All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Over time, a lot of negative thoughts can accumulate about your spouse. And just like the trash that needs to be taken out regularly, your mind needs to be cleared of the stinky thoughts you have about each other. In this podcast episode, I share with you the process I teach my clients inside The Marriage UpGrade, that helps them to see each other in a more positive light. You'll also learn about...

A fresh start in your marriage can happen whenever you DECIDE it does. In this episode I share what fresh starts are, what holds us back, and how you can create positive shifts in your marriage today. What kind of marriage do you want to have? It can start now. This podcast will help you remove whatever is holding you back. I also invite you to guarantee a noticeable difference in your marriage jo...

What if this was the year that you go the marriage you wanted? I will show you how in a 5-step process called the Having What You Want Formula. In this episode, I break down how to identify what matters to you, what it looks like for you to create it, uncovering the obstacles currently in your way, how to be decisive and committed and how to take consistent, persistent action. If there's anything...

It's Christmas Week! Let me wish you and yours a happy, healthy, holiday season. In this episode, I'm giving you exclusive content I shared at the recent Happiest Holiday Event I hosted inside The Marriage UpGrade. You'll learn the 5 most important steps for enjoying this holiday season MORE as a couple. Tune in, grab a notebook and pen and most importantly, APPLY what I share. It really will make...

There are a certain set of things that stand in the way of you having the kind of marriage you want. Most often, we look at our spouse as being the main obstacle. In this episode we take a deep dive into looking at the things within ourselves that might be affecting our relationships. I share with you 5 specific internal obstacles that you want to explore and start working on. Making progress in t...

As humans living in the real world in front of us, it's sometimes hard to imagine things that are not our reality. Yet, believing in the possibility of something you don't see yet is exactly what's required to help you create it. In this episode we are diving into the topic of seeing beyond what's currently happening in your marriage. I'll offer some perspective and specific tools you can use to g...

Do you have the thought, "my spouse is not making any effort?" If so, this podcast episode is for YOU. I'll share with you the specific 5 reasons you are having this belief and exactly what to do about it. Brace yourself, because this is a loving wake up call. This is an unhelpful thought pattern that snowballs on itself to create more disappointment, frustration and disconnection. Part of the pro...

Today we are diving into the topic of having an ALL IN Mentality for your marriage. This is one of the key differences between couples who make the improvements they want in their marriage, versus couples who stay stuck or ultimately separate. When you have an ALL IN Mentality, you approach your challenges from a different perspective. You see them as learning and growth opportunities. You keep go...

What do you WANT? Have you ever stopped and really answered that question when it comes to your marriage. Whenever I pose this to clients, they tell me what they DON'T want, which is a tale-tell sign they are focusing on what's negative. One of the greatest skills you can develop in the journey to make your marriage better is to focus on what you want. To keep the goal right in front of you always...

Have you ever considered that your marriage is a living, breathing entity that needs you and your spouse to care for it? This is a perspective I teach - where you start thinking about caring for your marriage just as you would a newborn baby. In this episode I break down the 5 areas you need to focus on - why each is so important to the health of your precious marriage, and the specific questions...

Tune in to this episode where I introduce the concept of Spouse Sabotage. There are known and hidden ways you are thinking about your spouse that create the image of them being your enemy instead of someone you are on a team with. As a result of the way you think about them, you show up a certain way. Ultimately, this is the model or operating system that's creating your current results. The human...

In this training replay, I share with you my top 3 tips for addressing communication breakdowns, lack of connection, not being on the same page, and lack of physical intimacy. Get straight to the point, honest advice about what you and your spouse need to start doing differently in order to have a better marriage. Ready to join The Marriage UpGrade? Now is the time. The marriage you want is truly...

What if you could guarantee the success of your marriage? What if the kind of changes you want to see were actually inevitable? I think they are, and inside this episode, I show you how and why. You'll learn the exact mindset necessary to create the successful and happy marriage you want. You'll learn how to actually measure progress in a way that motivates you to keep going. You'll understand the...

In this training replay, we are diving into the topic of what really creates change in your marriage. So many couples are trying to make their marriage better. They are having all the conversations. They are setting the plans and coming to new agreements. Only after a few weeks they find themselves right back to where they were before. In this episode, I teach you about the most important factor i...

In this episode we are diving into the topic of Boundaries. In marriage, it's so important that you protect your relationship. There are external boundaries - things outside the marriage that can help or harm your progress, And things within the marriage - internal boundaries - that can help or harm your progress. You'll learn exactly what these are and how they show up in your marriage as well as...

You are in for a treat over the next few episodes. In conjunction with the launch of my new coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, I hosted a series of live trainings on the topics I know will be most valuable for you. I'm releasing those training recordings in BONUS episodes. Today, we are talking all about How to Get on The Same Page. This is a hot topic a lot of couples struggle with, and I kn...

In this training replay you will learn all about the concept of The Finnish Line Mentality. This is literally one of the MOST important concepts I teach. Everything you create in life has to have a clear vision of what you want. You have to spend time focused on the goals you have for the FUTURE, more than the disappointments of your PAST. I dive deep into this concept because it is the difference...

Today we are talking about JOY and why it's so important to improving the experience you have in your marriage. The joy and happiness you feel is totally under your control. In this episode I break down the critical elements to consider as you make your own intentional plan for more joy in your life. You emotional wellness and well-being has a huge impact on how you interact with your spouse and h...

One thing most couples are not prepared for is how to navigate their differences, especially around topics that are very important to them. In this episode, I'll share why that is, how dating sometimes sets you up for having the wrong expectations, and most importantly, how to work through the differences that might feel very hard for you. In this episode, you'll learn: -how your negative beliefs...

The experience you have in your marriage is based on three perspectives and in today's podcast episode, I'll break down exactly what they are. There are a certain set of beliefs that most people have when it comes to these three "sides" of the triangle and they cause frustration, disappointment, and unhappiness. But when you are able to shift your perspective and find new ways of seeing things tha...

Marriage is spiritual. I think it's something we all know, but don't always access the full range of resources available to us on a spiritual level to ensure our marriage thrive. In this episode we are diving into the spiritual side of things and discussing how many of the things we need to do in order to have healthy marriages defy our natural human tendencies. I share how tapping into the power...

So many exciting updates on the podcast today. Be sure that you are plugged in to me at drchavonne.com or on IG @chavonneperotte On this episode we are talking all about the purpose of marriage. How you define what marriage is about drives everything about how you show up. I offer a perspective on marriage that will massively inform your goals, how you see yourself and your spouse. The way you see...

We live in a world where it's not the norm to celebrate yourself. We worry about appearing "too much" or offending someone by doing big, amazing things for ourselves. But the degree to which you are able to love and celebrate yourself is the degree to which you can receive that from others. In this episode, I'm sharing more on the concept of celebrating yourself, why it's so important, and the imp...

In marriage, you will have communication breakdowns. They look differently for each couple, but it's not necessarily a sign that something is going horribly wrong. In this podcast episode, I break down the most common forms of communication breakdowns and share with you the reasons why they happen. I also provide you with a shift in perspective that will dramatically improve the way you handle and...

Today we are talking all about Fresh Starts! You can create a fresh start whenever you want. The only thing that's required is a desire for things to be different. In this episode I'm sharing with you my perspective on what it takes to create a fresh start in your marriage. And to walk out these steps in creating desired shifts in your own marriage, sign up for my new Fresh Start Challenge by goin...