All of You

When it comes to responsibilities managing a household we want it to be 50/50 all the time, but the reality is it's challenging to measure and the constant keeping score can add to the stress and lead to conflict. In this episode Shiv and Dave share their struggles with this and Dave expounds on his belief that this is all a trap!    Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a c...

The journey of self growth and healing is filled with daunting obstacles, challenges, some highs and a lot of lows. It takes courage and strength to be in the pursuit of the best version of yourself. With growth it is often two steps forward and one step back, but when we are taking that step back it’s hard to not be critical of ourselves. This is where the importance of self compassion comes in....

Resentment, it’s the ultimate connection killer. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave share times they have harbored resentment in their relationship and how easy it is to let little bricks of resentment turn into a massive wall where they can no longer see each other. Tune in as they explain how through curiosity and commitment to seeing each other they have learned how to break the resentment wa...

Tune in for another episode that Shiv swore she would never do, talk about faith and religion. While Shiv and Dave were both raised in the Christian church, their faith journeys are far from simple and they have both deeply wrestled with what they believe. From religious trauma to deconstruction to how they listen to God, this episode shares a new side of Shiv and Dave.    Ready to do the work and...

Get a little philosophical with us this week as we discuss what we believe red flags are. Whether you are newly dating or have been with your partner for 20 years and are just starting to see the red flags in your relationship, this episode dives into ways to talk to your partner as well as keep yourself safe.    Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with...

Yep, we went there. In this week’s episode we dive into a topic that’s often taboo to talk about, but is so central to connection: sex and intimacy. Dave shares his journey of unlearning the scripts he was handed growing up about sex and gets candid about how he healed and shifted his mindset in order to create a foundation of trust in their relationship that ultimately led to a better sex life or...

Changing can feel like a death of your ego and is often so uncomfortable that it feels like it’s wrong. In this episode Shiv details the ways she has changed over the last year and how she was able to tell if she was changing into a more authentic version of herself or not. When we grow it is not always accepted by those around us, tune in to hear how to overcome others perceptions of you.   Ready...

This week, Shiv and Dave open up about their personal experiences battling depression and share their perspective on what they believe depression is. Dave shares his holistic point of view on healing from depression and goes into detail on how he healed.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: ht...

Getting married a second time can bring up a flood of emotions, fears, and doubts. In this episode, Dave opens up about the personal blocks and anxieties he faced as he prepared to take this step again. Shiv shares her own vulnerable journey, navigating the complexities of marrying someone with children and the inner work it took to build trust and feel ready to say "I do." Together, they explore...

It goes without question that our parents and caregivers make a lasting impact in shaping who we become. This episode explores the impact of fathers who choose to not be present in their child's life physically or who might be physically present, but emotionally absent. Dave gets personal about the wounds that he has had to heal and the journey to healing them.   Ready to do the work and go deeper...

Politics is a highly triggering topic—one that can divide families and prevent friends from showing up as their authentic selves with one another. In this episode, we draw parallels between managing triggers in relationship conflicts and handling political triggers, with the aim of maintaining healthy relationships even with those who see things differently. In light of the recent election, if you...

We’re officially married and ready to let you in on all the learnings and lessons from this wild season! In this episode, we discuss the most important thing we wanted to bring to our wedding day which was the right energy. Tune in to hear the ways we did this well, not so well, and why we think energy is soooo unbelievably important!   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book...

Anxiety is an emotion we all feel from time to time. Some of us experience it more often than others, but I think it’s safe to say none of us enjoy it. In this episode Shiv and Dave talk about their experience with anxiety and how they choose to move through it.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min...

Arguing with someone who is defensive is exhausting and oftentimes pointless. Being someone who is defensive is harmful to yourself and everyone close to you. This week’s episode Shiv and Dave share the ways that defensiveness has hurt their relationship and Shiv details the work that she has done to become less defensive. If you or someone you love struggles with being defensive (wink-wink that's...

If you’re anything like me (Shiv here), sometimes you crave your comfort zone like a kid craving their baby blanket. Growth can be incredibly uncomfortable and in this episode we share how we sit with the discomfort…sometimes very well and sometimes not so well. Along with facing discomfort we also share how we handled some recent setbacks and let you in on Dave’s most recent breakdown!   Ready to...

When Shiv lost her brother it was traumatic in a very obvious way. However, the lack of compassion and understanding by her teachers after her loss was also traumatic, in an entirely different way. Tune in to learn about how our experiences imprint onto us and how bottling emotions can affect you. This episode is both an invitation and a warning for you to reflect back on your own school experienc...

Everyone has a different definition of success, in this episode Shiv and Dave define what it means to them and the lengths they will go to achieve their vision of success.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram....

We all have insecurities because we have all been wounded. In this week’s episode Shiv and Dave talk about how to heal from insecurities and how to navigate insecurities in a relationship. Is it your job to heal your insecurity or your partner's job to cater to it? Tune in to find out our hot take on this!    Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:...

This week's episode shines a light on how shifting your mindset to one of abundance versus scarcity will actually bring you more. Shiv and Dave share how having an abundance mindset was not something they always have had, but how this change has radically impacted their lives and they feel more blessed because of it. Oh and there is also a wild tangent on how this affects the dating scene, buckle...

When we don’t forgive, resentment builds. In this week’s episode Dave takes us on a deeply insightful and personal journey into how and why he has learned to forgive. We dive into how resentment is created in relationships, how it keeps us from connecting and how forgiveness can release our mental tension in order to feel lighter.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a co...

Shiv found herself level 10 triggered after reading an instagram comment and this episode is peeling back the curtain on how she used her trigger as an opportunity to heal and set boundaries to keep her peace. While others' feedback can be incredibly helpful in order to mirror our blindspots to us, it’s only helpful when we deeply trust the person providing the feedback. Dave shares how he discern...

In this episode, Shiv and Dave are joined by Camille Cook, host of the (Un)Fulfilled Podcast for an important conversation on how to find fulfillment. We each share parts of our stories that we regret, how we started doing innerwork to begin living a more aligned life, the importance of listening to your intuition and how to move beyond discomfort to get the life you want.    (Un)Fulfilled Podcast...

We all struggle with trying to be perfect at times, but for some of us it can feel much more debilitating. Especially for Shiv, who opens up about the ways that her perfectionism has held her back. This episode highlights the struggles of being a perfectionist and how to approach yourself with compassion when stuck in a cycle of perfectionism in order to overcome it.   Ready to do the work and go...

This week Shiv and Dave dive into how learning to regulate their nervous system has helped them make better decisions, feel better in their lives, and has improved how they parent. They share the tools that they use that are simple to integrate into everyday life along with sharing their thoughts on attachment styles!   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation ca...

Things get personal in this episode, Dave and Shiv share updates on recent life decisions and how they make decisions in alignment with their values. Even when we think we know what our values are, it’s still easy to become double minded and make decisions that are out of alignment. Shiv opens up about past decisions she made that she wouldn't make now.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your...