Allyship is a Verb

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP The Trans Day of Visibility: Nonbinary Visibility panel is now available to watch here: https://youtu.be/mYPQBrBvwrc In this week’s episode, K Strohl (K's pronouns pr...

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat/ In this week’s episode, Nick Daily (he/they) shares about what sparked the daily reminders he posts to Instagram to inspire others. Learn about why they’re learning to say “no” and what it means w...

In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultan...

In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience as an introvert can look like, including introducing the term “anchor.” Learn why they left Poland and the importance of language including identities that reflect our experience. We also discuss employment diversity questions and how data matters whi...

In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influe...

In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "queer." We also discuss the Los Angeles queer bar scene when we were in our early 20s and how it is present day. Have you ever wondered if you’re welcome to an LGBTQ+ space as someone not from the community? Jaffe talks about how it’s important to have...

In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of 12. Learn how intersections of bisexuality and consensual non-monogamy have created stigma she’s been pushing against. We also discuss Robyn Och’s definition of bisexuality and how Leah’s work as a sexual health educator can be tricky in terms of how...

In this week’s episode, Provvidenza Catalano (they/them) shares about how the closer they get to who they are versus how Hollywood typecasts folks, they now get more interest and are called in for different roles. Learn how intersections of fatphobia, transphobia, butchphobia, ableism, and more have shaped their experiences and the work they're doing internally. We also discuss some of what casual...

In this week’s episode, Dr. Kyl Myers (they/them, she/her) shares how their gender creative parenting has evolved over the years and that it can look different for each family. Learn how gender creative parenting gave her an opportunity to check in with herself about her own gender and gender expression. We also discuss some of the questions that you asked on Instagram! Are you trying to support f...

In this week’s episode, Leo Yockey (he/him) shares how his first tech job denied him the opportunity to control his narrative. Learn what surprised him about the experience and hear how it shaped the man he is today. We also discuss the "I'm not gay hug." Are you a fan of Tan France from Queer Eye? Leo talks about how reading Tan's memoir was the inverse of his experience, though it helped him fin...

In this week’s episode, Laura Graving (she/her) shares about how there are tarot decks that are queer and trans-inclusive. Learn what support she offers folks and what values she founded her small business on. We also discuss why LGBTQ+ folks can feel seen and validated by astrology, tarot, and similar practices. Have you ever used white sage to cleanse a space? She talks about how we can ethicall...

Is your therapist the right fit for you? Do you even want or have access to one? In the previous episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shared out the allyship tip "Just trust that people know who they are best. They know themselves best and just believe that they can tell you who they are and that is the truth, right? Like, let people tell you who they are. And just believe, accept, celebrate, fi...

In this week’s episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shares about moving 13 times every 1-3 years in the south as a young person and how, in some ways, it was easier to come out because of all of the moving. Learn what support he received and which communities he found comfort in over the years. We also discuss some signs to look for in an LGBTQ+ affirmative therapist. Have you ever wondered what...

Is your allyship accidentally performative? In the previous episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/them, she/her) shared out the allyship tip "Honestly, I would love if people wouldn't assume or- I would love for people to ask me what my identities mean for me in order to know how to support me better. Versus maybe hearing how I identify and then assuming certain things. Yet, just asking me how they c...

In this week’s episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/she) shares about coming out as a previously held identity and what three magic words of support boosted their spirit. Learn what book helped spark her curiosity and made her feel seen. We also discuss how asking about pronouns is totally okay AND how asking personal questions about sex and how people have it is NOT a good way of showing support. H...

Can we agree to stop assuming straight is the default? In the previous episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/her) shared out the allyship tip for people to "...actively seek out opportunities to [...] question their assumptions that they make." In this mini-episode, host Chris Angel (they/them) revisits this tip and introduces why coming out is a privilege, complicated, and nuanced. They also talk about ho...

In this week’s episode, Josée Sovinsky (now using she/they pronouns) shares about coming out on her professional Instagram page this past pride month and what happened as a result. Learn what messages she was given about bisexuality while questioning her sexual orientation. We also discuss honoring marginalized communities by believing in science AND holding space for people’s own uniquely lived e...

What are rolling pronouns? Are there questions you shouldn't ask trans people? In the previous episode, Zoa Glows (rolling she/her, they/them, he/him) shared out the allyship tip: "My ally tip is to pause and ask yourself, "will my compliments,  questions, and language uplift this individual? Or could they possibly  cause them discomfort or harm?" Because each of those things- compliments, questio...

In this week’s episode, Zoa Starlight Glows (Zoa now uses they/she pronouns) shares about coming out to her students and family. Learn about what messages she was given as a Black person while navigating a big, religious family, her LGBTQ+ identities over the years, and the noise of society overall telling and teaching her to hate herself (but rose above it!). We also discuss honoring students by...

Are you open to a conversation? In the previous episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shared out her allyship tip: "What's important is the story. And so I would encourage that part of allyship be don't always judge a person on what they are presenting, but listen to their story. Because the story is where it's rich and the story is where you're going to connect with that person. The person that mi...

In this week’s episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shares her history with self-identifying and how she's still seeking inspirational + affirming language, loving and reclaiming terms that are still used as slurs today, and a time in her life where the trans community and drag performers were under the same umbrella (and may still be for certain folks). We also discuss what it was like discoverin...

In the previous episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shared out hir allyship tip: "I think being a good ally, is the willingness to be uncomfortable. If you make a mistake, I'm a big believer that I would love for someone[... to] #AcknowledgeandApologize and then ask if there's anything needed for repair and then do better. Right. And so for me, we're always going to make mistakes. We're always going t...

In this week’s episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shares a bit about hir history of language and community. Learn about the differences between cultural competency, cultural humility, and cultural responsiveness. We also discuss honoring community organizations that have been doing the work to embrace the trans community and why acknowledging their history is important. Have you been wondering as a c...

It's not too late to start your allyship practice or continue to make adjustments. This show talks about LGBTQ+ allyship tips and passing the mic. Episodes are quick tips that include some self-reflection questions, as well as longer episodes dedicated to passing the mic to keep the conversation intersectional. We'll hear from a wide range of LGBTQ+ guests about what tips they have, including any...