Asking for Myself

Self-pleasure, Shame, and Double Standards If you grew up with a lot of shame and fears around masturbation (shame which you very well still may carry), this episode is for you.  Join me as I dive into an eye-opening discussion with the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of Sex Ed with DB , Danielle Bezalel .   Today’s Questions What has your own personal journey with self-pleasure looked like?...

Boundaries, Codependency, and People Pleasing Do you find yourself constantly struggling with setting boundaries, feeling caught up in codependent patterns, or finding it challenging to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing? In this episode, we navigate the delicate terrain of personal boundaries, codependency, and the art of putting oneself first. Join me as I embark on a thought-provoking...

Do you have that one friend that’s always in a toxic relationship? Is that friend you? This episode is all about red flags, unhealthy dynamics, and some serious introspection. I dive into murky waters with therapists Dr. Carli Blau and Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick (aka Dr. Liz).  Here’s what we get into: Are there predictors for ending up in an unhealthy relationship, such as childhood trauma/certain typ...

Painful Sex, Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy, and Pursuing Pleasure Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. 🙊 Today we’re talking all things painful penetration. In this episode, I am joined by wellness influencer and podcast host Alyssa Harper and pelvic floor physical therapist and online health educator Dr. Sabrina Baxter . This episode is so import...

STIs, Herpes, Genital Warts, and Taking Control of your Sexual Health This episode was born out of an Instagram DM, “was on a second date...he says: “I have genital warts” and feel like if it’s heading in that direction it something you need to know” and I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. No one has ever prepared me for that moment except in middle school the teachers saying stay away from people with STI...

Self-love, body image, and self-pleasure Today I am joined by the one and only Cat Lygate, the founder of UNGIRL . UNGIRL is a platform to educate and empower people's sexuality and self-confidence. Cat dropped so many gems this episode! 💎 Here’s what I asked her: How did religion play a role in your attitude toward sex and masturbation? How did you cope with slut-shaming? How have you develo...

Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking about a topic that’s near and dear to my heart, sexual trauma. This episode contains content about a topic that is understandably highly sensitive for many people. If this topic is triggering for you, it may be difficult to listen to this episode. That being said, the goal of this episode is...

How does your attachment style impact your relationships? Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by Dr. Betsy Chung and Nicole Walke r We’re taking it back to where it all began…our childhoods. We talk about the buzzy topic of attachment styles and how we can meaningfully understand our pasts to inform a brighter future, particular...

Being Single, Getting on Apps, and Learning How to Communicate Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by Ilana Dunn , host of the podcast Seeing Other People , and Stevie Bowen , author and creator of The City of Dating . Today we get into my least favorite topic…dating apps. Of course, I had a lot of questions, including the follo...

Casual Sex, Hookups, and Building Sexual Confidence Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by sex therapist-in-training training and host of the Handy Mandy Podcast , Amanda Pahl , and sex and relationship coach Dr. Tara , host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast . Here’s what we get into on the episode: How do you get comfortable...

Couples Counseling, Navigating Conflict, and Sex Therapy Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by sex therapist Kaycee Polite and relationship coach Shula Melamed to talk all things couples counseling. What do I ask this week? What is the difference between therapy and coaching? What is sex therapy and who is it for? Is it ever too...

Resentment, Anger, and Jealousy in a Relationship Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking all things conflict and communication. I had the privilege of being joined by Jayda, aka your Sex Positive Asian Auntie , and Adam Maurer , your “straight-friendly” sex-positive relationship therapist. So, what do we talk about? How do you not...

Masculinity, Mental Health, and Body Image for Black Men Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking all things men and mental health. In this episode, I am joined by investor, community builder, and mental health advocate, Rollins Stallworth III , and Broadway actor, sexuality educator, and phenomenal dancer slash chef, Tyrone Davis J...

Herpes, Mental Health, Suicide, Stigma Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking all things herpes and mental health. In this episode, I am joined by Courtney Brame, the the Founder and Podcast Host of Something Positive for Positive People . This conversation is as much about herpes as it is about mental health and compassion. T...

Sexual Communication, Fantasies, and Cultivating Desire Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking all things sexual desire and communication. In this episode, I am joined by world-renowned sexologist Dr. Jessica O’Reilly . And you know I’ve got a lot of questions. Including? What is consent beyond yes/no and how does consent lead us...

Vulva Insecurities, Oral Sex, and Orgasm Land Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking all things oral sex. In this episode, I am joined by sex therapist Casey Tanner and sexologist and educator Goody Howard . And I’ve got a lot of questions. Including? How can people overcome their vulva insecurities? Are vulva insecurities heighte...

Penis Pleasure, Size, and Dysfunction Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. In this episode, I am joined by urologist Dr. Justin Houman and sex writer Bobby Box to discuss all things penises. 🍆 I don’t have one, but I do have questions. Such as? Can you masturbate too much? Can you make your penis bigger? Should you? Can you get pregnant from pre-...

Vaginas, Periods, Birth Control, Culturally Competent Care, and Racism in Healthcare Is my vagina normal? Is birth control bad? How do I find an affirming gynecologist? Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to (well, hopefully not for long!). Today’s episode is about all things vaginal & vulvar care. If you have a uterus, chances are, you haven’t a...

Sexual Shame, Abortion, Religion, and Pleasure Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. If you’re anything like me, you grew up with religious influences — namely, shame. In this episode, I am joined by Irma, CSE from Dirty South Sex Ed ( @sexedwithirma ) and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program, Erica Smith, M.Ed. ( @ericasmith.sex.ed ) to...

What They Definitely Do Not Tell You About Pregnancy Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. In this episode, I am joined by April Davis of The Vagina Blog ( @thevaginablog ) to, of course, discuss all things vaginas. We exactly did we talk about? Feeling empowered and advocating for yourself as a patient in healthcare settings Birth control and repr...

Therapy, Instagram, and Instagram Therapy Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. In this episode, I am joined by Amanda White, LPC ( @therapyforwomen ) and Todd Baratz, LMHC ( @yourdiagnonsense ) to discuss what it's like to be a therapist on Instagram and how reliable "Instagram therapy" is. We cover quite a lot of territory. Such as, you might be...

Navigating Ethical Non-monogamy Welcome back to Asking for Myself , where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. In this episode, I am joined by Jo Encarnacion aka @gofitjo and Gabrielle Smith to discuss all things polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. What exactly do we talk about?   Defining ethical non-monogamy — what is it? Are polyamory and ENM the same thing? What does "ethical" mean? H...

Masturbation, Orgasms, Mindfulness, and Selfish Sex Welcome to the first episode of Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. In this episode, I am joined by Portia Brown, the Founder of Froetic Sexology , and Celine Manning aka Coach Baddie , the CEO of Sex With Baddies. Trust me, you are in for a serious treat with all the gems dropped this episode! Some of the topic...