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Today's question comes from someone I'm calling Waiting to Feel Like Me Again. She's been through back-to-back surgeries, she can't work, she can't do the things that used to make her feel like herself — and she's asking how to get back to feeling like you when everything that made you feel like you has been taken away. I know this one from the inside. In August 2020,...

She was gracious for years. She took the high road. She kept the peace — while someone worked against her behind the scenes at the worst moment of her life. She and her sisters eventually made a quiet decision and walked away. They have peace now. Real peace. But she wants to know: is she allowed to have that peace without forgiveness? This week Anita answers honestly. Have a question you want Ani...

She pours into everyone around her — her husband, her kids, the people she loves — and she does it because that’s just who she is. But she is exhausted. And the guilt that shows up every time she tries to take something for herself stops her before she even starts. This week Anita answers the question so many women are carrying: how do you make time for yourself without feeling like you’re taking...

It is not wrong exactly. It is just — its own thing. This week, in honor of Father’s Day, Anita answers the question every woman who has ever lived with a dad is secretly asking: is Dad Logic a universal phenomenon — or is it just my house? Spoiler: it is not just your house. From the man who “made dinner” to the dog who now sleeps in the bed because someone couldn’t handle two nights of sad eyes...

She raised her kids. She figured it out. She survived it. And now she watches her daughter complain about exhaustion while sleeping in — and bites her tongue so hard she can taste it. She said something once. It did not go well. This week Anita answers the question every mother of adult children is asking: when is it okay to say something — and when do you just let them figure it out the hard way?...

She made a homemade lasagna. She cleaned the whole house. And then nobody showed up — no call, no apology, just a last-minute text saying she went somewhere else. Oh, and she tried to take the mutual friend with her. This week Anita answers the question that comes up in every family eventually: do boundaries actually apply to the people who are supposed to love you most? Have a question you want A...

Someone wrote in to ask if she’s lost her mind — or finally found herself. She lives in stretchy pants, slip-on shoes, and an oversized top, and she has never been happier. Her family thinks she’s given up. Her friends give her a hard time about it. But she thinks she’s arrived somewhere. This week Anita answers the question nobody wants to say out loud: is dressing for comfort a defeat — or is it...

Have you ever made a hard decision — and then questioned it every single day after? This week’s question comes from someone who discovered a trusted friend had been secretly recording private conversations. She chose to walk away. Then the second-guessing began. This episode is about why doing the right thing can still hurt… why grief and a good decision can exist at the same time… and why quietly...