As Told By Us

We're asking a wild but honest question: Would you rather be ghosted… or manipulated into leaving a relationship? From ghosting to gaslighting, we unpack the reality of modern dating and why so many people struggle to end relationships the right way. We talk about: Why ghosting has become so normal Emotional manipulation in relationships Why people avoid difficult conversations Rejection, pride, a...

Why do friendships suddenly feel harder as adults? At some point in your late 20s, something changes. Friends get married, careers get demanding, people move away, and suddenly the friendships that once felt effortless start to feel… complicated. In this episode of As Told By Us , we talk about the reality of adult friendships — why people feel lonelier than ever, why we often prioritise romantic...

Last week's conversation was too good to end… so we kept it going. In this Part 2 episode of As Told By Us , we sit down again with Kate and TJ for a brutally honest conversation about what it actually feels like to be a young adult trying to figure life out in this economy. We were raised believing the formula was simple: go to school, get your degree, find a stable job, and build a life. But for...

What happens when you do everything "right"… and life still doesn't work out? In this episode of As Told By Us, we sit down with Kate (29) and Tawanda (32) for an honest conversation about starting over in your late 20s and 30s. From quitting medical school to giving up an apartment and moving back home, this episode dives into the reality of adulthood in Zimbabwe — and what it means to redefine s...

You ever wake up and realize you built a life around being liked… not being yourself? The "good girl." The peacemaker. The one who never says no. The one who carries everyone… and forgets herself. In this Episode we discuss where the "Good Girl" trope came from and how it has affected us in our day to day. But this season? She's allowed to evolve. We're unlearning people-pleasing. We're choosing b...

What if money was never meant to control your life? In this episode, we unpack the idea of " decentering money" and using it for what it truly is — a tool, not a master. So many of us were taught to chase income, grind endlessly, and tie our worth to productivity. But at what cost? We explore how to shift the focus back to your peace, mental health, freedom, and lived experiences — because this li...

Welcome! We are back to bless your eardrums. Happy new year, or whatever! In this episode we unpack a listener dilemma: her boyfriend keeps disappearing whenever he's out with the boys — then he comes back like nothing happened. Is he cheating or is she overreacting? Then we get into the reality of moving out of home in your 30s, including housing agent scams, expensive furniture regrets, lea...

This week we were in trouble. We tackled some of the dilemmas you have sent to us. Should a Christian give generously to relatives they know do not like them? Should you stay in a relationship that is not meeting your financial needs? Hear our thoughts on these issues and help us give advice to these listeners below and on our socials.

In this episode, we explore why there is a rising number of men not showing up on the day of lobola/roora celebrations. Is it cold feet? Is it the discovery of new information? Is it purely disrespect? What is the real issue and what must happen after? We explore different scenarios where this could arise and give our 2 cents on how to end a relationship amicably. We also give you our take on a ju...

It seems that more and more people over 25 are—whether by choice or circumstance—still living at home with their parents or guardians. Is it a financial life-hack to stay rent-free in a tough economy, or is it a slow descent into madness, complete with curfews, clashing routines, and unsolicited life advice? In this episode, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and economic realities of adulting und...

Cheating: a scandal, a heartbreak… or just part of the game now? In this explosive episode, we dive deep into why people cheat, how society responds — and why women always seem to get the shorter end of the judgment stick. From the Coldplay scandal that had the internet in flames to our own confessions, stories, and spicy opinions, no angle is off-limits. We ask the real questions: Is emotional ch...

Join us for this heartfelt episode all about… friendship! This week, we dive into a dilemma from one of our listeners who's feeling the very real strain of navigating adult friendships. What starts as one person's question quickly turns into a group therapy session, as we realize just how universal this struggle is. Why does it feel harder to be vulnerable with our friends as we grow older? Why do...

Are you sending peeled banana emojis to your workmate? Stop it. Seriously. In this episode, we dive headfirst into the tricky, controversial terrain of workplace romance, flirty texts, and the very real line between mutual attraction and sexual harassment. Sparked by one of your real-life dilemmas, we tackle it all—raw, honest, and unfiltered. From our personal experiences to headline-making scand...

