Asian American Parenting

In part 2 of this series on adolescent research, scripture and Asian American parenting, Danny and Monica look at recent research on unstructured social media use in teenagers and its impact on their mental health. They consider aspects of unstructured and structured time in the lives of teenagers as well as how parents and teenagers can redeem time, in godly ways, in the lives of teenagers. They...

In this new series, Danny and Monica look at recent research and studies about teenagers and families and assess them through the lens of scripture. They then apply their conclusions for its implications for Asian American Parenting. In part 1 of this series, they examine a study about childhood religious experiences and adult outcomes, and how it relates to communication in the adult-teenager rel...

In this final episode of the mini-series on what Scripture teaches about Asian American parenting, Danny and Monica look at Psalm 127:3 in relation to the Confucian upbringing that many Asian American parents were brought up within. They contrast this with Psalm 127:3, as well as the idea of parents being ambassadors of God to their children. They close with an exhortation on how repentance is par...

In this episode of AAP, Danny and Monica continue in part 3 of their mini-series on scripture and Asian American Parenting, and look at Ephesians 6:1-4. They discuss the contrast between Paul’s exhortation for children to obey their parents versus parents not to provoke their children to anger. They continue to discuss the idea of parenting from a 1st generation perspective to the rise of Tiger pa...

In this episode of AAP, Danny and Monica continue in part two of their mini-series on scripture and Asian American Parenting, and look at Proverbs 22:6. They discuss the unique aspect of Proverbs 22:6 in light of the book of Proverbs and how it teaches about parenting. They also exhort listeners and reflect what are some of the differences of Asian American parenting from our parents’ church gener...

In this episode, Danny and Monica begin a new mini-series on Scripture and Asian American parenting, beginning with Deuteronomy 6:5-9. Together they examine the practical application of this passage for families. They consider prior generations of immigrant family contexts and what those differences might teach Asian American parents today, gleaning wisdom for gospel-centered parenting. Rooted Res...

In this episode, Danny sits down with Professor and Pastor James Lee to discuss the topic of the spiritual formation of Asian American parents, which plays a critical role in parenting our teenagers. Their conversation encourages parents to consider their spiritual lives to become more fruitful believers in the Lord—for their own sakes as well as for the good of their teenagers.   James Lee (MA, T...

In this episode, Danny and Monica talk about underparenting teenagers, following their conversation about overparenting in episode 25. They share observations about permissive parenting and uninvolved parenting, discussing the differences between the two. They consider reasons why Asian American parents might be inclined to less involved parenting based on the style of their parents’ generation. L...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica discuss overparenting—commonly called helicopter parenting, or in sociology, authoritarian parenting. They discuss the roots of overparenting in Asian American contexts, the signs and consequences of overparenting, and how parents of teenagers can reduce the instinct to “helicopter.” Their conversation touches on various passages of Scr...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Monica and Danny discuss the important topic of guilt in response to failure as parents. They also share strategies for regulating our own emotions as parents so we can help our children do the same. This conversation touches on losing one’s temper as a parent, feelings of guilt and shame, and how to move away through those common experiences to genuine...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica consider the topic of the long-term faith of teenagers, after they graduate high school and beyond into adulthood. They challenge Asian American parents of teenagers and children to nurture long-term faith in their children and teenagers, and discuss factors impacting a faith that lasts. They also discuss differences in immigrant genera...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica discuss the idea of family rhythms and their importance for teenagers and parents, especially with teenagers, from both a biblical perspective and also supported by current research.  They acknowledge that while it is not always easy to establish these with teenagers for parents, that they are not only important but are very impactful. ...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Monica and Danny discuss ways parents of teenagers can either build bridges of communication or break down bridges of communication with their teenagers. They break down how parents can connect with and nurture ways of communicating with their teenagers, helping with their mental and spiritual well-being, versus causing more stressors in their lives.  W...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Monica and Danny talk about support parents need in raising their teenagers and children, as well as the concept of rest and renewal.  They discuss the harmfulness of parents venting to their children.  They also discuss the differences in the views of the concept of support, rest, and renewal in our immigrant parents versus subsequent generations of pa...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Monica and Danny discuss the realities of drama and friendships in the lives of teenagers, and for parents to not minimize it, because it is so important to teenagers, yet they are not fully mature enough to deal with it.  They continue to talk about how parents can guide their teenagers through drama with their peers and how to guide their teenagers in...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny welcomes back Pastor Justin Wong, an expert on youth culture, to talk about youth culture. They discuss if parents need to fear youth culture or how they can embrace it to better engage in the lives of their teenagers and children.  They also talk about the world of emojis and how elements of the unknown aspects of youth culture can be used to dee...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica discuss the idea of the Sandwich Generation as Asian Americans, and how it particularly impacts us.  They discuss the dual forces of feeling obligated to taking care of one’s older parents, while also taking care of one’s own children and teenagers, and the impact that can have.  They discuss hopeful ways that Asian American parents can...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica discuss the difficult and often neglected topic of generational trauma. Passed on from our immigrant parents to our now second and third generation parents, it impacts our present families and parenting of our teenagers and children. They discuss the difficulty and necessity of recognizing it and its consequences. Finally, they discuss...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica sit down and talk about dating in Asian American faith, culture, and the lives of teenagers.  They consider the views of dating growing up as Asian Americans and how it has changed.  They then discuss a parent’s approach to dating and how it relates to racial issues, faith, and how and when as parents, we can talk about dating with our...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting , Danny is joined by longtime youth pastor Justin Wong. Justin has served students and families for the past 25 years within the Asian American church community and most recently completed his second doctorate degree researching Gen Z students and the Asian American Church. They discuss aspects of the hit show K-Pop Demon Hunters and how parents can enga...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Monica and Danny talk about race, ethnicity, and culture, and their influence on Asian American teenagers. In today’s political climate, Asian American teenagers will have wide-ranging experiences related to race and ethnicity. It is important for parents to consider these realities so they can have conversations with their teenagers, listen well, and p...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica discuss practical ways parents can disciple their own teenagers. They begin by discussing some of the challenges in discipling teenagers, and then share some tangible, everyday ways parents can help their teenagers grow in Christ. Finally, they consider how parents and churches/youth ministries can work together to walk alongside each o...

In this episode of Asian American Parenting, Danny and Monica demystify the idea of parents being the primary disciplers of their teenagers. Often, this can sound daunting, intimidating, and frustrating for parents. Danny and Monica help parents move away from feeling the guilt and shame of their perceived shortcomings and failures. IN particular, they seek to help Asian American parents who may h...

In this episode, the AA Parenting Podcast welcomes SOLA Council Member and Senior Pastor of Harvest Church, Pastor DL Kim.  With Pastor DL's extensive experience in ministry and speaking, they discuss the importance of parents being discipled before they live out their calling to disciple their own teenagers and children. In doing so, they seek to encourage parents to seek different ways to be dis...

In this episode, the AA Parenting Podcast is joined by Pastor Terrence Shay, the Family Pastor of First Chinese Baptist Church (FCBC) Walnut. With Terrence’s long history and experience doing family ministry, he  and Danny talk about what is Family Ministry for Asian American Parents and churches.   They discuss how parents should see what family is, how they can create spaces for it, and how they...