#AskAMan

Anonymous’ partner moved to another province after she found a job there. He helped her move and even bought furniture for her, however, his help was met with scepticism from his partner’s family, which left him feeling disheartened.  Fast forward to now, they’ve had many back and forths in their relationship with anonymous feeling unappreciated. His partner has now lost her...

Anonymous and her partner have been married for six years now and they have two children together.  Their relationship was ok until they had a huge rift, which left anonymous feeling like her partner’s family is too involved in their relationship. Her partner moved out of their house and told her that he now wants a divorce.  She adds that her partner has also said he was actually...

Anonymous has been with his partner for almost two years now and they now live together with her two children.  His partner was in the middle of lobola proceedings when she broke up with the father of her children and they had gotten a joint-mortgage for the house they lived in. Anonymous wants to marry his partner but he’s worried that his partner is still jointly linked to a major ass...

Anonymous met a man on a dating site about three weeks ago, and she’s enjoying getting to know him but he seems to only be available to her during office hours.  She confronted him about this behaviour and he said it’s because he’s struggled with insomnia in the past and is often off his phone in the evenings to remedy this. He also added that he’s been single for a lo...

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost six years, they’ve been married for two of those years and they have a ten month old child.  Their relationship is generally great, but the problem is a friend that her partner has, as she’s seen videos of them being cozy together and they’ve even exchanged messages declaring their love for each other.  They’ve been f...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for three years. He already had two children before they started dating and they have  since had a child together who is now 10 months old.  They are in a long distance relationship and last week, when he came to visit her for her birthday, he was trying to post pictures of her on his WhatsApp stories when she noticed that he blocked 3 ladies...

Anonymous has been with his partner, on and off, for about a year and a half now. They broke up twice in their relationship mostly because he used to go out a lot and also cheated on her.  They are now back together but he suspects that she might be in a relationship with the guy she was having a thing with before they got back together.  He doesn’t have any concrete evidence of th...

Anonymous met a lady at the gym in the latter part of last year, the lady had a boyfriend, but they ended up having an affair.  Things got more serious between them as they were spending a lot of time together and she told this lady that she’d like to make things official between them which caused a rift between them because this lady was struggling to break up with her boyfriend. ...

Anonymous is in her late twenties and is a mother of an 18 month old baby. She was with the father of her child for about three years but the relationship was toxic and after she gave birth she broke up with her partner and moved out of his family home.  Months after the break up she went back to the house to fetch her things, and this is when she met her ex’s new girlfriend. The new gi...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for two years now and during that they moved in together and built a house together.  A couple of months after they bought the house, her partner started behaving differently, going out more and having fun with friends. Anonymous addressed his changed behaviour, he agreed to spend more time at home but it’s been going on for months now. ...

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2017 and they got married in 2019, she adds that he was a virgin when they met in their late twenties.  Her problem is in the bedroom as he struggles to pleasure her and when she tries to find out what he likes, he’s not sure.  Anonymous has tried many different things to get them on the same page sexually, but their sex life has not been i...

Anonymous has been with her partner, guy no.1, for about 4 years now and things were fine until he lost his job and it created a burden on their relationship.  She started noticing things about his treatment of her, realising that he often body shames her and is always speaking down to her.  She has now started dating other people: guy no.2, who’s married and has said he doesn&rsqu...

Anonymous and her fiancé have been in a relationship for over a decade now and live together with two of their children, including her child, from a previous relationship, and a child they have together. Her fiancé also had a child with someone else while they already in a relationship.  Her problem is how her partner sometimes speaks to her, she feels that he can be very insens...

Anonymous broke up with his partner a few months ago, after five years together, because she cheated on him with a guy she had a history with.  He feels as though things became problematic in their relationship after he lost his job and couldn’t provide for them anymore.  Some time has gone by since the break-up and he’s wondering if he let go of the relationship too easily,...

Anonymous broke up with the father of her child 5 years ago after he cheated on her and impregnated another woman.  He didn’t support their child after their break-up, and only started doing so after their child turned three. He’s now back in their lives and wants to get back together with anonymous after the lady he cheated on her with cheated on him.  Anonymous is open to o...

Anonymous met her partner in January this year and says their relationship has been great, he ticks all the boxes and she feels quite comfortable being herself around him.  This past weekend while they were at gathering with friends, she caught him on a video call with another lady who was complaining that he doesn’t make time for her anymore.  Anonymous’ partner says it&rsqu...

Anonymous has been with his partner for the last 6 years, a year ago she moved overseas for a new job and to further her studies.  He says communication between them was great at the start of her period away, but over the last six months the communication has not been as regular as it used to be, mostly because she keeps claiming that she’s too tired to chat.  She’ll be comin...

Anonymous is in her early 40s and is a mother of three.  She’s in the dating market and says she tends to attract much younger men, and thinks it’s because of her younger looking appearance.  The younger men sexually fulfil her more than the older men that she’s dated, and while this is great for her sexual appetite, she wants to get into a more serious relationship and...

Anonymous and her husband met in 2016 and got married in 2022.  She stopped working at some point and started her own business. A couple of years later her partner, who’s much older, was retrenched due to the Covid pandemic, she suggested different things for him to try including helping in the business, but he hasn’t done much since.  Her husband got a large payout after he...

Anonymous has been married to her partner for about 10 years now and they have two children together.  She travels often in her job and back in 2018 ,when she got back from a work trip, she noticed suspicious messages on her partner’s phone with another woman, but she didn’t want to read too much into it and ignored this.  This behaviour continued and upon her return from ano...

Anonymous started dating his partner back in 2017 after they’d known each other for a few years.  They have a child together with his partner, however, he doubts that he’s the father of this child. The situation is a bit familiar for anonymous as he has his suspicions that his parents might not be his biological family.  This background has made it difficult for anonymous to...

Anonymous is in her early 40s and she was married for 18 years before separating from her husband three years ago. She says came out of the marriage with very little and has spent the last few years rebuilding her life.  She met a man who’s in his late twenties within the last year and months after they started dating he proposed and they are now engaged.  They have been together f...

Anonymous met his partner seven years ago and says they moved in together at his partner’s family home, on her request, as he used to live at his work quarters when they met.  He was initially ok with this living arrangement, however, over time he’s felt emasculated by this situation, with people in the community referring to him as “makoti”.  He has spoken to his...

Anonymous started dating the mother of his child about four years ago and says things were great until he lost his job and was in the process of starting a new business.  He cheated on her in the midst of all of this, she forgave him and said they should move as she felt he cheated because of the area in which he lived. She helped him grow his business and he says things got busy in that busi...