AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "Is there a certain level of honesty you should bring to conversations? Sometimes not bringing all of your stuff, to protect the feelings of your loved ones, can that also change or destroy relationships?" What you are perhaps calling honesty, I would say, is a...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do we become aware of the places in our lives where we are not taking responsibility?" The short answer, I would say, is to have perspective on yourself. In order for me to have perspective on my own process, I need to first come out of my process and have...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I stay present with others without shutting down or leaving my body?" You could be gardening, you could be cooking together, and notice if your body tenses up and tries to shut down, and that you relax around them. You can be present with them and notic...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I keep joy as a persistent, non-negotiable part of everyday life when responsibility, pressure and unconsciousness keep pulling it away?" Is getting things done more effective when you are joyful, or when you are less or not joyful? Joy is something tha...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I become conscious of a recurring pattern.. before it takes over?" When we are in the pattern, it's always harder to see it. The simple answer, which I don't think is that simple, is to start to pay attention, and as we get better at paying attention we...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "My mind keeps spiralling about someone I don't want to see at an event I'm looking forward to.. how do I manage my energy around it?" When I think back to any time I've had this, the struggle or the suffering seems to come because I'm placing my attention on t...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I deal with the stories my mind makes up while waiting for him to respond?" The mind is having a conversation, and here you are as the observer of the mind. Whatever the content is, it could be anything, because if it's not this, it will be something el...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I own my part in where I've ended up.. without beating myself up over it?" Just because we have awareness of the pattern doesn't mean you don't fall into it. So I would say the first part is to stop, take a breath and scratch that CD, and if it's too la...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "I don't like what AI is doing to the world, but I use it to create images and it gives me anxiety.. how do I navigate this?" This is just my opinion, from my own experience. I agree we can end up relying on AI because it makes things easy, or seem easier, and...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I manage feelings of resentment towards a person while in the conversation and afterwards?" When we feel out of control, or maybe we haven't actually said the thing or done the thing, we let it kind of slip, and then it gets worse. If I'm not saying it,...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "I keep overeating before bed because I'm worried I'll get hungry and won't sleep.. how do I shift this fear?" I would say the overeating is based on some fear, thoughts around sleep and food, and it's kind of like winding up a wind-up toy: you wind up the mind...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "I've met someone I'm interested in, but I keep fantasising about our future.. how do I keep it in check so I don't freak him out?" One of the things our mind does is take the bits of information it has and make up whatever it doesn't know, and when something n...

Start your 7-day free trial of elev8 Premium: yoga, meditation and inner work with me, and a community doing it alongside you. https://www.skool.com/elev8/about Someone asked me: "How do I become aware of the parts of myself that I don't even have the awareness to see yet?" The short answer is that I haven't discovered a way to completely be aware of all the things I'm not aware of, and I'm speaki...

Someone asked me: "I just got promoted and some of my old work friends have gone cold on me.. how do I handle it without becoming someone I'm not?" What I've learned, or I'm still learning, is that different people need to be communicated to in different ways. A one or two word answer is plenty for one person, and for someone else it's "oh my god, what's wrong?" Then there's the promotion. I'm gue...

Someone asked me this in a recent satsang: "Why do I feel so hurt when family or friends don't show up for me the way I expect them to?" Most of us know that feeling. Something hard happens, and you find out fairly quickly who steps forward, who's just sort of there, and who disappears. Here's the part that took me a long time to see. They're just getting on with thei...

Someone asked me this in a recent satsang: "I feel like I'm conditioned to be rushing and doing things quicker than they need to be.. what am I afraid will happen if I slow down?" I don't know what it is for you.. but I can guess. What we do consistently becomes a habit. Do it long enough and it's conditioned, and then it just feels like who I am. It becomes part of our id...

If my clarity feels like rejection to others.. is it on me to adjust? In this satsang Dylan explores what communication really is: not what you say, but what actually lands. He covers simplifying your language, reading how it's received as feedback, aligning words, body and action, and meeting people where they are.. without abandoning your clarity. 🌱 Join the FREE 7-Day Inner Work Challenge...

Someone joked she was being stubborn for skipping a too-early start on a group trip.. but was she actually just listening to her needs? In this satsang Dylan unpacks how to tell the difference: when the same feedback shows up from unconnected people it's worth looking within, how to read the emotional clue underneath your choice, why flexibility is a choice and not a rule, and how to honour y...

This week's question: "If my true nature is freedom and love, what still hides, performs and protects itself even when it knows it's safe?" The short answer? The mind.. the ego. Its whole world revolves around itself.. me, my, I.. always reaching for more love, more freedom, more connection, not realising it already is all of those things. We are a drop of the universe, and the...

You can be warm and open with a stranger.. then walk through your own front door and feel yourself go cold. Why does that happen? This week someone asked: "How do I soften the survival patterns that make me guarded and reactive with the people I'm closest to?" The people closest to us carry the most emotional history with us, so our deepest conditioning fires around them.. often bef...

You're not broken for feeling this way.. your body is trying to tell you something. This week someone asked: "Why am I feeling so frustrated and impatient lately.. and how do I meet it without suppressing it or acting it out?" Frustration and anger aren't signs of personal failure.. they're energy that hasn't had anywhere to go. In this satsang Dylan explores where fr...

You made a decision.. and now a part of you is quietly wondering if it was the right one. Do you follow through? Or change your mind? In a recent satsang, someone asked me a question I think a lot of us wrestle with in private: how much of our commitment to a decision is genuine.. and how much is just pride? I answer it live and unscripted — the two extremes we swing between, why life keeps handin...

Why You Keep Waking Up at 3am (And What Your Body Is Actually Trying to Tell You) It's 3:17am. You're awake again. Not anxious. Not dramatic. Your brain is just on. And no amount of sleep hygiene is fixing it. This isn't insomnia in the way you've been told. Your body isn't broken. Your nervous system is still running survival protocol through the night — and no melatonin,...

The Pattern You Can See, But Can't Stop (The Knowing-Doing Gap Explained) She'd been in therapy for seven years. Could name every pattern, every trigger, every attachment style. And she sat down across from me and said four words: "Nothing has actually changed." If you've ever said "I know what I need to do, I just can't seem to do it" — this episode explain...

The Five Stages of High-Functioning Burnout: Which One Are You In? High-functioning burnout doesn't look like falling apart. It looks like getting everything done, still achieving, still being relied on, still holding it all together. And that's why it's so dangerous — because by the time it becomes obvious, your body, your nervous system, your inner world has been compensating for...