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Send us Fan Mail It’s the one year anniversary since The Great Sex Rescue was published! Rebecca and I want to talk about what we’ve rescued and how it’s been rescued–plus Elizabeth Fisher Good joins us to talk about fighting sex trafficking. Links to things mentioned: Please use these affiliate links if you're interested in trying Knix! Knix.com  Elizabeth Fisher Good The Great Sex Rescue Ar...

Send us Fan Mail Because our church culture teaches guys that they need sex the way newborn babies need to be fed in the middle of the night or the way an invalid needs water brought to them, men often don’t realize that they are being the selfish ones. They’re taught this is an absolute need they have, a life and death need, and so if she doesn’t want sex, that must mean she’s being selfish. Link...

Send us Fan Mail Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future! Links to things mentioned: Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts! The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and...

Send us Fan Mail Too many people don’t understand the sexual response cycle–so let’s spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent in evangelicalism! Links to things mentioned: The Intimately Us app! The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs’ reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower responds The Dunning Kruger...

Send us Fan Mail We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in. Links to things mentioned: The Intimately Us App ! Download the free version right now–and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine’...

Send us Fan Mail At what point do we realize that something is terribly off with the way the evangelical church sees women? Keith talks about his manifesto from yesterday and encourages men to see what is happening and jump out of the boiling water. Links to things mentioned: Research study about remarriage after divorce Great Sex Rescue Keith's article on the boiling water Owen Strachan&apos...

Send us Fan Mail Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too. Our Patreon --support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research! Connor's post detaili...

Send us Fan Mail Should you stay in such a church? Some people should, because the church is changing, and you feel called to be a “missionary” of sorts there. But maybe more should leave. I know I stayed too long, and Rebecca shares some passionate thoughts about her opinion on going to a church “because it has a good kids’ program” or “because it has a good youth program.” Links to things mentio...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays! Links to things mentioned: Scott Coley Tweet The Great Sex Rescue To Support Us:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundat...

Send us Fan Mail Today on the podcast we hear Rachel Perry’s story of vaginismus, and then I get cozy in my yellow chair where I work and just tell you how I see the Christmas story interacting with our own (and yours!). Links to things mentioned: The Emotional Journey with Vaginismus To Support Us:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in t...

Send us Fan Mail Ever noticed that most marriage books center the majority of their advice on women? And most instructions for how to get marriages to change focus on what women can do differently. Links to things mentioned: Our sponsor Femallay ! Become a patreon and support us for as little as $5 a month! Our New Merch! Check out all of our merch , and our Be a Biblical Woman collection Nicole P...

Send us Fan Mail How do we live our feelings through our bodies? How do we learn to inhabit our bodies more? Join us as Rebecca and I jumpstart this series, and then Keith and I get all scientific about arousal non-concordance and mindfulness! Links to things mentioned: Our wonderful sponsor Femallay . Check out their vaginal melts , and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them...

Send us Fan Mail Rebecca’s postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. Links to things mentioned: Our wonderful sponsor Femallay . Check out their vaginal melts , and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted. The Great Sex Rescue! Especially chapter 11 where we talk a...

Send us Fan Mail The amazing Beth Allison Barr is joining me today to talk about women and the history of the church. It seems like people who buy The Great Sex Rescue really like Beth’s book–and they really like Kristin Kobes Du Mez’s book too (and she was on the podcast earlier this year !). Links to things mentioned: Link to the Webinar with Sheila, Kristin, and Beth! The Making of Biblical Wom...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve got two different segments on today’s podcast, both regarding what it means to make your own way as a couple: Another look at how to read science–and what it SHOULDN’T be used for and a visit with Stephanie and Dan Holmes, the hosts of the Neurodivergent Christian Marriages podcast! Links to things mentioned here: Dan and Stephanie's podcast To Support Us:  Join our Pat...

Send us Fan Mail What if the reason authors can’t give up the obligation sex message is that they fear women won’t have sex otherwise? Links to things mentioned:  Femallay! We love what they're doing to help women experience more pleasure and more comfort in our own bodies. Please check them out. The Great Sex Rescue! The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex...

Send us Fan Mail We try to show how men and women may approach sex information differently. And how there’s a serious creepy factor for many women that we all need to understand a little bit better! Thanks to our sponsor Femallay ! Check out their vaginal melts , and my post on how your vagina changes as you age The Great Sex Rescue –Chapters 5 and 6 cover the lust issue and porn issue, and try to...

Send us Fan Mail We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church. Links to things mentioned: The blog post that goes along with this podcast Gretchen Baskerville's Site Gret...

Send us Fan Mail We have a VERY special guest  joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness! Links to things mentioned: Link for breast self-exam Married Sex on Amazon--many of the reviews refer to the breast problem Femallay Our puberty course...

Send us Fan Mail For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day.  We hope this episode can be a great jumping off point for important parent/teenager conversatio...

Send us Fan Mail Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this ramble through some statistical and psychological studies that can give us all a clearer picture on how we should be talking about the differences between men and women's brains. Links to things mentioned: Check out Femallay&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do just that, and help walk everyone through the process we use when critiquing Christian resources we see being used today. We'd also like to thank our guest Neil Schori for joining us today with such a wonderful discussion on how to ta...

Send us Fan Mail We are thrilled to bring you another weekly edition of the Bare Marriage podcast, with a special guest appearance by friend of the show Andrew Bauman for a short segment today.  Please remember to read the blog post that accompanies this podcast for more context into the topics we discussed. Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex Rescue Join our email list! Andrew Bauman's...

Send us Fan Mail Thank you to our lovely guest Micah for joining us today! You can find her online here . Links to other things mentioned: On Elisabeth Elliot’s Terrible Courtship–and Dating Men “Sold Out for Jesus” The Most Fun FREE Book Study Ever–The Great Sex Rescue! (with video) To Support Us:  Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work For tax deductible donations in th...

Send us Fan Mail Join us this week as we discuss the idea of how our expectations of marriage highly affect how we experience it-- and how expectations might not always be the problem! And thank you again to Bruce for joining us today for another deep dive into scripture! Links to things mentioned: Find more from Bruce on his website Camden's article Original study about health effects of chu...