In this Listener's Choice episode, we dive into a question that lit up our inbox: "What does it mean to be a submissive woman?" Anesu, Kuda, and Chido unpack the layers — personal, religious, cultural, and sometimes uncomfortable — around the idea of submission in modern relationships. From faith and feminism to family dynamics, they explore what submission looks like (or doesn't) in their lives....

Is the "male loneliness pandemic" real? Can therapy be replaced by deep friendships? And how do words shape our relationships? In Part 2 of this raw conversation, the men dive deeper into men's mental health—questioning stigmas, exploring self-love, and sharing real talk on finding peace in a noisy world. Whether you're new here or a longtime listener, this one's for every man (and perso...

FOR MEN'S HEALTH MONTH, WE HANDED THE MIC OVER TO THE MEN AND THEY DIDN'T HOLD BACK. In a world where 1 in 5 men struggle silently, this Men's Health Month, we dive deep into the raw, unfiltered and necessary truths of manhood in 2025, Hear it directly from the Men themselves. They open up about: Financial survival in Zimbabwe's tough economy; Dating and Marraige in 2025—e...

In this bold and thought-provoking episode, we dive into the complex and often controversial intersection of faith and finances. Why does poverty so often walk hand in hand with religion—particularly in Black communities? We unpack whether the modern-day church is a safe haven for the faithful or a system that sometimes exploits economic vulnerability. Is this a legacy of colonialism, or has the B...

🎬 Tyler Perry, Why?? Tyler Perry's new and controversial film STRAW has sparked intense reactions — and in this episode, we're diving all the way in. Why does mainstream media keep serving Black women the same tired struggle stories? Where's the luxury? The joy? The soft life? We asked our listeners: have you ever experienced princess treatment — or is it just another fantasy sold on Instagram? T...

Where do you go for relationship advice in the age of algorithms? In this episode, we dive into the explosion of online dating coaches and relationship "experts" flooding our feeds. From the glamorized gold-digging gospel of Shera Seven, to the hyper-masculine rants of Andrew Tate, to Shadaya's controversial takes—are these really the voices shaping our generation's love lives? We unpack the appea...

This episode of As Told By Us is a heartfelt and nostalgic conversation about the evolution of fun, social life, and personal growth among Zimbabwean millennials. The hosts reflect on their university days, the vibrant club culture of Grahamstown and Harare, and how their perceptions of nightlife have changed over the years. They explore themes of peak youth, the joy of unfiltered freedom, and the...

In this week's episode we used AI as our therapist. Wild right! The prompt is below for you to try it out too. If you can share your inner most thoughts with AI, can you share them with your boyfriend/girlfriend? We unpack the tricky balance between transparency and emotional dumping in romantic connections. We explore: The fear of becoming vulnerable Why some people overshare — and what it says a...

Join us for a raw, honest conversation about toxic female friendships —those draining, unbalanced relationships many women tolerate for too long. The hosts open up about their personal experiences with friends who: • compete instead of celebrate, • gossip instead of communicate, • and manipulate instead of support. The conversation explores: • How to identify subtle red flags early on, • The guilt...

Guest: Donna Ray-White, Wealth Manager at DeVere Group Recorded at: NRVANA Labs In this eye-opening episode of As Told By Us , we sit down with wealth manager Donna Ray-White for a candid and empowering conversation on saving and investing in Zimbabwe . Donna breaks down the misconceptions that stop many of us from taking our savings seriously, and offers practical, first-hand advice on how to gro...

It's an episode takeover ! 🎤 This week, VI the Law (previously known as the Mysterious Male Voice ) leads the conversation — and he's coming for all the hard questions. Last week, we agreed that a university degree isn't the only path to success. But this week, we're asking: is the grass really greener on the creative side? This one's for the creatives — the musicians, artists, designers, DJs, pl...

🎓 Risking It All for That Piece of Paper? In this episode, we unpack Africa's deep-rooted obsession with academic qualifications. Is a university degree still the golden ticket it once was—or has the paper chase lost its shine in today's world? We're joined by VI The Law—award-winning rapper, producer, and previously known as the Mysterious Male Voice. He opens up about his own journey: graduatin...