B4U Swipe

In this brief episode, Kris and Lauren share their reflections on podcasting this season and their favorite profile highlights.  Pop over to website to get links to the links to those episodes https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home .

In this final episode of Season 1 of B4 U Swipe, Kris and Lauren share two stories and the lessons they learned as they connect with people they met online.  Kris’ storytime highlights include: The ripped social justice advocate from Episode 9 writes back! Kris shares how that went as we reflect on boundaries, the lies we tell ourselves, and managing this fucking pandemic.  Lauren’s storytime high...

Happy Lesbian Visibility Day! In this episode, Kris and Lauren discuss a ripped social justice advocate and a “Lady-Loving Lady.” Kris’ profile highlights include: Our praise of consistent profiles, dopamine hits, hypocrisy, and astrological tattoos. Overall, this profile left Lauren and Kris drooling a little. Lauren’s profile highlights include: Confusing profile pictures, biphobia, and Kris and...

In this episode of B4U Swipe, Kris and Lauren discuss a weed-smoking skier with a violent side and a karaoke-loving, suit-wearing dominant. Content Warning: In this episode we discuss relationship violence because of a profile image we describe. Please take care of yourself as you decide whether or not to listen. If you need support (an ear, planning, local resources), reach out to the National Do...

Kris and Lauren discuss a kilt-wearing dude with a fish and an affluent couple with car trouble Lauren’s profile highlights include: ambiguous couple composition, interpreting drama, math, car aesthetics, and Netflix as a hobby. This profile is a great example as to what couples who are looking for “fun” should NOT do to attract someone. Kris’ profile highlights include: barn terminology, dad bods...

In this bonus content, Kris and Lauren spend more time unpacking why we care about gender in profiles, particularly as it relates to the violent sexualized art shared in Kris’ profile. We reflect on gender identity and our reactions to the art through a gender/patriarchy framework. Reminder: Gender and sex are not a binary (there are more than two genders and more than two sexes naturally and beau...

In this episode of B4 U Swipe, Kris and Lauren discuss a bro with a fancy watch and an unsettling profile image. Note, this profile includes cartoon violence that leads to a brief discussion of gender and violence. Lauren’s profile highlights include: Carefully crafted superficial fanciness, versatility in ball caps, an inexplicable motivational poster, Tinder dismissiveness while being on Tinder,...

In this episode of B4 U Swipe, Kris and Lauren discuss a tough, proud right-wing femme and an arrogant aspiring astral projector. Brace yourselves for Lauren’s loudest cackle and a “Dear men” moment.  Lauren’s profile highlights include: Our first submitted profile! A “New right” woman who hates bad hats. We marvel at their gender norms and appreciate an unexpected Marx joke. Our bias against whit...

Kris and Lauren discuss a woman who seems to have one really good side and a couple looking for some playmates.  Lauren’s profile highlights include: Our memories of black bras and white tank top, getting started dating later in life, and an important conversation about consent when including other people in your images and respecting dancers and sex workers. Overall, this profile was solid, but w...

Kris and Lauren discuss a “vintage” white guy looking for a long term relationship and a queer, vegan, monogamous, sober human. Kris’ profile highlights include: Feelings about grammar and punctuation, choices in profile metaphors (another man and a car!), mysterious “gifts,” the baggage of claiming “no baggage,” and posing for photos. Overall, the profile left us wanting and wondering if a physic...

Kris and Lauren discuss a world traveling burner and bad carpet that pretty much matches the drapes.  Kris’ profile highlights include: Introverts, soul patches, living bear skin rugs, sexting, and the merits of headless torso shots. Overall, the profile delivers, even if we don’t love all choices. Lauren’s profile highlights include: Baby shit brown carpet, mismatched “passions” and images, theor...

This a 2-minute love note, acknowledgment of our fallibility, and commitment to our community. While our intentions are to promote laughter and sex positive reflection on online dating, we acknowledge we aren’t perfect (duh) and are recording spontaneous reactions. If we miss something, say something that is hurtful, or otherwise could do better, please let us know. In the interim, know you are va...

Check out this 8-minute introductory bonus clip to get to know a little more about us (a couple of degree-wielding, social-justice-advocating, sex-positive humans) and the purpose of the podcast (entertainment and a little adult sex ed)! Highlights include sex robots, aol chat rooms, and orgasms over loud speakers. Not sure what sex positive means? Check out this blog post from Pervocacy ( https:/...

Dr. Lauren encourages you to check out the episode notes to get some more tips and traps in content we call “The More You Know.” Jump over to our website [ https://sites.google.com/view/b4uswipe/home ] for more

Hear some first episode jitters as we review profiles without photos. Kris and Lauren discuss a questionably positive gentleman and a queer woman who really wants to get to know you. Both profiles also want you to know, they work out.  Kris’ profile highlights include:  Egregious capitalization (and a wish for secret decoder messages), a fixation on “good manners” (and why only dudes seem to comme...