvenienced. And that's kind of a selfish way to live. Let's talk about it.  Resources and...

We're jumping back into the podcast after a little break with a hot topic. Today, we're talking about modesty culture, how it negatively affected young women in the church, and how we can begin making a shift in thinking and how we handle modesty from this point on so we're not leading to more body shame. We're not about that anymore because that's messing up the relationship we have with ourselve...

So you know how we are getting better at expressing our needs to our humans? Well, it's very possible our humans might not be able to meet the need we have, the one we specifically requested they meet. And if we're honest, we often feel hurt, betrayed, and even attacked when they have to say no. We also feel anxious because now we have to figure out who else to ask. Let's talk about what it looks...

Sometimes people will tell us something that is true or that has a little truth in it, and it can be super painful for us to hear. I value truth and clarity and honesty in my relationships. In fact, I don’t have time for people who won’t show up authentically. But sometimes that honesty hurts. Sometimes it hurts a lot. Especially when it feels true. What do we do when someone tells us something th...

I think we're all a little angry right now. And grieving. And rightfully so with everything going on in our world and in our nation. So today, I'm just making space for that, but also for us who believe in Jesus to remember who we are. To not let our anger consume when it feels hard to love. We're in Colossians 3. Listen in.  Resources and Links Mentioned in Episode:  Colossians 3:5-17 (...

My friend Mary B. Safrit, host of the Unsuitable Podcast , a podcast for single Christians, is our guest today. She shares about the importance of friendship to a single person and why it's so hard when friendships end. She then gives us five helpful practices when our friends leave that I think will be helpful for singles and non-singles alike. All of us know the pain of losing a friend, so I hop...

In this episode, we're talking about the concept of rupture and repair, often discussed in the field of psychotherapy. But we're not looking at rupture and repair in our relationships with others. We're looking at the process in our relationship with ourselves. How I treat myself matters, and it's time I took steps to repair any damage I've caused here. Listen in.  Resources and links mention...

Sometimes we set limits in ways that are hurtful to others, like really hurtful. I asked a friend of mine to share a story of when this has happened to him. Listen in.  Resources and Links Mentioned in this Episode:  The Boundaries Bootcamp 

We can talk a lot on the concept of emotional boundaries. What if our emotions have too much of an affect on someone else? Or what if we can't seem to separate ourselves from the emotions of others? Come on in. What does it mean to have good emotional boundaries? Let's sit a while and chat about it.  Resources and links mentioned in this episode:  One-on-One Coaching with me 

When we have good boundaries, we aren't taking as our own someone else's consequences for their decisions. But what if in some cases we do? What if we have to deal with their consequences for whatever reason? How can we handle that? Listen in.  Resources mentioned in this Episode:   Listen to Episode 28 The Boundaries Bootcamp

Today, I'm being honest with you about how I've not really felt God near lately. How I've had questions, but I'm not sure he's been answering. I'm sure many of you can relate. So in true Kerrah fashion, we're not going to pretend we don't feel confused and frustrated about this. As always, I hope my vulnerability will help you be honest with yourself, too.  Resources and links mentioned in th...

A simple prayer as we prepare to enter the season of Lent. 

There is a distinct difference between grace and enabling. One is the obviously more healthy choice. One is not. So how can we do the former without slipping into the latter? How can we show grace without enabling someone else's harmful behavior? Listen in.  Resources and Links Mentioned:  Transcript Instagram  

To think about the characteristics of unsafe vs. safe people, go listen to episode 43, Safe People. But let's talk about a part of this that feels hard. What do we do when our safe people no longer feel safe? We'll talk about some behaviors that would make us feel unsafe and some possible next steps when that happens. Listen in.  Resources and Links Mentioned:  Episode 43: Safe People&nb...

Though not everything is redeemed in the way we'd hoped, I'm a firm believer that everything is redeemable. It's one thing that brings me hope. In this episode, we are digging into what redemption can mean in our lives.  Resources and links mentioned:  Psalm 130 (TPT) Meaning of redeem/redemption in original Hebrew  Blog series about honesty in our emotions Transcript Follow along o...

I think at some point we all have difficulty believing. Believing in God at all or believing in Him to do miracles or change things anymore. Because when we look around, it's hard to see Him at work. I think it's better to acknowledge this together than deal with it alone. We're in this together. Let's be honest together and let's heal together.  Resources and links mentioned:  Original...

Don't you love this *slightly annoying* Christian phrase? Speak the truth in love. Well, today, we are actually going to talk about it, what it means, and how we can speak truth to others in a kind and respectful way. Assertiveness matters. Telling someone how we feel and what we're thinking about matters. But it also matters how we say it. We don't want to be people who speak our minds with no re...

I don't know who hasn't been grieving lately, and we don't always know how to help those who are. Sometimes we try to say or do something, but that something isn't always helpful. Let's talk about what not to do when someone you love is grieving and what can be helpful instead.  Resources and Links:  Every Moment Holy, Volume 2  www.kerrahfabacher.com Instagram: @kerrahfabacher

Happy New Year! My beginning this year isn't all about the resolutions, because honestly, my brain is still recovering from March 2020. But I do choose a word for every year, and this my word is attuned. I think we can all grow in being more aware, listening, understanding, and responding to life and people thoughtfully and purposefully. Listen for how to begin paying closer attention in your life...

2021 was about taking steps for me. Mainly taking steps backward to heal, to reflect. Because Advent is upon us, I am stepping back from the podcast, the Monday Minute, and social media in the month of December to reflect on the year and spend time with my people. In this episode, I've given you an opportunity to do the same. I hope it is a meaningful and centering practice for you as you close ou...

Gratitude is the best, right? It fills us with all the good feelings and has great mental health benefits, but sometimes we can use it to avoid the hard things we feel, the suffering we may be walking through. And that can be very unhealthy. Listen in.  Resources and Links mentioned in this episode:  Liturgy of Thanksgiving at the Return of Joy, from Every Moment Holy, Volume 2 

As wonderful as it is to be a part of the body of Christ, the church has not done something well. They often directly or indirectly tell people who are struggling with the tough emotions to stop feeling those things and especially stop expressing them. When angry, they're told to forgive. When afraid, they're told to trust God. The church hasn't done a great job of listening with grace and letting...

Not me, silly. This is the podcast's 50th episode, woot woot! :) And I guess we aren't technically 50, more like, 1 1/2, but geez, it's hard to come up with catchy titles! :) Today, we celebrate 50 episodes in true Kerrah form: reflecting on what this podcast journey has taught me so far. Listen in.  Resources and Links Mentioned in Episode:  Share your favorite episode on social media t...

Today's episode is more mediative and reflective. Instead of me trying to help you know what love is and how to do it best, I wanted you to hear from the One who is love. Listen in.  Resources and Links mentioned in this episode:  1 John 3:11-24; 4:7-21 www.kerrahfabacher.com Instagram: @kerrahfabacher

As humans, we need touch. Maybe more than we know. And when we don't have a healthy amount of touch, we will struggle. A lot. So let's talk about touch deprivation and why we need it and how to get it when we may have a bad relationship with it due to past trauma, neglect, culture, or unhealthy relationships. Trigger warning: if you've experienced any past touch trauma. Listen in.  Resources...