Attitudes/Answers with Olen Baker

Sure, we all have our opinions and beliefs.  Instead of finding the great divide, focus on the beautiful bridge.  Yes, it does exist in every family, even yours.

We all have experienced jealuosly at times.  It's a natural part of our lives.  Understanding is the key.  Putting others first and allowing them to be who they are is the solution.

Accept reality and consequences as your first baby steps.  Then, allow God to help you get to where you must be.  

You know what, sibling rivalry exists, in every family.  Rivalry exists in the workplace, in every day life.  God knows how to help us nulify discord with harmony.  Have a talk with God for further instructions.

First, we are all flawed.  That's our design.  We are also given choices and those choices work in our favor when they are following what God wants us to do.  That, in a nutshell, is maturity.  

We all have lapses in judgement and those poor judments always lead to disappointment.  God is your single most powerful source for moving away from disappointment.

The quick answer...yes.  IF you follow that with a conversation with God.  Disappointment hurts.  God can help you heal.  It's true.

Immarutity is a stumbling block for making good decisions.  It's uncomfortable and most always puts you in a bad place.  Maturity is just one place in your life, it's every place in your life and it is a life-long pursuit.  God can help.  Just ask Him.

A lack of maturity equates to failure in a long-term relationship.  God is a perfect place to start that conversation.  Try it.  It works.

Love, joy and peace.  Did you know that's what God want's us to discover, experience and enjoy in life.  Surprised?

Ever hear the term, "grow up".  Here's how it works.  Sacrifice, suffer a bit and have an attitude that tomorrow will be better because today, you learned a lesson.  Ouch, but necessary.

Success in a relationship is not always easy.  It requires both of you to share similar values and a focused vision on the future.  Communication is at the key of making that happen.

Relationships are a mix of mutual values.  That means listening first and then gently telling how you feel.  Respect always comes first.

Compatibility has to be nurtured, the same way you would care for a child.  Gentle, loving, consistent acts will help you get there.

Perfect compatibility is not a requirement for a strong relationship.  Communication is an essential element for building it.

The perfect soul mate.  Yeah, right.  Not so easy to find, is it?

Commitment solidifies compatibility by pledging long-term security.  Not always easy, but always necessary.

Not many want discord in a relationship.  Not even you.  But when discord exists, life can be tougher than is should be.  Are you in a compatible relationship?

You might call it a soul mate.  Finding the right person is the mystery of the ages.  So how is your journey going?

Compatibility is synonymous with harmony and unity.  That formula works well in any relationship.  So, how about you?

It's easy to be critical.  Not so easy to be correct.  God can help you with that conversation.

When criticism is paired with wisdom and insight it has a much better chance of creating change for the better.  We are flawed, we sometimes fail, but when we are given proper direction, we become better in God's eyes.

It's important to accept feedback when and where you have fallen short.  We are human.  We sometimes fail.  It's also important to apologize so we can move forward with a clean heart.  Not always easy, but always necessary.

God tells us to model his grace and mercy in place of being critical or cynical.  Be careful how you live.  It has lasting effects.

Sure, you'll respond with anger and doubt about the person giving you criticism and eventually you might realize that the messenger was wrong. but the message was right.  Talk to God and discover how to move in a better direction.