Attract Don't Chase with Chitra Rochlani

Picture this: you’re on a plane, the fear of flying kicks in, and you sit there telling yourself “I’m fine, I’m fine, everything’s okay.” Your heart races anyway. Your breath goes shallow anyway. Your body responds to the emotion whether you give it permission or not. Emotions need about 90 seconds to be released. When we don’t give them that outlet, they don’t disappear. Studies now show suppress...

We’re trained to do, do, do. More productivity, more output, more accomplishment. But all that doing isn’t getting us what we actually want: more peace, more love, more joy. In this episode I talk about the difference between being a doer and a “beer” (yes, being) and why most of us have forgotten how to be still long enough to feel anything at all. When we suppress our emotions, they don’t disapp...

We chase a lot of things. The career, the to-do list, the image of the perfectly put-together life. And somewhere in all that chasing, we forget the one thing that was never out there to begin with. Joy. Let me start by clearing something up, because we use these two words like they mean the same thing, and they do not. Happiness is fleeting. It comes from outside us. A moment, a thing, a person,...

Have you ever felt completely stuck? Like no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get ahead. And every time you try to figure out why, you end up more frustrated than when you started. I’ve been there too. For a long time, I was asking all the wrong questions. Why is this happening to me? When am I finally going to catch a break? Why doesn’t anyone get what I’m going through? Those questions feel...

If I were to ask you, right now, “Who are you?” What is the very first thing you would say? I know how most of us answer. We list our qualifications. We list our titles. Mother. Wife. Daughter. Doctor. Lawyer. Coach. We become so deeply entangled in the roles we play for other people that we forget what it feels like to just be ourselves. We wear these titles like a mask, and for a long time, the...

Today, I am going to share something that might surprise you: you do not need traditional meditation to find your Zen. In fact, for a lot of people, the act of meditating is exactly what makes them feel like they are failing. We have been conditioned to believe that finding calm requires sitting perfectly still and clearing our minds. Here is what usually happens with high-achieving, self-aware in...

Someone recently asked me to explain the meaning of spirituality. It has become a massive buzzword lately, with everyone claiming to be involved in it. Yet, despite this trend, most people are not actually Zen at all. We need to demystify this topic and put it into simple terms without any fluff. You Are Not Your Labels The first step in this process is getting to know your spirit. Throughout life...

Recently, I had a conversation with friends about thrifting. We were talking about buying used clothes and wondering a very specific question: do you take on the energy of the people who wore those items before you? When I shared this online, the answers were completely split. Some people avoid thrift stores entirely to protect their peace. Others said they would happily wear clothes from a sister...

“Stop thinking.” How often do you want to scream that in your own head? We are living in an epidemic of overthinking where we obsess, analyze, and replay conversations over and over again. We run scenarios for problems that have not even happened yet. If you are guilty of that, I have been there too. The Illusion of Control We have been trained to believe that if we just think hard enough, we will...

The Hidden Cost of High-Functioning Burnout Let’s talk about suffering today. I know we do not like to admit it, especially if we are high achievers, but if you are entrenched in suffering, you are probably out of sync with your heart and your soul. I want you to take a second and look around at the relationships in your life right now. Are there arguments, constant chaos, or toxicity? We cannot p...

Who is actually running your life right now? Is it you, or is it that persistent voice telling you that you are not good enough? In my world, we call this the inner critic or the “evil inner witch.” This is the voice of fear, worry, doubt, and insecurity. It is often the loudest voice in the room. This critic is an old program installed by society, conditioning, or how you were raised. While it mi...

Have you ever caught yourself labeling someone as “difficult,” “too much,” “so logical,” or “emotionally unavailable” and filed them away in that box? Or has someone done that to you? Today, I want to talk to you about the duality factor. This concept shifted a lot for me in the way that I show up in my relationships. The truth is that every single one of us carries both strengths and blind spots,...

Welcome back to the warrior mindset podcast. In our latest episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with my dear friend and six-time world karate fighting champion, Christina Ioannides. Christina wears many hats: she works full-time in wealth management, but her true passion lies in her business, Fabulous and Fearless. Through her company, she runs self-defense workshops and presentations focus...

