Ask a Couples Counsellor with Neha Kapoor

In today’s episode, Neha makes a special announcement about the future of 'Ask A Couple’s Counsellor'.   Connect: Novo Empower Counselling website Novo Empower Counselling on LinkedIn Novo Empower Counselling on Instagram Novo Empower Counselling on Facebook Novo Empower Counselling on Psychology Today Neha Kapoor on LinkedIn This show is produced in collaboration with Wavelength...

Love will tempt you to compromise, make adjustments, and change a few things, but it should never change who you are. In this episode, we explore how long-term relationships can lead to self-resentment and how said resentment can be prevented and cured. We touch on individuality and how real intimacy asks you to bring it, not to change it. Finally, we talk sexuality and finding self-confidence in...

There are some questions about love that we’re too scared to ask or, perhaps, we think are too small to explore, but they are just as important. In this episode, we discuss the difference between mothering and caring, we also tackle what really makes relationships last, and we shed a light on the fear of being loved.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want answered? Drop...

The Holiday season is for generosity and giving, but that usually comes with a price tag. In this episode, we break down the steps needed to cut holidays costs without disappointing your loved ones, how to navigate not being able to spend as much as someone has for you, and whether or not giving back is an obligation or are there other ways to show appreciation.   Submit your question: Do you...

Holiday prep usually has its own unique stressors, from disagreements over tradition to navigating grief, but it’s also an opportunity for connection. In this episode, we discuss how to deal with the first Christmas after losing a loved one, the benefits of sharing the load when preparing for celebrations, and how deviating from tradition can forge better ones.   Submit your question: D...

Attachment styles are a product of the type of love you’ve learned and grown up with. In this episode, we explore the different attachment styles, the dynamics between them, and whether they can be changed over time.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want answered? Drop us a line at novoempowercounselling@gmail.com     Connect: Novo Empower Counselling website...

Trauma doesn’t discriminate based on who you are, and you might be surprised at the times you’ve experienced trauma.  In this episode, we explore the different ways that we experience trauma, how to support a partner as they work through their trauma, and how conflict avoidance might be a trauma response.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want answered? Drop...

A wedding is a day, but marriage is every day after.  In this episode, we discuss what you should know before the wedding,  the common challenges faced by many newlyweds in the first year, and how to have hard conversations about wedding budgets.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want answered? Drop us a line at novoempowercounselling@gmail.com     Connect...

It’s normal for couples to have a lot of questions once they’ve decided to pursue counselling. In this episode, we lay out what a couples counsellor actually does, how to work out if a counsellor is the right fit for you, how to tell if counselling is working, and what the circumstances are that would lead to a counsellor turning down a couple.   Submit your question: Do you have...

Everybody enjoys something different in the bedroom, so what matters is how you navigate those conversations. In this episode, we discuss how to explore kinks as a single person, what the difference is between kink shaming and not being interested in a kink, and how to get out of your own head after you’ve shared a kink with your partner.   Submit your question: Do you have a question y...

Dating these days can feel like an endless carousel of swiping, talking stages, and first dates on repeat, leaving you feeling exhausted and disheartened. So how do you find romance without technology? And if you do, how do you keep the green-eyed monster at bay and show your partner how much you value them? In this episode, we answer the question on everyone’s lips: how do you meet people o...

We’ve all seen will-they-won’t-they relationships play out on TV where two people date and break up over and over again until they can figure it out and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case in real life. In this episode, we explore why we revisit relationships that haven’t worked out in the past. We discuss whether it’s possible to be addicte...

With more and more modern daters finding themselves in situationships, it’s becoming increasingly a matter of when it’ll happen to you, rather than if. In this episode, we define what a situationship is, why we fall into them, and how to break the cycle. We also explore how to end a situationship with tact and care.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want answered?...

Blending families is a complex process that requires sensitivity, patience, and love to be handled effectively. In this episode, we explore how to navigate a turbulent relationship between an adult child and their new stepparent, the challenges of children feeling replaced by stepsiblings in their parents’ eyes, and how to include your partner’s children in a proposal.   Submit yo...

When the butterflies have flown away and the fireworks have stopped, the thing that will keep your relationship strong is choosing to show up for your partner and create moments of intimacy and excitement. In this episode, we unpack why continuing to put in effort is essential for any relationship, from long-distance to long-term. We also define micro-cheating and the effect it can have on your re...

What do you do when you’re up against the clock and it feels like you’re running out of time to start a family? In this episode, we discuss the reality of using frozen embryos after a breakup, how to temper expectations with IVF and handle grief if it doesn’t work out, and why you might choose to have a child by yourself.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you wa...

Grief looks different for everyone, but it’s a pain we’ll all experience in our lives. In this episode, we explore how to navigate the grief of losing a partner to suicide, a life-changing cancer diagnosis, and the pain of a husband refusing to end an affair.  If you have concerns for the mental well-being of yourself or a loved one, please get in touch with Lifeline on 13 11 14 o...

Navigating the careers of two individuals can be difficult as a couple, particularly with kids involved, because there is often an expectation that one person will put their career on hold to raise them. In this episode, we explore the conversations couples need to have about balancing work and family. We discuss the couple whose kids have grown up and moved out, but one person is still the breadw...

Divorce means a lot of different things to different people. For each person who feels empowered and freer, another feels lonely, lost, or isolated. Often, these feelings can co-exist within a person who is getting divorced. In this episode, we explore the often conflicting feelings you might experience when going through a divorce, how to support your children if you have them, and how to reconne...

Therapy involves a lot of openness and vulnerability from clients. Clients often ask me why I became a couples therapist and if I truly understand the issues they're going through. In this episode, I'm opening up about how my personal experiences led me to choose a career as a couples therapist. I discuss the lessons I learnt through love, loss, and pain in my own relationships and how my lived ex...

We hear a lot about “boundaries” online and in therapy, but what is a boundary and how do we use them? In this episode, we explain what boundaries are and why there are no one-size-fits-all boundaries, how to start implementing boundaries if you struggle with saying no to people, and how to have conversations with your partner to understand their needs while expressing your own.  ...

How do you talk about the future of your relationship? In this episode, we discuss the “right time” to talk about marriage and kids when you’re dating, what you and your partner need to consider before opening a joint bank account, and how to sensitively talk to your partner about money if they seemingly never have any.   Submit your question: Do you have a question you want...

Sex is different for everybody. In this episode, we discuss how to explore new elements of your sexuality if you’re already in a monogamous relationship, whether you can maintain a satisfying sexual relationship if sex is painful for you or your partner, and how to develop your confidence if you’re freshly dating after only ever having one partner.   Submit your question: Do you h...

Whether you’re trying to grow your family or keep it the same size, family planning journeys can trigger complex feelings within romantic, familial, and platonic relationships. So, what can you do if you’re having a hard time? In this episode, we discuss how you and your partner can support each other after a miscarriage and how to reconnect with loved ones if you’ve isolated you...

This is the final part of our two-part chat with Petra. In the last episode, Petra explained how she met and fell in love with Nathan. She shared some of their ups and downs and how she discovered that Nathan was leading a double life. In this episode, Petra describes the fallout of discovering Nathan had been in an ongoing relationship with another woman while making plans for a life with her. Sh...