After The Quiet

In Episode 62 of After the Quiet , I share the terrifying health scare that shifted my focus away from my collapsing marriage and onto my own survival. What started as a small lump in my abdomen quickly led to ultrasounds, MRIs, referrals to a cancer hospital, biopsies, and the frightening possibility of cancer. As I navigated medical uncertainty, I was also dealing with emotional abuse, overwhelm...

In Episode 61 of After the Quiet , I share the moment I received a Facebook message that changed everything: a photo of a positive pregnancy test with the words, “It’s your husband’s child.” What followed was a web of manipulation, conflicting stories, emotional chaos, and the painful realization that multiple people were being lied to at the same time. This episode explores infidelity, coercive c...

In Episode 60 of After the Quiet , I share the moment everything shifted—our house sold. What should have been a logistical step during separation quickly became a life-altering decision: move forward separately or stay together and try to fix the marriage. Despite plans to downsize and rebuild, we ended up in a bigger home, farther away, and deeper in a cycle of control. This episode explores how...

In Episode 59 of After the Quiet , I share how my ex reached out to my mom during our separation, presenting himself as remorseful and desperate to fix our family. What followed was a push toward marriage counselling—despite everything that had already happened. In these sessions, blame was shifted onto me, accountability was avoided, and deeper patterns of manipulation and control were revealed....

In Episode 58 of After the Quiet , I share how coercive control doesn’t stop at the relationship—it extends to the people around you. After two of his own family members became my support system during our separation, he intervened with threats and intimidation, forcing them to cut ties with me. What followed was a deep and painful isolation—not just for me, but for my children, who also lost mean...

In Episode 57 of After the Quiet , I share how a seemingly simple parenting schedule became another tool of control. During the early stages of separation, I asked to switch a single day so my young daughter could attend her aunt’s baby shower—a meaningful family event surrounded by cousins her age. Despite offering reasonable compromises, the request was denied, revealing a deeper pattern of mani...

In Episode 56 of After the Quiet , I share the day I realized control had gone even deeper—I was being physically prevented from leaving my home. After planning a simple summer playdate for my kids, I discovered all the car keys had been taken and vehicles were deliberately blocked in the driveway. What followed was another police visit and a painful realization about coercive control, isolation,...

In Episode 55 of After the Quiet , I share the shocking day my ex-partner called the police and accused me of neglecting my children—while I was feeding them lunch. What followed was a police visit, Child Services involvement, and a painful realization of how far coercive control can go. This episode explores false allegations during separation, emotional abuse tactics, and how systems like law en...

In Episode 54 of After The Quiet , I share painful moment my private separation became public. On what would have been our 12th wedding anniversary, my ex posted romantic photos with another woman—exposing everything before I was ready. This episode explores public humiliation, social media betrayal, and the emotional toll of having your story told without your consent.

In Episode 53 of After The Quiet , I share the reality of navigating separation while facing ongoing control and manipulation. From stolen legal documents and restricted access to resources, to hidden surveillance and pressure even after separation—this episode exposes the darker side of divorce proceedings. If you’ve ever experienced coercive control, double standards, or felt unsafe while trying...

In Episode 52 of After the Quiet , I share the moment everything unraveled. What started as a search for answers led to the discovery of a hidden relationship, a double life, and the truth behind months of lies. From social media clues to a shocking conversation, this episode explores infidelity, deception, and the devastating realization that the life I believed in wasn’t real. If you’ve ever que...

In Episode 51 of After The Quiet , I share the terrifying moment I couldn’t reach my children—and the truth that followed. What started as a simple beach day turned into hours of silence, panic, and unanswered calls. When the truth finally came out, it revealed more than just a lie—it exposed a reality I had been avoiding. This episode explores fear, deception, and the moment everything begins to...

In Episode 50 of After The Quiet , I share the moment I stopped blindly trusting and started searching for the truth. From tracking bank transactions to discovering lies about where he was staying, this episode reveals the painful reality of deception and emotional manipulation. When he disappeared again—ignoring my calls but answering our child—everything became clear. This episode explores betra...

