Attitudes/Answers with Olen Baker

Corrections should always come in love, not hate.  We are better off when we can clearly understand the value of change.  It's never easy but if we are the recipient of criticism, step back, talk to God, and discover a better resolve.  

Ask God for the wisdom, courage, and strength to accept it.  God has designed guidelines for each of us to walk on the bettter side of life.  Sometimes that means that you have to change your path.  Accept it and reap the benefits of change.

Criticism is a negative attack on someone else and it never generates a positive result.  Turn to God to discover a better way to address your anxiety and hurtful behavior.  God will show you how.  

Isn't a conversation better than a fight?  Talk through problems and base that conversation on what God would say.  That's where you begin.

God did not design you to have a critical attitude.  That behavior diminishes as you see yourself, and others, as precious in God's sight.

Simple, or maybe not so simple for you.  Turn to God and ask him to send help, today.

Criticism transforms into emotional abuse over time.  Turn to God, first to center your belief in self.  Through Him, find a path that supports healing.

Inferiority is something we all face at times.  Long term inferiority can lead to a dangerous place.

Proverbs 4 says, Be careful how you think:  your life is shaped by your thoughts.  Lies will take you to a deeper place of infereiority.  God can help you out with the truth of His word.  He knows you.  He can help.

The greater the feeling of inferiority, the more violent the emotional confrontation. That's a quote from psychologist Alfred Adler.  God gives each of us the power to change by facing the truth.  Until we do that, the darkness of violence will grow.  It's time to have that conversation with God.  

Self-deception is a lie.  Failure to communicate the whole truth, is a lie.  We are all guilty.  God knows each of us and he also knows how to move us beyond the lie.  Trust him to do that in your life, today.

Violence changes a family from a place of security and safety to one of fear and anxiety.  Violence is all around us.  The good news is that God replaces a violence through faith.  Rather than look to ramp up a bad situation, go instead to God for direction and healing.  

Violence demonstrates a deeper level of powerlessness.  The Bible says it is better to be patient than powerful.  We are not immune to acts of violence.  That's why it's important to first, stop in your tracks and spend a moment with God.  It works every time.

Bullying, especially in school has become a top news item.  Emotional abuse unfortunately happens all around us.  And when we're the target, it's sometimes feels like it's impossible to get help.  The good news is that God is there with you.  Just reach out and ask Him to help.  He will.

God cannot be embarrassed or made to feel ashamed by what has happened to you.  He is able to bring to a place of safety, resolution, and healing.  For you, and anyone who has suffered sexual abuse.  Time to have a conversation?

Homes are supposed to be a secure place to live and grow.  Too many times, homes are the source of the darker side of life.  The good news is that God lives within you.  In a home that us under attack, God is there.  Just reach out to Him.  

Tension and stress affect everyone, no matter economics, social status, or profession.  HOW we handle tension is an important part of surviving those days when nothing is going right.  The good news, God is there with you.  Start the conversation and move away from the stress.

Trauma can create a feeling of detachment, which is a sympton of continuing stress.  God understands us and He also knows how to bring us back, closer to Him, and closer to healing.  He is the way.

Trauma is a delayed response to a significant life event.  We are all at some time in our lives, exposed to trauma.  Trust God to keep His promises for you when life's sorrows and grief surfaces.  

Conflict is what it is.  How conflict is managed is the solution.  Avoiding conflict is not the way.  God has a solution for you.

Anxiety creates a fight or flight reaction.  God has the power to help you clear your conscience.  Without his help, you are only amping up those issues.  Take a moment to have a conversation with God and begin to move away from conflict in peace.

Your very worst day is one that God believes can be turned around.  When you activate faith in your life, worst days will still come.  But with faith, you now have the power to overcome them.  Amazing, isn't it?

It's tough, but necessary to see problems not from your eyes, but from God's perspective.  That's the first step to take when addressing issues in your life.  Can you do that?

The answer is, you can't.  Life is full of stress.  But you CAN manage stress.  Turn to God.  That's always the first and best step.  Like the song says "Don't Worry, Be Happy".  God has you covered.

Stress is a produce of a hurried lifestyle.  You could say that's me, and for most folks, it is.  Here is what you can do.  Ask God if what I am doing today is honorable to God.