Have you ever made a decision that looked right on paper but something in your body felt tight, heavy, or off? On the flip side, have you ever made a choice that didn’t make logical sense at all, but you felt calm, expansive, and strangely certain? That is the difference between ego-led decisions and soul-led choices . We often talk about “trusting our gut,” but it can be difficult to distinguish...

“I was a zero. I was probably a negative back when I was 25.” That is how mindset coach Susan Vernicek describes the start of her adult life. She wasn’t just struggling; she was deep in a “victim mindset.” She was numbing herself with partying and drinking. She was convinced that life was happening to her rather than for her. In this week’s episode, we sit down with Susan to discuss how she pulled...

In the corporate world, we worship data. It has become our modern religion. We operate under the belief that if we just gather enough spreadsheets, create enough charts, and analyze enough metrics, the “right” decision will magically appear before our eyes. But here is the reality we rarely admit: we are drowning in paperwork. We are so inundated with information that by the time we process the lo...

Let me ask you something. Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I’m not even doing that much... so why am I always tired?” You aren’t running marathons. You aren’t working 20-hour days. Yet, you wake up tired. You move through the day exhausted. And by the evening? You are completely depleted. If this is you, I want you to hear this first: There is nothing wrong with you. This exhaustion is not a...

Loneliness is one of the biggest threats to our success. We often sit behind our screens, convinced that we have to figure it all out by ourselves. We tell ourselves that asking for help is a weakness or that no one else can execute our vision as well as we can. But the truth is simple: you cannot grow in isolation. Today on the podcast, I am joined by Betty Galvan. She is a powerhouse who embodie...

We treat our bodies like temples, yet we often treat our minds like overflowing storage units. Think about your routine. We go to the gym to work out. We take care of our skin by drinking water and using the right products. We visit spas for treatments that make us glow. We obsess over longevity and “Blue Zone” habits. We nourish ourselves with high-nutrient foods. We do so much for the physical v...

In this week’s episode, I sat down with a new friend, Nancy Steinberg, who has a story that will stop you in your tracks. Nancy is a healthcare communications professional and a passionate cancer patient advocate. But before she was an advocate, she was a patient navigating a terrifying reality not once, but twice. Nancy is a 26-year breast cancer survivor and has been living with Chronic Myeloid...

We are taught that empathy is a virtue. But what happens when your kindness becomes the weapon used against you? We often believe that if we are just “nice enough,” “helpful enough,” or “compliant enough,” we can make our relationships work. We think our empathy is a shield. But my latest guest, communication coach Robin Robin Golinski, learned the hard way that for a manipulator, your empathy isn...

We all do it. We make schedules, we build businesses, we manage outcomes, and we tell ourselves, “I’ve got this”. We plan, prepare, and try to predict everything because we believe we are in the driver’s seat. But somewhere in the background, the universe smiles and whispers, “Do you though?” . The truth is, we never really had control. What we had was an illusion of control . It feels comforting...

On Thanksgiving weekend in 2011, Ron Gold’s life was perfect. By the end of the day, he was fighting to survive. We often talk about the “Warrior Mindset” on this podcast—that ability to push through boundaries and challenge ourselves. My guest this week, Ron Gold , lived that mindset daily. He was a successful Wall Street executive, an Asian equities expert, and an adrenaline junkie who spent his...

Your Stress is a Program. Here’s How to Uninstall It. Subtitle: A 3-step framework to move from overwhelm to intuitive clarity. Hi everyone, I want to ask you a question: Are you constantly exhausted from what’s going on in your life? Do you feel like you’re always trying to escape reality? What if I told you that this constant state of stress and overwhelm is not your natural state? What if it’s...

When you hear the term “warrior mindset,” what comes to mind? For many, it’s a feeling of competition, of fighting to be the best, of winning at all costs. But in my recent conversation on The Warrior Mindset podcast, my guest Saba Laeeq offered a powerful alternative. Saba is a Gold Circle Excellence winner at Keller Williams Suburban Realty, a community builder, and an interfaith leader. And for...