An A to Z of Sex with Men

Our final episode of season 2 is all about Zones (the erogenous kind). This week our format is a little different. Instead of our usual 'extensive research', we take you through nearly every erogenous zone we and the internet can think of and tell you our own personal feelings about them. We then discuss our zones-related film, which this time is 'The Piano!' It was intense we love...

In our penultimate episode we turn our minds back to our younger and less experienced days and discuss the tumultuous world of sex and relationships from the perspective of 'the youth'. It's not all anecdotal of course. We do our usual 'extensive research' and find out what the youth of today think about it all, as well delving a little into relationships with large age gaps. T...

It is finally time to release our A to Z LIVE SHOW!! In this first ever collaboration with the absolutely incredible Glitter & Titter Cabaret, we welcome special guests April Fiasco and Gigi Vin Rouge! Gigi is a stand-up comedian and burlesque artist combining sex and statistics like they've never been combined before. Sextistics if you will. April Fiasco is the showgirl alter-ego of comed...

This week is all about friendships and relationships that come with added 'benefits'. We discuss the pros and cons of a typical 'with benefits' type setup, and explore what the 'benefits' actually are - is it just sex, or is there more to it? Can you, in fact, have a non-sexual friendship with benefits? We also look back fondly on our own 'with benefits' friends of...

Episode P was devoted to Penis, so it's only right that episode V should be all about the Vulva! And we're not alone, as joining us this week is the lovely professional hula-hooper and graphic designer, Beth! As we vivaciously vocalise about various things vulvic, we learn about similarities (and differences) in the arousal of different genitals, and discover that the vulva-owners among us...

This week is all about celebrating the things that don't get enough attention - i.e. the sexually, sensually, and romantically Underrated! Based on the anecdotes and experiences of their social circle, Raphael and Jacinta look at the sex and relationship related experiences that are overlooked, but delightful none-the-less, be it a touch of the waist, a caress of a leg, or a comfortable silenc...

Last season episode T was devoted to Turn- offs , so we thought it only right that this season T should be all about Turn- ons ! We look at top turn-ons in America and Western Europe, as well as unlikely places to be turned and unusual things to be turned on by. We obviously talk all about out own turn-ons, and how we discovered them, and discuss the sexiest scents. Our film of the week is Happine...

This episode is all about that previously indefinable type of relationship, The Situationship. With a lot of help from the glossy mags (and a lot of wading through the heteronormative monogamous agenda), Raphael and Jacinta work out what a 'situationship' actually is, and discuss whether they have ever had one. They look at the pros and cons of a situationship and conclude that (surprise,...

It's time to talk about that word we hate so much, Rape. Sadly, rape is something that a LOT of us are survivors of, and Jacinta and Raphael are no exception. It's so important to talk about it and that's exactly what they do. Sharing personal experiences; discussing the inadequate language around rape and sexual assault, and exploring how to support people who have survived rape. This...

Raphael and Jacinta are back with a quip-filled, laughter-fuelled, fast-talking episode all about quickies! They are not alone though, joining them is none other than genealogist, socialite, and all round smutty guy, William Hall. Jumping from orgasms to red wine and white carpets, to blowjobs in the 'bog', sexy teeth-brushing, and #quickiesinthequeueforthequeen, they explore the meaning of 'quick...

For a podcast about sex, there's been remarkably little chat about the specifics of genitalia so far. It's now time to change all that with this week's episode, P is for Penis! (Don't worry, Vulvas will be getting an episode too, you've just gotta wait a few weeks for that one.) Join Raphael and Jacinta as they talk penis parts (inside and out), penises in art (spoiler: there are a lot), and tell...

Today Jacinta and Raphael have not one but TWO guests because, as we establish in the course of the episode, it takes at least four to make an orgy, which just so happens to be the focus of this week's discussion!  The guests in question are drag adjacent performance artist, the fabulous Felix Le Freak (returning after their brilliant appearance in Season 1 episode Q is for Queer ), and first...

Jacinta and Raphael bare the naked truth in this week's discussion of nudity.  They look at a range of feelings involved with nudity, from shame to confidence and embarrassment to empowerment, and look at the contexts when it is and isn't ok to be naked and why that might be. And of course how nudity should very much be on the nude person's terms, you should never have to take your clothes of...

