Balance your Brain

James and Catherine discuss why yelling at kids is harmful, except in rare moments of immediate danger, and how parents teach far more through their example than through punishment or harshness. They explore autonomy, emotional regulation, and the long-term impact of parenting, arguing that kindness, respect, and steady growth create “emotional wealth” that can shape families for generations. Cath...

Catherine Roebuck: https://catherineroebuck.com James Christensen: https://jamesmchristensen.com IN THIS EPISODE: Why revealing the messy stuff in your mind builds trust — but only when paired with responsibility and thoughtfulness about timing and impact The case for telling your partner about an affair: the harm already exists whether you reveal it or not, and secret "cleanup" is just continued...

Catherine Roebuck joins me to talk Trauma. James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Catherine Roebuck:  https://catroebuck.com Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube Roseville Couples Counseling 300 Harding Blvd suite 108, Roseville CA  916-292-8920 Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2PC7NKPstyNi08TNfYcyaT Lis...

A conversation between James Christensen and Catherine Roebuck Catherine: We were talking the other day about pathological demand avoidance — with neurodivergent clients and their partners — and you offered a different term that I just loved. James: Yeah. The other term is persistent drive for autonomy, which I think is just a normal human trait. Catherine: Yes, I agree. And that term is so much n...

https://jamesmchristensen.com catroebuck.com James:  Loving from the heart and loving unilaterally is fundamentally an adult task, not a childhood task. Catherine:  When you first told me that, my reaction was, "Well, I know kids can love—I felt a lot of love as a kid. I felt love from my kids." But it's the feeling aspect that matters here. What kids are able to do is take warm, pleasan...

Audrey Schoen joins me to talk about Relational Life Therapy. Roseville Couples Counseling 300 Harding Blvd Suite 108 Roseville CA 95648 916-292-8920

Transcript: Matt: On today's show, we have James Christensen with Roseville Couples Counseling. He provides therapy for couples—husbands and wives, marriage counseling.1 So James, thanks for being on today. It seems like our society is in a crisis when it comes to marriage. It just doesn't seem like it's a priority anymore, and more marriages than ever have been failing. That's not just amongst no...

There are three components to trust in a relationship: 1. Trust that your partner will do the right thing 2. Trust that you'll be able to read your partner accurately 3. Trust in yourself to take care of yoursefl no matter what. Transcript: If you recently found out that your partner has cheated on you, this video is for you. I'm going to talk about the three components of rebuilding trust after i...

Transcript: About three years ago, I began to accept that I was unusually narcissistic. I say it that way on purpose because I don't like to use the term "you're a narcissist" or "you're not a narcissist." Realistically, it's more of a spectrum. Everyone is somewhere on that spectrum, and three years ago, I finally accepted that I was way towards the bad side of it. I was more narcissistic than al...

Catherine Roebuck joins me to discuss Chapter 2 of Bruce Tift’s book “Already Free.” Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Catherine Roebuck:  https://catroebuck.com   Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2PC7NKPstyNi08TNfYcyaT Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast on App...

Catherine Roebuck joins me to discuss Chapter 1 of Bruce Tift’s book “Already Free.” Roseville Couples Counseling 300 Harding Blvd Suite 108, Roseville CA 916-292-8920 Transcript James:  Let's start with a quo te from  Already Free  by Bruce Tiff. "Most of us are, in a variety of ways, living in the present as if it were the past." What do you think? Catherine:  Yeah, I love th...

Kristin Areglado Hurley: https://www.karegladohurley.com/ Aron Carlson: https://childandfamilymentalhealth.com/aron-carlson/ Parenting Workshop: https://www.international-crucible-education-center.org/parenting-workshop Transcript: James:  My guests today are Aron Carlson and Kristen Alado Hurley, and they're here to talk about a parenting workshop that they have been developing. Kristin Areg...

Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Transcript: James:  I was wondering if you'd be willing to tell me some of your memories of Dr. Schnarch. What first impressed you about him and what your relationship with him was like? Dave:  Thinking about my relationship with Dr. Schnarch, I met him as David. I actually...

Jackie Aston:  https://jackieaston.com James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube Jackie Aston:  https://jackieaston.com James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Jackie Aston is a licensed psychotherapist with over a decade of experience working with individuals and couples in Washington, DC, and Maryland, as well as coa...

Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube Dan Purcell:  https://getyourmarriageon.com James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Transcript: James : Have you ever seen a pattern in a couple where one person is highly critical and the other one is very irresponsible? Dan : Yes, in my own life. James : Tell me. You would probably not be the irresponsible one, if I...

Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube James Christensen:  https://jamesmchristensen.com Catherine Roebuck:  https://catroebuck.com   Transcript James:  Why is this called Crucible therapy? Catherine Roebuck:  The crucible metaphor comes from metalworking. A crucible is a heat-proof container that you can put into a very hot fire in a forge. It can mel...

Healthy Male Sexuality with Heather Matthews and James Christensen   Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube Transcript Heather Matthews: I'm really passionate about this idea around men and shame around their sexuality. I work with a lot of men in my practice, which I really enjoy, and some of them feel a lot of shame about their sexuality. The way that I see it play out...

Catherine Roebuck leads James Christensen through three revisualization exercizes. This episode explains David Schnarch's teachings about regression and how to use revisualization exercises to improve the way your brain works. Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube

Catherine Roebuck joins James Christensen to talk about dealing with parental blindness. Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube

Catherine Roebuck lays out how to create secure attachment with yourself and with your partner.  Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on Youtube

James Christensen: https://jamesmchristensen.com Catherine Roebuck: https://catroebuck.com Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2PC7NKPstyNi08TNfYcyaT Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/james-christensen-podcast/id1757976298 Listen to Balance Your Brain Podcast in your favorite podcast app https://...

How to function better in your relationship with: Catherine Roebuck   James Christensen   Listen on Spotify List en on Apple Podcasts Wa tch on Youtube James:  So if I improved my functioning significantly, how would, you know? So like, say you and I meet up a year from now and you're like, wow, James, your functioning is way up. But what would tell you that? Catherine:  I mean...

Catherine Roebuck and James Christensen discuss infidelity in the light of the Coldplay affair. What does it take to heal a relationship after infidelity? Why is infidelity such an important cultural touchstone? What is the path forward for the couple that got caught on the Coldplay kiss cam? Couples therapists James Christensen and relationship expert Catherine Roebuck discuss infidelity through...

Catherine:  The thing I’ve been thinking about is that mature love is courageous love. Infatuation and validation trades don’t require courage. Loving like a grown-up does. Absolute safety is a childlike expectation of love. If you had very brave, very grown parents, you might start life feeling safe. Most of us didn’t. So we have to step into love without guarantees; the felt safety comes af...

Join James Christensen and Dr Corey from Sexy Marriage radio for a discussion of how marriage helps us grow. Dr. Corey Allan: https://smr.fm James Christensen: https://jamesmchristensen.com