Am I a Mother?

Episode 32 — and yes, recorded as file #32 in my dictaphone. Just one of the little signs that you’re always more supported than you think. This short, raw episode (recorded straight from the car), serves as a reminder for the moments that life brings you to your knees — physically, emotionally, spiritually. It's to honor the surprising signs of love that still surround us — even when everythi...

The holiday season can be challenging—a time meant to be joyful often brings up feelings of loneliness and struggle, especially for those without children. In this episode, I share personal experiences, including an insight in my recent plant medicine retreat in the Colombian jungle, and offer insights on how to navigate this emotional time. We’ll talk about: The challenges of loneliness during th...

In this episode of  Am I a Mother?  I sit down with Nadine, a 50+ vibrant and inspiring woman who chose a childfree path. We explore societal expectations, personal choices, and the unique freedom and challenges of living life outside the traditional mold. Nadine shares her journey, including an unexpected parenting experience as a foster mom, her relationship with her parents’ expectations, and t...

Creating impact in this world where there is so much emphasis on the value of having kids and starting a family, especially for women, can feel very heavy. In this episode I take you on this journey and hope to inspire you to find YOUR unique way of creating impact. All of this inspired by just having attended the funeral of a person that made a huge impact on me and many others, by his personal m...

In this episode I speak to currently childfree Veerle Beelen da Costa David, who is a coach on inner and outer journeys. This episode is about self-discovery, setting boundaries, and making personal choices amidst constant movement and change. We go from Veerle moving to Australia and the challenges she faced during the pandemic, including job loss and adjusting to new environments. On a deeper la...

Sometimes it just strikes. You did not fail. You succeeded. At creating a life that lights you up. Against all odds. A quick and dirty recording from my mom's house, in the village where I grew up, on an evening where I joined a kids event that used to trigger the F*** out of me. Let me take you on a journey to a small town called Hippolytushoef (The Netherlands). Next Mamacita Moment: June 21...

In this episode I go all into my current fears in dating and how I deal with my struggle of self-acceptance. Going from a painful past relationship to meeting someone special, referred to as 'Mr. Number 5' I share my fears and the internal voices that threaten to sabotage my happiness.  Check out this episode for the importance of inner work, learning to handle emotions, and keeping your h...

In this heartfelt episode, Anne opens up about the complex emotions surrounding Mother's Day, especially for those who are childless by circumstance, child-free by choice, or doubting motherhood. She shares her personal journey from feeling triggered by Mother's Day to finding peace and empowerment. Anne discusses her struggles with entrepreneurship, her attempts to heal her relationship w...

In this podcast episode, I share my raw and honest journey of falling into a toxic relationship due to my deep desire for motherhood and a romantic partnership.    This is my experience of being involved with a narcissistic individual. I know the use of this term is becoming popular and going into naming/shaming/blaming is easy. This episode is not here to blame, it’s here to emphasize the importa...

Retreat diaries! Are you still doubting to join my coworking retreat? You need to hear this; we're covering all the basis... Whether you need a dedicated space to do admin tasks, or a beautiful setting to create content, today we cover what coworking is and what YOU can get out of it. Hear it first hand from a super special guest and how she planned out 6 months of her next steps in just 1 WEE...

Grieving over something that never physically existed is one of the hardest forms of grief. I was invited by Laura Gallis to talk about this type of grief. Grief is so much more than about a person. It can also be an unfulfilled wish, like the dream to become a mother one day. 🌟 How do you mourn something you never had? Hear my personal experience and how I found meaning in supporting other women...

If someone wants to have a conversation with you that you are not ready to have... These thoughts are going through your mind: - is it ok to say 'no, I don't want this right now'? - how to express how I feel? - should I go for it because I care about the other person? This episode gives you guidance on this difficult topic! I delve into the complex conversation of differentiating selfc...

Dreading the holidays? Here are 7 ways to CREATE happier holidays for all of you who are not looking forward to the holidays. This time of year can be triggering for those feeling childless, who are not happy being single, have 'difficult' families or any other way that makes you feel like you are not where you want to be in your life. I was like you. Christmas used to mark my (felt) failu...

