All the $#!T

Tom and Will adopt Bolek’s “go with the flow” approach to life in this meandering conversation, which includes a heated debate on trans athletes’ right to compete while lamenting their own diminishing athletic prowess. Tom suggests a method to help women appeal to the “protector” mentality in their men when they want them to do something. The guys also applaud the tenacity and courage of immigrant...

EavesDROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations. Will’s throw-away comment about introducing his daughter to professional women’s soccer “before women’s soccer is filled with men” sparks a debate about whether or not trans athletes should be allowed to compete based on the sex they identify with.

Tom talks with his friend, Bolek, about growing up in the United States as a child of immigrants in New Jersey's Polish community. From helping his dad prepare tax returns for other immigrants (starting at age 5), to ultimately becoming an elite orthopedic surgeon, Bo shares his story of overcoming obstacles to realize his version of the American Dream.

EavesDROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations. Bolek talks about his "side hustle" helping his father prepare tax returns for other immigrants. He reflects on the cultural differences growing up in Edison, New Jersey's Polish community, reconciling his experience with that of his American friends, and...

Tom and Will highlight their weeks, punctuated with bad parenting and an encounter with an endangered timber rattlesnake. The guys then dive into their takeaways from last week's conversation with Jeff, celebrating "wise selfishness," and discussing the difference between empathy and compassion. Tom shares how a psychedelic experience helped him process the loss of his child and ackn...

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations. Tom shares his experience with losing a child. After months of lingering depression, Tom ultimately realized the root cause was that he had never allowed himself time to grieve. A life-altering psychedelic trip helped him process the thoughts and emotions that had bee...

Tom reconnects with one of his college roommates, Jeff Sinclair, a Unified Mindfulness coach ( jeffsinclairmindfulness.com ). Tom and Jeff recount some stories from their collegiate a cappella days, as well as the twists and turns life has thrown at them since graduation. Jeff's approach to mindfulness is woven throughout this episode as he shares his experience with topics ranging from video...

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations. In this excerpt from "Can mindfulness offer a path to a happier, more meaningful life," Jeff shares his experience as a gaming addict and how he was able to break free. Tom and Jeff explore how a "Quest for Connection" is, for many men, at the core...

Eaves-DROPs are stand-alone excerpts from the "All the $#!T" podcast to highlight key takeaways from these conversations. In this excerpt from "Can mindfulness offer a path to a happier, more meaningful life?," Jeff talks about losing his son, Avery, and how he coped with that grief. He shares how having people to lean on, and not being afraid to talk about his feelings has hel...

Tom and Will discuss the nature of addiction in the wake of last week's conversation with Tom's brother-in-law, Jason, who is a person in recovery. Will does not DENY that addiction is a real thing, but he believes everything boils down to personal choices and doesn't understand how someone could make a choice that derails their life. Tom shares his perspective and tries to help Will m...

Trigger Warning : substance abuse, sexual abuse, and suicide are discussed in this episode. Tom interviews his brother-in-law, Jason, who has battled addiction for most of his life. Jason shares how his childhood traumas led him down a dark path and how speaking out about these incidents has ultimately allowed him to regain his footing on his path of recovery. Jason also shares how his experiences...

Tom and Will talk about take-aways and lessons from last week's conversation with Scott. Will makes a note to double down on being present, attentive, and affectionate with his kids. Tom and Will discuss the value of friendship and debate the limits of getting to know your neighbors and the placement of lower-income housing.

Tom sits down with his father-in-law, Scott, for a raw and intimate conversation about manhood. Scott shares how his definition of what it means to be a man has evolved over time, from childhood through adulthood. He shares his experience reckoning with the fact that he didn't have the relationship he wanted with his father, and his sadness in realizing he ultimately did the same thing with hi...

Tom and Will announce a major change to the show as they reveal ATS 2.0, which will feature interviews with other men, from all walks of life, with the goal of revealing common threads that unite us despite our perceived differences. Will provides an update on his health scare and Tom laments the loss of another vehicle and reflects on the way he dealt with the situation. ATS is about to enter a n...

Tom and Will talk about how they spent the 4th of July weekend. Tom laments the death of the American Dream as he and Will compare the social "baseline" of generations past with the reality of today.

In the new "high, low, wildcard" format, Tom tells Will about his dog's recent encounter with a huge black bear, which sends the guys spiraling down a game trail of bear stories. Later, Will makes a big announcement that the guys hope will take  @ATS_Pod  to the next level!

Tom and Will talk about the loss of the Titan submersible. Will shares how he explained the incident to his six-year old daughter. Tom argues that visiting the wreckage of the Titanic is no different than attempting to summit Mt. Everest. He and Will tip their hats to all the thrill seekers out there who knowingly put themselves in harm's way in pursuit of happiness ... and adrenaline.

Tom shares a racist encounter from his last road trip and wrestles with conflicting emotions stemming from the event. Will explains the circumstances under which his road rage would prompt him to fight another driver. Tom and Will share a "get off my lawn" moment over the "knockout game."

Tom and Will talk about how acting like kids helps them keep their marriages fun. Tom shares a unique tool he and Annah use to mitigate damage on those days where they've got a short fuse and are looking for any excuse to pick a fight.

Will is back from vacation. The guys talk about whether or not he made any progress on his plans for a new side hustle, which leads to a debate about whether or not people should work while they're "on vacation." The conversation takes a hard left turn when Will reveals the top ways he DOESN'T want to die and a debate ensues.

Tom and Will shoot the $#!T about Will's health scare, the shortcomings of Western medicine. Tom remembers the death of a close friend, and the guys share their perspectives on the relentless march toward mortality. It's not as dark as it sounds!

In this Quick Hit Weekly episode, Tom and Will discuss the concept of so-called "soft masculinity," a term the Modern Man section of the New York Times used to refer to the male relationships portrayed in the Apple series, Ted Lasso. While the Times seems to think the idea is a fantasy, the guys share their thoughts on how this concept isn't as far-fetched as the author makes it out...