Ambitious and Balanced Working Moms

On today’s episode I am answering 3 listener questions: How do you and your ambitious spouse BOTH make strides in your careers at the same time without neglecting the family? How do you stay confident even when there is a gap in your resume? How do I get my friends and coworkers to focus on the mindset of balance? Topics in this episode: Is it possible for both you and your spouse to rise up in yo...

What does it take to start moving your marriage up the priority list (even if your spouse does not)? To answer this question, I invited life and marriage coach, Dr. Chavonne Perotte, to share with us some strategies and tools she uses in her coaching practice. We talk about what it takes to get on the same team so it’s not you against your spouse as you navigate challenges like: how to make househ...

You don’t have to wait until you are burnt-out or so terribly unhappy to make a change. If you want to change jobs, go after a promotion or change your overworking habits, you can do it right now. In today’s podcast, I offer 5 reasons you should not wait to make a change as well as explain the most likely thing getting in the way of you taking a first step. Topics in this episode: Why is change so...

“I don’t know how to make him happy. “I don't want her to cry.” “I need to make sure she understands.” “I don’t want them to feel disappointed.” “I want them to feel like I care.” What do each of these thoughts have in common? They have you trying to control how someone else feels, which is actually something that is never in your control. In today’s podcast I talk about why you should stop trying...

Feelings are meant to be felt - this was a new concept for Dr. Skylar Clark. Just over a year ago she moved her family of 6 from one coast to the other, navigating 4 new schools, a new city, new culture, new job and no family in town to help. Skylar came to coaching wanting to create new systems and structures to help her manage life, but instead she left with a toolkit filled with strategies to h...

You get to decide what you want to think about your to do list. You could decide to think “I’m behind” or “I’m not getting enough done”, which is likely going to leave you feeling inadequate and exhausted or you can choose to think “I’m on top of everything” or “I know what I’m doing”, which will have you feeling successful and accomplished. In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how important your...

It’s very uncomfortable for your brain to be in uncertainty. To not know. To be unclear on the answer. To not be sure that something is right. When you feel uncertain and are unable to make a decision, you start to feel stuck and your brain experiences tunnel vision (where it hyper focuses on the problem). In today’s podcast I am talking about what to do when you feel uncertain. There’s a magical...

Last week I challenged my client, Lindsay, to do something luxurious. Something that felt a little excessive (maybe even a little irresponsible). As a high achiever, her brain was stuck in trying to make the most of her time and I wanted her to focus less on productivity and more on doing things that simply felt good. She accepted my challenge and in today’s episode I am offering the same challeng...

There are 4 things you need to believe about yourself and your future if you want to meet your goals as an ambitious working mom. Your goals, the things you want in life, are not going to just happen by chance…it is the belief in them happening and how they will happen that makes achieving them inevitable. Today is part 4 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself and in this...

Believing “I am doing it right” and “I’m giving them enough” are two essential beliefs for ambitious and balanced working moms. You need to be feeling like you are making right choices for your family, and you need to feel like you’re spending enough time with your kids. It’s about rightness and enoughness. This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself and today we...

If your internal dialogue about yourself and your work is primarily negative, meaning your thoughts tend to skew toward: I’m not good enough, I should be doing more, they’re going to find me out, I’m not very good… then you will likely always over prioritize work and not feel balanced. Today’s episode is part 2 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself, where we are covering...

Today we are starting a 4-part series focused on the thoughts you have about yourself. Your thoughts play an important role in creating the ambitious and balanced working mom life you want. Your thoughts either make you feel satisfied and successful or they make you feel inadequate and unhappy. Over the next 4 weeks we will cover your thoughts on 4 key areas of life starting, today, with the most...

How do you define success and how do you measure it? If success is based on your achievements, then it will always have you striving to do more. If it is based on feeling happy, then it will have you trying to control everyone and everything. In today’s episode I share why it’s important to define success FOR YOU and determine a simple metric to ensure you stay on track. Topics in this episode: Do...

As a working mom your brain is likely always "on". You are constantly thinking about the things that need to get accomplished and the decisions that need to be made. For my client Cathy, these constant to-do’s, the second-guessing of herself, the need to make sure she bought the right products and was always prepared…this constant chatter in her head was preventing her from being happy and present...

What you believe about yourself, your confidence, effects everything that you do. Your level of confidence effects how you feel about your work, how you feel about yourself as a mom and your ability to make decisions. My client, Ana, experienced a high level of self-doubt when she came to me for coaching, and it was effecting both her happiness and her potential to get a new job. But over the past...

A life without regret means that every day you are living with intention and presence. It means you know what you want in your life and are you going after it. But when you become a mom, many women find themselves stuck in, “what is really important in life?” or “what do I really want?” or “Is what I’m doing worth it?”. Answering these questions is a vital part of a have-it-all kind of life and in...

Do you ever wish you could be a stay-at-home mom? Or maybe you don’t wish to be home with your kids ALL the time, but you just wish you could work less hours and be home with them more? I call this stay-at-home mom envy. In today’s podcast, I share about my own experience of stay-at-home mom envy and share with you the truth about where it comes from and why it pops up. Topics in this episode: Why...

Scheduling in (and keeping) time for just you and you priorities is difficult. There never feels like enough time, you don’t want anyone to be disappointed or to feel like you don’t support them and so you either never schedule time for yourself and your priorities or you do but you’re constantly moving that time block around. However, if you want to stay a high achiever and learn to be more produ...

Are you committed to being completely offline during your vacations? Because here’s what I can guarantee, being offline and actually giving your brain a rest from work is not going to happen unless you commit and plan for it. In today’s podcast I’m walking you through the 3 steps that are required to have a completely unplugged vacation. Topics in this episode: Why transitions are hard and the imp...

In order to balance life as an ambitious person, you must learn to feel “enough” no matter how much you do or what anyone else thinks. Enoughness is the key that helps an ambitious person slow down and feel satisfied in who they are and what they have accomplished so they don’t burn out. In today’s episode I interview Misty Dykema, a past client and friend, who shares some of the foundational mind...

Working moms often say, “I have everything I want, but I don’t feel happy”. What I have found is that higher achievers have patterned into themselves a feeling of “not enough” which makes it difficult to feel happy. So, to make feeling happy easier and more regular, it is something you must practice. Today on the podcast I want to teach you the simplest way to practice feeling happy, in 30 seconds...

There are 8 core beliefs that will unlock your ability to feel balanced. No matter how much you accomplish, no matter how much time you spend with your kids and no matter what anyone else thinks, when you are able to hold onto these 8 core beliefs, no matter what, you will be able to prioritize yourself and your family without compromising your career. Today on the podcast, I am diving deep into t...

Hard days happen. It’s something that we have to accept as human beings. But hard days don’t have to derail you. You can still be productive, efficient, and kind even when you’re not having the best day. In today’s episode, I want to share with you 3 key things you can do to help care for yourself on a hard day so that you can still show up as the mom, leader and person you want to be. Topics in t...

Can you really create balance with only changing your mindset? For most working moms, it feels like a lot more needs to shift other than your thoughts, but for my client Meredith, a mindset shift was what really made a difference. Her circumstances are almost exactly the same and yet she is out of survival mode, feeling engaged and present with her kids AND the changes feel completely sustainable....

Many ambitious women think, “If I could just get a little more done, then I could feel calmer and more present.” It feels like the solution to feeling more balanced is having a shorter to-do list and learning to achieve more in less time. And it is true! Having less on your list helps alleviate stress and anxiety. It helps end overwhelm so you walk away from your workday feeling productive and sat...