Ambitious and Balanced Working Moms

Most women don’t quite understand what is at the heart of mom guilt. They’ll say they feel guilty for working or for sending their kids to daycare or for not spending more time with their family, but this is not actually where guilt comes from. In today’s episode I’m sharing with you the real story behind mom guilt. Here is a hint: It does not have to do with how much you work, or how much time yo...

As an ambitious working mom, burnout and exhaustion come easily. Your brain is hardwired to want to do more and achieve more, it’s part of who you are and what makes you successful, but it’s also causing exhaustion. The most natural thing for you to do is to achieve more, not to rest. Resting, prioritizing yourself and your family, choosing to do fun and spontaneous things instead of work more, th...

Most ambitious women have a core value of “being available” that they're almost ashamed to admit. It's like a value that they don't want to value. Always being available makes it difficult to create work-life balance because it has you always being “on” and unable to shut down your work brain, rest or be present with your family. In today's episode I dive into 6 excuses that your brain is likely u...

The pivot moment is the moment you realize you’re about to say yes to something you don’t want to, or you’re feeling anxious about an upcoming presentation even though you’re prepared. It’s the moment you feel your anger rising at your kids that usually results in yelling., or the moment you feel the urge to log back on to work even though you know the best thing is to rest. It's the pivotal momen...

What happens if you were raised by a stay-at-home mom (and that is not what you have chosen to do) or the way you see other working mom’s balance life is not working for you? When you want to do things differently than your parents or peer group and you have no examples on how to do it, there are two specific questions your brain needs you to answer to ensure you are making the right decision and...

11 years ago, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I felt like I was in the middle of an identity crisis. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted out of life, my career or motherhood. I was driven by success and achievement and I knew that wasn’t going to serve me as I started a family. I knew I needed to make some changes, but I had no idea what to do or how to do it. I went on my own self-disc...

Motivation becomes almost non-existent by February for new year’s resolutions and goals. If you are like many working moms, you probably want a “redo” or to start fresh this month or perhaps you’re even ready to quit. But here’s the thing, quitting or even starting over is one of the worst things you can do. There’s a reason why you didn’t make progress towards yours goals in January and you need...

If there’s one thing that gets completely de-prioritized by every mom I know, it’s SEX. Look, I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to just be roommates with my partner. I want a fun, exciting and consistent sex life. But as ambitious working moms this can be hard! It becomes one more thing you “have” to do and it feels more like a chore rather than an intimate experience. So to help us figure...

What’s it going to take to get promoted and advance your career in 2024? I asked this question to executive coach and promotion strategist, Stacy Mayer, who explained that the first step to getting promoted is ownership. We need to decide, as women, what we want out of our career and what we are willing to do (and not do) to get it. In today’s episode, Stacy shares with us what it takes to own you...

I’ve been selecting a word of the year for the past 20 years, so I know a thing or two about not just how to select a word but how to make it an effective practice. In today’s podcast I’m sharing with you why the word-of-the-year practice is important if you want to create an ambitious and balanced life this year, I’ll give you my quick 3-step process on how to select a word, and most importantly...

The #1 mindset to help you get unstuck and meet all your goals this year is: I can figure it out. This one thought, as you learn to cultivate it, will help you to move towards your goals and create the both/and life you want. There’s no settling this year working moms, this is the year that you stop over working, you get yourself into a job that you love and you make yourself a priority. In this e...

The motherhood identity crisis is the internal questioning that happens after you start having kids. “Who am I?” and “What do I want?” are fundamental questions that need to be answered in order for you to continue operating as an ambitious woman. In today’s podcast I am sharing with you two reasons why women experience an identity crisis after becoming a mom and what they can do to help themselve...

The fastest way to get to the balanced and fulfilling working mom life you desire is to love your current working mom life. When you need something to change, you feel dependent on it for happiness. When you feel satisfied and happy with the life you already have, you feel more confident in yourself and your ability to navigate through any changes you desire. In today’s episode, I am explaining wh...

As the year ends, your brain is seeking closure for the things that have taken place and is ready to reset for the year ahead. In today’s podcast I want to teach you the #1 end-of-year practice that will make this reflection time effective and energizing. It will help your mind focus on all of the good that happened this year, show you exactly how to grow and improve and give specific next steps t...

Coaching or therapy? This is a question that comes up for women that are trying to decide what kind of help they need. When should you hire a coach instead of a therapist? How does coaching and therapy differ? What should you expect in coaching? By the end of today’s episode, you will have clarity on which path to take to help you meet your goals. Topics in this episode: What is the difference bet...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #6: not scheduling times for rest and fun. Without time set aside to rest, your “free time” during the holidays will be snatched up with doing more and checking one more thi...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #5: not having a plan for when you feel stressed and overwhelmed. Things will not always go according to plan during the holidays. At some point you will find yourself off-t...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #4: not expecting big emotions. During the holidays, there will be more meltdowns for both you and your kids. It’s to be expected. Everyone is off rhythms and there is simpl...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #3: not deciding when you will work and when you will not. Without a clear commitment to NOT work, your brain is going to default to always being available and checking emai...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #2: not creating a specific plan to achieve the holiday experience you want. To ensure you are successful this holiday season, all the tasks, activities and rest time must b...

There are 6 common mistakes that create stress and overwhelm for working moms during the holiday season. During this mini-series I will cover each mistake and teach you how to correct it. In today’s episode I dive into mistake #1: not having a clear definition of success this holiday season. How do you want the holidays to feel? What do you want to focus on? What would make you feel like the holid...

Everyone has “not enough” thoughts. These are the thoughts that sound like, “you’re not doing enough”, “you’re not good enough” or “you should be further ahead”. They are thoughts that make you think you are failing, behind or an imposter. In today’s podcast I will teach you 7 ways to redirect these thoughts. I will also explain the origin of these thoughts and the impact they have when you don’t...

When you do something other than the thing that you know you need to be doing you are buffering. Buffering is when you avoid your priorities, commitments, or boundaries because following through feels bad. On today’s podcast I’m talking about buffering your emotions. I will share several examples from my clients, and myself, on what it looks like to buffer your emotions and then I will offer you t...

My client, Nicole, shares the long-term results that she has experienced from coaching. Nicole started working with me almost 3 years ago and on today’s podcast she shares how she learned to calm herself and the impact of those “calming” tools, what it took for her to lean into conflict and how that transformed her work and what it has taken for her to truly make time for the things that matter. T...

Nobody promised ease in life. Nobody said being a working mom, a parent, a partner, finding work-life balance, getting a fulfilling job or putting up boundaries would be easy. So what would happen if you dropped that expectation and moved into radical acceptance that things are meant to be hard? In today’s podcast, I’m sharing how when you stop fighting the “hard” in life, you open up to problem s...