Bar Talk With Jay

Depends on who you ask but that’s more than obvious. Has the reason for break ups differ amongst generations? If you go by decades, the surface reasons have changed but the core reasons are the same. On the surface, may lye on what decade you pop up in. Going back 100 years or so, everything was a bit more family centered and marriage was more of a business tool than a love laten relationship. Bre...

Dealing With Society's Obsession of Material Things Society is undoubtedly addicted to technology. From the phones, the way we use them, the labor of seeking approval, and all of the money-draining services. When we go deeper into the fold, we can see that we as people are starting to get obsessed with material things and companies are looking to hold that over our collective heads. In some cases,...

Do you always speak up? Can you speak up? Is it always your space to say something? We often think of freedom of speech when it comes to the ability to say anything in public but we all know there are limitations. Whether it be your job, your beliefs, the environment, or your relationship, you are limited to what you are able to say. The real question that comes up in a relationship is when it com...

Drawing a Line: Dividing and Defining The Financial Responsibilities of Relationships (Bar Talk With Jay 11/14/2019) Going Dutch can be taboo in the dating discussion. Philosophies may differ from person to person but it is far less complicated in a casual dating situation. On the other hand when it comes to being in a relationship, cohabitating, and we are talking about splitting these bills, you...

Take a moment to yourself and think about something. What ties you to the person who has given you the best bedroom experience? Be honest was it the love of your life, the crazy one that you couldn’t let go, a chance encounter, or the one you are with now. If it’s not the one you are with, then why not? Was there ever a downside whether with that person or going forward? Did it mess up your expect...

When your special someone mentions to you about something about their work spouse how does that make you feel? Is it a family friend that’s around all the time or is it a person that you hardly know that is in constant contact and it’s always “about work”? For any person, single or attached, a work spouse relationship can develop in different ways, with the Utopian scenario is very endearing frien...

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Everyone has a cheating story but what is best way to deal with situation? Stay and work it out or leave?

In 2019, haters have evolved. They have different methods of coming at you. They use different channels such as Facebook and Twitter and a multitude of methods to get under your skin. Everyone has haters of some kind. Some may be less obvious than others, ranging from anonymous commentators to your trusted inner circle. Some people may see those who oppose them as haters but may only have passiona...

When we talk about the objective of dating, it is usually in order to find a mate or someone you are most compatible with. Some may say they are not looking, just dating. This may be a conscious decision not to find yourself in a serious situation but really you are still discovering your preferences in a mate finding new things about yourself. The selection process is multifaceted. You have your...

When we talk about the objective of dating, it is usually in order to find a mate or someone you are most compatible with. Some may say they are not looking, just dating. This may be a conscious decision not to find yourself in a serious situation but really you are still discovering your preferences in a mate finding new things about yourself. The selection process is multifaceted. You have your...

Topic of the week: Have you been in love with another person while in your current relationship? Would you compromise happiness for the success of a relationship? As always we have weekly check-ins with Jamal and good ‘Dr. Rev.’ Jeffery There are many ways to look at how cheating can be done but the part that usually goes deeper is of the emotional kind. This is when feelings can really start to g...

Are you freinds with yout ex?

This week’s question: What is the real meaning of love and affection? When it comes to affection it is synonymous with love. This is because we tend to show people who we love the most affection. Now when we are in love with a person, affection has a deeper meaning. In the confines of a romantic relationship affection is an unspoken language of communication that can denote a change in the status...

Where is the line between spending a lot of quality time and suffocating under someone’s company? Most people have been in a situation where they have been with a person that needs more attention from them than a toddler or have been with a person that won’t let them leave without being attached to the hip. Maybe you have been with a person that won’t let anyone get too close to you without gettin...

Question: Why do people assume monogamy when doing relationship things together? When it comes to dating, there is a point where you start to do things with a person because you are comfortable or even value that person. Sometimes it may seem a little deeper to one person based on the activities that have been engaged in. At one point can you assume that you are a monogamist situation? Or is it be...

When it comes to dating, there is a point where you start to do things with a person because you are comfortable or even value that person. Sometimes it may seem a little deeper to one person based on the activities that have been engaged in. At one point can you assume that you are a monogamist situation? Or is it better to assume that it is not monogamist unless defined and verbally communicated...

Etiquette in 2019 has a different feel than it ever has before. This phrase has probably been uttered at different times throughout history. Switch out the year and you will hear the elders of that society saying the same. There are rules in society, in business, and of course interpersonal, when it comes to the way we carry ourselves. But 2019 is in the apex of a communication boom. There are so...

Question for the week: Why do we? As always, we take the relationship angle of the subject, but this is more of a life issue in a whole. People often give us what they want us to have and not what we deserve. We must take in consideration when we give people a place in our hearts, does this person match the amount of love that I’m giving out? Are they showing us that they really care? Does their a...

Question for the week: Why do we? As always, we take the relationship angle of the subject, but this is more of a life issue in a whole. People often give us what they want us to have and not what we deserve. We must take in consideration when we give people a place in our hearts, does this person match the amount of love that I’m giving out? Are they showing us that they really care? Does their a...

Question for the week: Why do we? As always, we take the relationship angle of the subject, but this is more of a life issue in a whole. People often give us what they want us to have and not what we deserve. We must take in consideration when we give people a place in our hearts, does this person match the amount of love that I’m giving out? Are they showing us that they really care? Does their a...

Have you recognize that you are in love? Maybe you're afraid to admit it? Afraid of getting hurt? Afraid of being rejected? Or maybe you don't want to be in love? This week on Bar Talk With Jay we discuss the hows and when to confess your love for the one you're with and the different ways we arrive at that moment and what do when it come. Also we have a special guest. Ms. Leslie Green of RTSE Cas...

How do you overcome with insecurities in your relationship? There are many different types of insecurities that we carry into the relationship and some that develop after we begin. Do you always discuss your insecurities or are you too insecure to talk about them?