Rounding off the first half of Season 2, we bring you an in depth discussion on Masculinity, featuring very special guest, Cabaret performer and producer of the fabulous Glitter n Titter Cabaret, Matt Rowan! Positive, performative, toxic and fragile, Masculinity encompasses a lot of things, but what actually IS it? Is it a useful definition, a societal construct, an outdated term, an intrinsic par...

This week we're looking at Love's near, dear, and much maligned relation: Lust.  Where Love is the stuff of epic poetry and enduring fiction, Lust is the stuff of banned books and pornos, hidden away behind closed doors and under creaking beds. So why is that? Why is such a strong, and often enjoyable, feeling surrounded by so much stigma? Join us on a journey of erotic discovery, in which we...

In this week's episode K, Raphael and Jacinta are talking all things Kissing! Whether it's reminiscing about the pillowy lips of partners past and present; deep diving into the science of smooching; discussing kissing compatibility; or explaining the importance of consent when it comes to the platonic peck, they cover it all. Does good kissing equal good sex? Is it bad form to kiss in public (espe...

In our efforts to find something relevant beginning with J, we came up with... Just Kidding! (In other words, faking it.) There are of course fake orgasms, which we talk a lot about.  How common are they? Do cis men fake orgasms too?! Are fake orgasms even possible?? Have we ever faked them, or had them faked to us? But there are, we discover, a lot of other ways of faking or 'just kidding' w...

This week I is for that all powerful, all consuming emotion, Infatuation. We often compare infatuation with love, but what is the difference (and what are the similarities)? It's erotic, distracting, and at times deeply inappropriate. But can infatuation be a good thing and does it ever lead to, or indeed, co-exist with, love? Infatuation with people, places and pastimes, we cover it all! Our infa...

This week Raphael and Jacinta are joined by very special guest, Achim Brandenburg (aka Prosumer) to delve into the topic of Heartbreak.  We look at post-breakup heartbreak, the heartbreak after the loss of a loved one, and the physical impact heartbreak can have on your actual heart. Amongst the usual 'extensive' research, practical (and less practical) advice, witty anecdotes and film discus...

This week we are getting technical and discussing the all important genitals!  We all have them, we all use them (for peeing if not for sexing), but do we really know them? A bit of research suggests that, no, we don't. Vas deferens anyone? Or what about a mons pubis? In this episode we try to clarify a bit of genital biology, as well as exploring our relationship with our own genitals. Turns...

This week we're delving into the fabulous and fascinating topic of Fetish. We couldn't do it alone though, so this week we are joined, for the SECOND time, by A to Z favourite, bisexual burlesque beastie, Bambi Bang Bang!  Together we discuss the difference between between fetish and kink, explore some common and less common fetishes, and muse about what our own fetishes might be (if indeed w...

This week E is for Ejaculation!   An exhilarating release and the perfect accompaniment to an orgasm, but ohhhh the mess...  Join Raphael and Jacinta as they discuss existentialism, ejaculation etiquette, the science of ejaculation, and get personal about their own ejaculations past and present.   Today's Ejaculation related film is Shortbus and they LOVED it! There is much vocal ej...

Stressful, scary or scintillating, Drama is a prevalent part of many sexual and romantic relationships (not to mention friendships and work relationships)!  Whether it's the drama of first love or fifty-first love; breakup sex or makeup sex; whirlwind romances or relationships that have passed their sell-by-date, Drama is everywhere. What creates drama in a relationship? Is it avoidable? Can...

Communication is essential for any relationship, be it sexual, romantic or platonic, but it's so hard to do!  This week Jacinta and Raphael explore just why that might be, as well as discussing some tips and tricks to make it that little bit easier.  This week's film is Duke of Burgundy, which we have a lot of good things to say about!  There are no trigger warnings this week. ...

Most of us will have gone through at least one break up (some of us considerably more), whether it was from your childhood crush, your first proper romantic partner, your kid's other parent, or any of the relationships in between. They all seem to happen for different reasons (falling out of love, sleeping with someone else, annoying habits getting that bit *too* annoying, lives simply following d...