In Episode 49 of After The Quiet , I share a weekend that felt perfect—family camping, laughter, connection—and the devastating shift that followed. Just days after feeling like everything was finally okay, I was blindsided when he said he needed space to “think about our relationship.” This episode explores emotional whiplash, the cycle of highs and lows in unhealthy relationships, and how moment...

In Episode 48 of After The Quiet , I share how breaking my ankle led to losing my independence in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time. Unable to drive, I was forced to take a leave from work and stay home—where things suddenly felt “better.” But looking back, I see how isolation and dependence created the illusion of connection. This episode explores coercive control, loss of autonomy, and...

In Episode 47 of After The Quiet , I recount a camping trip that ended with a serious injury—and a painful realization about the lack of support in my marriage. After rolling my ankle and hearing a crack, I was told to “suck it up” and later called a “drama queen” at urgent care. The doctor quickly confirmed the truth: a broken ankle and torn ligaments. This episode explores medical gaslighting, e...

In this episode of After the Quiet , a mother reflects on a Mother’s Day marked by coercive control during a Walk for the Cure honoring her terminally ill Godmother. Through denied choices, isolation from family, and emotional neglect, this story explores the early warning signs that were easy to miss—and why recognizing them matters. New episodes every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Available whe...

In this episode of After the Quiet , a mother reflects on her son’s First Communion and how coercive control can surface during family milestones. Through double standards, shifting rules, and emotional labor, this story explores how control quietly reshapes relationships—and why naming it matters. New episodes every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Listen wherever you stream podcasts

In Episode 44 of After The Quiet , I share the story of when my husband blocked me on Facebook and quietly removed photos of me from his profile. He claimed it was because I challenged the political and offensive memes he posted online. But later I realized there was more behind the decision. This episode explores how public humiliation, cruel comments, and digital control can become another layer...

In Episode 43 of After The Quiet , a moment in the kitchen leads to a devastating discovery. When a laptop screen lights up unexpectedly, I find emails from dating sites like Plenty of Fish and Ashley Madison—and messages my husband had sent to other women. What follows is denial, heartbreak, and a weekend spent questioning everything I thought I knew about my marriage. This episode explores betra...

In Episode 42 of After The Quiet , I share how a New Year’s gym routine quickly turned into a dangerous obsession. As steroid use, long nightly gym sessions, and anger entered our home, I was left managing work, three children, and every bedtime alone—while surviving on almost no sleep. This episode explores how control can appear in unexpected ways, the toll exhaustion takes on a parent, and what...

In Episode 41 of After The Quiet , I reflect on a Thanksgiving that seemed ordinary at the time but feels very different looking back. I simply wanted one family photo in front of my parents’ house—my kids dressed up, my daughter in a handmade knit outfit, a moment to capture while they were still little. But he refused to join us. What remained were photos of the people who showed up: my children...

Returning to work after maternity leave meant finding childcare for my daughter without the support system I once had nearby. After trying a home daycare that didn’t feel quite right, an unexpected solution appeared—his aunt. In Episode 40 of After The Quiet , I share how switching to family care became one of the best decisions for my daughter, creating a bond that would shape her childhood. This...

In Episode 39 of After The Quiet , I share the heartbreak of a family trip that never happened. After hosting relatives from the U.S. and excitedly planning a summer visit, everything changed once the plans were finalized. Despite knowing about the arrangements all along, my husband suddenly refused to go—leaving me to cancel on my aunt and cousins and carry the embarrassment alone. This episode e...

In Episode 38 of After The Quiet , I reflect on a painful pattern of comparison that slowly chipped away at my confidence. While my sister lovingly cared for my daughter after my maternity leave ended, my husband began telling people he had “married the wrong sister.” What sounded like jokes to others left lasting emotional wounds. This episode explores how constant comparison can become a form of...