Back Porch Bestie

Listen to one of the top downloaded episodes to date! Kasey and Kelsey discuss the topic of going against convention by challenging traditional values and societal expectations in order to pursue authenticity and joy in life. Kasey opens up about the unconventional decisions from her past, including divorcing her husband and entering into a relationship with a woman (Kelsey). From a young age Kase...

In a world that glorifies busyness, it’s imperative to recognize the importance of strategic action and work-life balance. Lisa Crilley Mallis, founder of Impactive Strategies, joins this conversation to share how she helps busy women business owners transform their day-to-day busyness into productivity and reclaim time for personal fulfillment.    Lisa explains her approach to coaching...

Love bombing: the act of showering someone with excessive affection, attention, and gifts in order to manipulate or control them.    Have you ever experienced love bombing or guilt tripping in a relationship? Both behaviors can create blurred lines between red flags and genuine mistakes in relationships. In this episode, Kasey reflects on how love bombing was her way of receiving validat...

What would you do if someone you love got involved in a toxic community or relationship? Kasey and Kelsey share their thoughts on the recently popular Netflix documentary, Escaping Twin Flames. They analyze the manipulation tactics used by leaders Jeff and Shaleia, who created a cult-like community centered around finding one's twin flame. The besties discuss the disturbing reality of the Twin Fla...

Are you a chitchatter who loves visiting people's houses or do you prefer having them visit you? Kasey and Kelsey discuss their contrasting views and experiences when it comes to visiting friends and family. They compare childhood memories, family dynamics, and personal preferences that shape their attitudes towards social visits. Kelsey reminisces about sitting at kitchen tables and engaging in c...

Ever wondered how your child would handle a bullying situation? Would they talk it out or fight back? Inspired by a TikTok video, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the topic of bullying and how to teach children to handle altercations. They reflect on their own childhood experiences with bullying and openly share how they would want their own children to handle certain situations. Hear their thoughts on se...

With the recent release of Britney Spears’ memoir, Kasey and Kelsey provide their thoughts on the trauma and mental health struggles of the 1990’s pop icon. They discuss the challenges she faced as a young girl in the spotlight, the invasive nature of the media, and the impact of her conservatorship. They also explain the impact of trauma bonds and the pressure put on young girls to be "good" in s...

The Enneagram is a powerful tool that can help us understand our personality type and how we interact with the world. It consists of 9 different types, each with their own motivations, fears, and behaviors. Enneagram expert and licensed professional counselor, Whitney Owens, share her journey of discovering her Enneagram type and how it has transformed her understanding of herself and others.&nbsp...

In this interesting conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss a range of topics including a chupacabra in Wisconsin, experiencing mom guilt, and the importance of pursuing hobbies and self-care. They reflect on the guilt that many moms feel when doing things they love, and the pressure to justify their time and energy.    Hear the besties' thoughts on pursuing activities that bring you happ...

What better way to spark deep, meaning conversation than by playing a game?! In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey play a card game, Let's Get Deep: Questions for Couples, live on the podcast. They dive into icebreakers, deep questions, and then move into asking even DEEPER questions. Little did they know that this fun and simple game would lead them to explore the complexities of relationships and un...

Lies, lies, and more lies!  Inspired by an episode from We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, Kasey and Kelsey dive into the topic of lies vs truths, and the impact that lies have on relationships and personal growth. From past relationships where lies were prevalent, to struggling with being honest about emotions, this episode dives into the complexities of lies and the shame and fear th...

We all know that feeling when something just doesn't seem right in a relationship, but sometimes it can be difficult to recognize those red flags and take action. In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of understanding how past experiences can influence our ability to identify and address red flags in romantic relationships and friendships.    Kasey shares her expe...

In a world that often pushes us into predefined boxes, it's essential to challenge societal norms and embrace non-traditional paths. In this conversation, Kelsey and Kasey discuss their recent visit to a local high school where they spoke to seniors about careers. They share their experiences and observations, including the importance of exploring different career options and embracing creativity....

What happens when we neglect our spiritual selves? In a world where we are constantly bombarded with the pressures of work, relationships, and societal expectations, it's easy to lose sight of our own spiritual well-being. Many of us can find ourselves sacrificing our souls in pursuit of success, whether it be in our careers or even in our roles as parents and partners.    Dawn Gabriel j...

What is holding you back from accomplishing your goals? What if what is in the way is actually the way?    Christy Pennison joins the show to discuss limiting beliefs and how they hold us back from pursuing our goals. Hear personal experiences and insights on overcoming self-doubt and fear, such as Kasey's own journey of gaining self-confidence and embracing authenticity. Christy emphasi...

Are you struggling with self-doubt?  Do you continue to allow limiting-beliefs to hold you back?  You’re not alone.    Many individuals, including therapists, struggle with feelings of insecurity and imposter syndrome, which can limit their potential and hinder their success. This conversation with Patrick Casale, a licensed clinical mental health counselor and addiction specia...

Have you ever felt confined by traditional gender roles in your relationship? In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey share their own personal experiences and discuss the importance of challenging the traditional gender norms. They touch on topics such as parenting, financial responsibilities, and societal expectations, as well as talk through the challenges they have faced in breaking free from these n...

Let’s talk about sex! …and intimacy.  Even though a lot of people consider intimacy to be solely about sex, there is so much more to it than that. Kasey and Kelsey explore the multifaceted nature of intimacy and how it goes way beyond the physical connection.    Drawing from the book "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson, Kasey explains that relationships are emotional bonds built on emoti...

Guilt is a common emotion that many people experience, particularly moms. In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey tackle guilt head-on! They discuss the different types of guilt that mothers experience, such as guilt related to work, finances, and time with their kids. They also discuss the societal expectations placed on mothers, as well as the shame that can come from family members, friends, and...

Grief is a complex emotion. This conversation explores the many layers of grief and how it extends beyond the typical understanding of mourning a death. There's actually so much more to it than that.   Kasey and Kelsey share their personal experiences of grieving different aspects of their lives, such as past versions of themselves and relationships that didn't work out. They also touch on th...

As a follow-up to episode 13 with Nate Johnson, this episode continues with the topic finding fulfillment in life. Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of living in the present moment instead of constantly focusing on the future. They reflect on their own journeys and the societal pressures they faced to achieve certain milestones, such as a “perfect” marriage and financial success. Learn how e...

Looking for a change in your life? Don’t miss this episode!   Nate Johnson (the first dude to join Back Porch Bestie!) joins us to discuss the topics of self-discovery, personal growth, and the pursuit of fulfillment. After societal conditioning led him to chase and achieve success, he was surprisingly left feeling empty and unfulfilled. In this conversation, he emphasizes the importance of b...

Boundaries are a topic that often elicits mixed reactions. Some people embrace them as a necessary tool for maintaining healthy relationships, while others view them as unnecessary or even confrontational.    In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey share personal experiences and examples to illustrate the challenges and benefits of setting boundaries in different areas of life, such as work, r...

The key to a strong relationship? Emotional safety. It is the foundation upon which trust, vulnerability, and intimacy are built. However, many of us may not even be aware of what emotional safety truly means or how it impacts our relationships.    In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of emotional safety and its significance in fostering a healthy and fulfilling...

As a follow-up to episode 09 with Jessica Schroeder, this episode continues with the topic of emotions. Kelsey explains her reasoning for dissociating during the previous episode, and opens up about her journey of self-discovery and the realization that she had been settling for less in life. Together, Kasey and Kelsey delve into their childhood experiences and the impact it has had on their emoti...