In this episode we explore Daniek's journey, a beautiful entrepreneur who spent 3 days with me at a 1-1 coworking retreat. We all know how easily we can get distracted by other things that take our attention, be it business or personal. Focusing is just hard! For those times: the peer pressure of coworking helps a lot. Daniek went into this retreat with the desire to kickstart a new phase in h...

Welcome to another episode of Am I A Mother?! In this raw and honest conversation, I delve into the complex emotions of jealousy, doubt, and fear that often arise in our lives. I share my own personal stories and lessons, while also inviting you to reflect on your own experiences. Join me in exploring motherhood, choices, and finding your own path to self-empowerment. Episode Highlights: - Underst...

@rise.with.regine invited me for an amazing talk on Instagram Live! Listen to our lovely conversation about alternative motherhood, how to deal with triggering questions and so much more! Thank you so much Regine! Much love, Anne ☀️ Let me know you’re on this journey with me by leaving a 5 star review and following this podcast. Let’s connect on Instagram:  @iam.anne.visser The doors for my progra...

‘I got so much done these 3 days, it feels as if I was here for a week’. Daniek Nellissen and I just wrapped up the co-working and camping retreat and my heart is beating so fast! ❤️ Honestly, doing an after talk live is a bit scary because what if it doesn’t go well?😵‍💫 But you know me, I trust myself and I like searching for these edges 😍 As it was live and unprepared you see a genuine talk a...

Do you believe it’s possible for you to turn your passion into your business? If I’m honest… for the longest time I thought it were the lucky few who were able to do it. But now I let go of the urge to: have it all right now and instead I allow myself to become better with time, succeed the first time and insteadI allow myself to have no-one-joining-my-sh*t, know it all and instead I allow myself...

How do you measure self love? How do you invest in getting more self love? For me it was a dark hole for years. Even the question: ‘is my self love on point?’ had me clueless. Looking back and looking at the relationships I’ve had (which is a good indicator for your level of self love) my answer is: definitely not. But in the moment…. I was too scared to look at my own self love. Because I knew it...

4 simple steps to take when things don’t work out Use them, for big and small things, For practical and emotional situations. They always work. Bye people. I’ll be waiting for the car service a bit longer now ;)   Much love, Anne ☀️   Let me know you’re on this journey with me by leaving a 5 star review and following this podcast. Let’s connect on Instagram: @iam.anne.visser The doors for my progr...

‘Now that’s none of your f***ing business’😤 …is a very clear and possibly effective answer to a question that feels very inappropriate to you. Question is… will it serve the relationship you have with this person? 🤔 If you don’t care, go for it. If you do care. Hmmmm. There are more effective answers.💯 Moreover…. is the question really stupid or is it triggering something inside of you? Somethi...

Making a choice that is not mainstream takes courage. Not having kids. Stopping a fertility treatment. Getting a donor to have a child. Being a foster parent. And, for that matter… deciding to have kids in the ‘normal’ way with your beloved partner, also takes a huge amount of courage. I think. Cause I have not been there. Point is however: how do you train your courage muscle? Because courage wil...

Receiving is one of the most important skills you need to create a life that is full of joy, spontaneity, love and adventures. Yet it’s a very often overlooked skill. As a givers, people pleasers and recovering pleasers we applaud ourselves for giving a lot 🙏 But we also show resentment if we don’t receive what we would like to receive 😒 But did we ever express what we want? And when it was offe...

The trick to never ever ever feel stuck again is to make your next step as small as possible. That small that you don’t even think of it as a step. An example of a small step can be: 🔸follow a person on instagram who lives the life you want to live 🔸put your name on a maillist of something that interests or triggers you 🔸ask your network if anyone knows anyone who ….. 🔸tell a friend you are fr...

OMG! I cried twice in this podcast 😭 While talking about 3 reasons why we avoid our pain and hide it somewhere deep down in our backpack. This is what happens when you truly go to your pain. Often we don’t want to feel our pain, so we push it away. But why??? You never push away a smile, right?! In this podcast I talk about why we avoid the pain and what we can do instead to heal from it! Much lo...