Authentic Men's Group podcast

In this podcast we talk about three components of living a could life. 1. Living 2. Loving 3. Leaving Start by asking yourself these questions: How could I live? What is living?  Really living? Not just existing but truly living. What's musing? What's missing? What does it look like to live out of our imagination, not our history? What does it look like to live out of our inspiration, not our obli...

Could is the focus word of the Benevolent State or state . This is where a man turns from the mirror and seeing his goodness to looking out the window to see how he can use his goodness to change and transform others. The word could indicates that someone has the ability to do something. In this stage we are making the proactive proclamation - "I am goodness. I am value." "I am love."  Definitions...

The Second word is "Good" This word good is a good one isn't it.  Ask the question, "Is it good to be me?" I think this is what makes good such a foundational descriptor for men's groups. When we say to men "You are a good man" we are actually saying, you are good just the way you are right now and you don't have to hide from that". In AMG we make it known they are GOOD and will make good decision...

When we talk about transformation we are talking about change, evolution, resurrection, revision, metamorphosis. To identify these stages we are going to use three words: Should - Discovery,  Good - Maintenance and Could - Benevolence These three words align with the different stages men are in as they participate in small men's groups. The First word is "Should" Some definitions of the word shoul...

Secrets Reflect Our Beliefs About Ourselves "I must hide myself and what I have a tendency to do in the future." "I must hide myself because of what I did in the past." Shame and guilt are the core beliefs of what underlies these statements. Guilt says, "I did something wrong" Shame says, "I am  something wrong"                 Both of these core beliefs leave us  powerless in the present. If I fl...

Introduction When I think of the topic of secrets it is an essential focus of Authentic Men's Groups. One of the axioms of AMG is that 'we have no secret that we have not told someone'. Another truth we live by is to be 'authentic to everyone and vulnerable (completely open) to a select few'.  It has been stated that "the secret sauce of Authentic Men's Groups is that we have no secrets". We discu...

The Negative Relationships Error Friends            Examples: Wife had an affair with best friend. People that have gone through divorce. Not being supported by best friend when going through transition with my wife. These were friends that turned out and then turned on us.  They went from close to far (from inner circles #3 and #4 relationships to outer circles #5 and #6 relationships).         ...

The Sex Connect Introduction Sex is more than hooking up… or is it?  If we are meaning connection when we use the phrase "hooking up" then this may be exactly what sex is all about. The word connection is defined as "a relationship in which a person, thing or idea is linked or associated with something else" If we can link our associations together so that our sexuality is giving expression in the...

Vulnerability Does Not Bite Introduction Definition of vulnerability: The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. With this definition who would want to be vulnerable? Why are we doing this thing if this what the definition is? Vulnerability may seem scary and if not done intentionally it can be!  Vulnerability done intent...

Father's 3 Virtues Introduction Here are some quotes about fathers made in AMG sessions: I never heard my dad tell me he loved me, ever. When I had a dream or a vision I had it dashed by my father. I began to measure up to my Dad when I made more money than he did. I don't ever remember my dad and mother hugging. My dad only showed one emotion and that was anger.        There is a deep longing in...

Rethinking Masculinity General Outline: Why toxic masculine norms need to be challenged and masculinity redefined. What are toxic masculine norms How AMG is challenging toxic masculine norms and redefining masculinity​. Why Toxic Masculine Norms need to be challenged and Masculinity redefined. There are multiple movements going on right now seeking much-needed equality from racial, feminists, and...

Men are hiding in one of two places, they are either hiding from success or hiding in success.  Most men hide from success by just staying away from it and flying below radar. In this way their failures or perceived failures will never be seen. The other type of hider, are the men that hide in their success. These men though fewer in number have a far more elaborate way of hiding.  They achieve mo...

In this podcast we discuss the importance of intentional parenting when it comes to spirituality and sexuality so children are not basing their experience from shame and guilt.