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I'm so happy to share this wonderful conversation with Charlie Hoehn, dad, podcaster, person who helps people publish books, and (most important for our conversation today) author. Charlie's book, Play It Away , shares his experience with soul-sucking anxiety, and the simple cure he found. The thing about this cure is, it's something humans all do naturally, and it's as important to us as sleep. B...

I'm so excited to bring you this week's show, all about timeouts! Also: I announce the name of the parenting book I'm working on right now! And I share some exciting news: the introduction to this book is available for you to read, for free, at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay ! This week's Magic Words for Parents video shares a quick phrase you can use to stop your child's begging and whining in store...

Special thanks to: Nancy, Diane, Ben, and Max, each of whom became patrons of the show in Patreon this week! They're getting helpful stuff like access to my Patron-only feed, Extra Magic Words for Parents videos, and early access to chapters of parenting books I'm working on right now - plus I'm saying thanks to them in today's episode! Get GREAT extras and a shout-out in next week's We Turned Out...

For a long time, the podcast was the tool. Then I wrote Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics – and we had 2 tools. And now, a little more than three years in, we've got a multitude of tools for parenting and happy family time ... Today's episode is a discussion of some of the best tools, a description of how parents are changing their families' lives by utilizing these tools , and a roadmap so that y...

Picture this: you're in the car, in a parking lot, with your screaming three-year-old and six-month-old. You're on a call with work, and you've got the call muted so that you can hear what's going on – but your coworkers can't hear the car chaos. Until one of your coworkers says "Shannon, what do you think?" – and you know that as soon as you unmute the call everyone on it will hear the screaming....

This episode, we focus on a serious issue. It's one you may have been wondering about, but not known what to do about – or even if it was a big deal at all: Does tablet or smartphone use contribute to a child's behavior problems? We live in this world, which is absolutely filled with tech. The tech doesn't appear to be going anywhere fast… So what's the answer? Does tablet use contribute to behavi...

Maybe you have said to yourself, when you're watching a parent fail miserably to bring a recalcitrant child under control, "that will NEVER be me. I pride myself on order and discipline in my house!" Or, maybe you've heard snide comments from teachers or relatives about your child "ruling the roost," and it's frustrating because you don't want to be a disciplinarian. That's not why you had kids, t...

To us grown-ups, summer can mean headaches caused by heat and humidity, too much time spent in air-conditioning, and unwelcome changes in routine. Also, the endless application of sunscreen on our littles. But to kids, just being outside can be a revelation . There's birdsong, and water, and dirt… Summer is a great time for reconnecting with your child, for truly listening to him or her - for deep...

As you probably did, I got spanked as a kid. But, probably unlike you, I became an early childhood educator and lesson one was "we never, EVER spank a child." Still, it's tempting, especially if it means stopping a behavior that you cannot stand for one more minute. So, is it ever okay to spank your child? Do you ever do it? Today – on We Turned Out Okay's THIRD birthday! – we dig into why parents...

Lots of us parents are pretty freaked out by the thought of money, finances, and all the stuff we don't understand about it. Ben (my husband and the producer of our show) and I have spent the last year or so confronting our concerns about money, really looking our finances squarely in the face and conquering our fears… Through this process, we have become more of a team than we were before! Our go...

Today's conversation is super special, because it's with our personal financial planner, Steven Taylor – the man who has helped Ben and I align our goals and begin truly working together to achieve our dreams. Like many of the best conversations, ours doesn't stick strictly to the subject at hand. It starts off with sports and quickly develops into a meaningful conversation about parenting (Steven...

If we're being honest, who among us has NOT bribed a kid? (Listen to this episode to hear about how we potty trained our youngest… using entire donuts as bribes.) But is there a better way? Something we could do to change our child's behavior from bad to good? Something that would stop us feeling like we're being emotionally blackmailed by our kids? Listen to today's episode to understand exactly...

Working with parents of young children, one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase. It's dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids , which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it. You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have. Today I share: – Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent's vocabulary are – Why these words get u...

Did you ever wish that you could find just the right book to help your child understand some large issue that you're just not sure how to talk about? Then today's episode is for you – my guest Ashia Ray runs booksforlittles.com , a website dedicated to helping parents find great books, on every subject. Listen to find out: – How to use books to make your parenting life easier and better – When a b...

We live in a complicated world, financially speaking, which can seem completely shrouded in mystery to us parents – never mind the kids! What with credit cards, bitcoin, Apple pay, swiping, tapping, and sliding, the value of an actual dollar can get com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/sub...

I'm sure you've heard that it costs tons of money to raise a child to the age of eighteen – $233,610 in 2015, according to the Money/CNN report I read in preparing for this episode. If that number has you freaked out, you are not alone! But is it really accurate? That's the question we are looking into today. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/216 for key links and the most adorable picture of one of my ch...

BOOK GIVEAWAY: today's guest, Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com , has graciously offered to give one lucky listener a set of her books that teach financial literacy to little kids! Listen to today's episode to find out how to enter the giveaway : ) Raeshal Solomon comes by her knowledge of how to get out of debt honestly – she's worked hard to rid herself of nearly all her $400,000 debt, while...

"I HATE to yell at you… But you make me do it. It's your fault." Recently, I spoke with a mom who said that she tells her kids this all the time. Do you ever feel like this, when your child is giving you crazy attitude ? Or when your child is whining, or picks a fight with a sibling over absolutely nothing at all? In short, do you ever feel like you cannot take your child's bad, embarrassing behav...

Are the frightening and persistent questions of life weighing on you right now? Today I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn't leave me alone… Today I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too. This minicourse is all...

So, I got totally sick with bronchitis! I am thankfully on the mend, but I haven't had a voice suitable for radio at all… Which means I'm extra-happy to bring you this great conversation, a listener favorite from 2017. Early childhood education professors Lisa Daly and Miriam Beloglovsky are in the midst of writing a series of books called Loose Parts , extremely practical books about structuring...

"I am terrified to stop doing mostly everything and accept help for fear that if I do, my family will resent me." – 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge Participant Hello my friend, how are you today? If you're feeling at all like this long-time listener, today's quickie bonus episode shares all about something that will help! It's my FREE, 5-Day Friendly Mirror Challenge, in which we are working t...

Today we've got help for you, if you're feeling extremely cooped up in these dark months of the year (for the northern hemisphere, anyway)! I went to the members of the Ninja Parenting Community and the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group to find out how they beat the winter blahs… This episode is a compendium of their best ideas! Thank you everyone who contributed, there were some new ones in here...

Do you sometimes feel that you will drown in a sea of bad news, bad weather, bad everything? I know I do… and right here at the beginning of the year I am sharing the ways that I have found to stay positive, even while floating on this sea. Listen to today's episode so that we can stay positive together! Key links – and there are a TON today – at weturnedoutokay.com/210 . Thank you for listening :...

Today's guest has a new book out, The Toddler Survival Guide, that I know you'll love because it is practical, funny, and endearing. And, as soon as I heard author Heather Spohr's voice on the day of our interview, I knew that it would also be those three things… But it turned out to be a lot more. We talk about Princess Leia, potty training – and grief. Heather and her husband Mike lost a child t...

In my recent conversation with Mental Health Counselor and Play Specialist Janine Halloran, we talked about the outrageously high rates of suspensions and expulsions in preschools nationwide. And one listener wrote soon after to share her child's experience in preschool: "Such an interesting podcast and alarming pre-K statistics. I can say we saw an opposite thing happening… Several kids were over...