After the Affair

'Limerence' to infidelity, is like 'Furlough' was to Covid. A word that most people had never heard of, before being unwillingly forced into the situation. In this episode I discusses the experience of limerence in extramarital affairs, highlighting its potential for destruction in committed relationships. Limerence is a complex psychological phenomenon that can arise from physical or emotional at...

'Jealousy Unmasked' explores the topic of jealousy in relationships (Including post infidelity). I discuss common sources of jealousy, how it can manifest in different ways, and the difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy. I also provide strategies for managing jealousy, such as identifying the root cause, communicating openly and honestly, practicing self-care, setting boundaries, and s...

If you have ever found yourself saying 'yes', when you meant 'no' .... then this episode is a must listen!  People pleasing shows up in many relationships and can be a key element in the breakdown of those relationships. Learn what it is, where it comes from, why we do it and what you can do to eradicate it from your life.   Ask me your questions for a future episode - Email luke@lifecoachluke.com...

Healing from an affair is complicated. One often overlooked part of the healing process is understanding the effects that blame and shame have recovery. They are closely intertwined and in todays episode I explain why, and offer tips on how to overcome it.   Join the weekly mailing list - www.lifecoachluke.com/subscribe Reach out directly to me at: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Ever wondered why people choose to be unfaithful. What makes betrayal so difficult to resist? Learn some of the reasons in this episode and as always, some useful tips on how to handle them.   https://linktr.ee/lifecoachluke luke@lifecoachluke.com

Learn how I handle any problem, and how you can do the same. To find out more, grab a drink and pop your headphones on! To subscribe to my weekly mailing list, visit - www.lifecoachluke.com/subscribe and if you haven't already, get my FREE first steps guide today by visiting www.lifecoachluke.com  

Infidelity can have a major and lasting effect on confidence. Do you understand the difference between confidence and self-confidence? Today I will explore the relationship between the two and how you can rebuild your confidence after infidelity.  Do you have a question that Google can't quite answer, it's too generic? I know the feeling ... I just wanted someone to help me with my specific issue....

The road to forgiveness is a challenging journey, but it is one well worth taking.  There are many misconceptions that say we shouldn't let them off the hook, they should pay for their betrayal, and you should seek revenge at the earliest opportunity. In this episode, I'll look at what forgiveness is, common misconceptions, why you should forgive, learn if you are ready to forgive, and finally ......

Lies form a very real part of the world we live in. From the innocent white lies we tell our children, to the scandals in government, and everything in between. Do lies serve a real purpose? How do you want to think about the lies you have told? Join me in this week's episode to explore a variety of examples, get under the skin of why we lie and what we can do about it going forward. Enjoy!   If y...

There are lots of ways people choose or recommend as the way to heal from betrayal but that raises a question ... Is there a 'Best way to heal' from infidelity? Listen to find out. Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke Instagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke

Happy New Year! Let's make 2023 the turning point in your recovery.   Today's episode is all about the Motivational Triad. This is the human need to;   - Seek pleasure - Avoid pain - Expend the least energy   This shows up in our lives daily and it makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective, but in today's world where food and material items are in abundance ... it often leads us to beha...

Come on, admit it. We are all guilty for consuming a great piece of advice, reading and inspirational quote in a magazine or learning that new technique on a webinar but, how often do you actively put that new found knowledge into practice.   I know from experience how easy it is to passively consume information, but then realise that nothing is changing for me because I haven't implemented any of...

What boundaries do you have in your relationships? Have you ever intentionally set a boundary? What is expected of other people who infringe on your emotional boundaries? Find out the answers to these questions and many more in today's episode.   I love to hear all of your questions that come to mind when you are listening to the episodes, let me know what comes up for you. Leave a comment, send a...

Following on from last weeks episode I explore the list of rules that we have for our partners. How they are something that we don't even notice yet they dictate our expectations and ultimately our feelings if left unchecked. In addition, to sign up for the upcoming Heal for Holidays workshop which will be held on Tuesday 13th December 2022 at 9am CT and 3pm UK time, click >>here!

We all see the world through a different lens. Sometimes it's easy to use the analogy of Rose-Tinted Glasses where you only see the positives, this would be great but is often not always the case!   This episode, along with next week's episode will look at the lists we have in our mind that act like a filter ... not dissimilar to Rose-Tinted Glasses. Enjoy!   Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Faceboo...

For episode 10, we're doing something a little different.    Whatever it is that you are going through, whatever stage of recovery you are at, there is always someone else out there who is experiencing something similar. Simply becoming aware of this, might just make you feel a little less alone on this journey.   Today I'm having a very open conversation with Mike who experienced infidelity back...

Such a common question after infidelity, how do I rebuild trust? How can I ever trust again? I could talk about this subject for hours but I've kept it to around 20 minutes so it will be manageable and accessible to all. If you've found this episode useful, or any episode for that matter... leave a review, it really helps to get it to more people like you who really need it right now. Thank you so...

REGISTER HERE --> www.lifecoachluke.com/holidays Click above to join us on Sunday 13th November at 12pm central time/6pm UK time. If you can't make the live event, still register and you'll get access to the recording. Attend as the betrayed spouse, the wayward spouse or as a couple. This week I am answering questions from men who have chosen to stay after discovery of the affair. Some of the issu...

Feelings! It's all about feelings.    Feelings/emotions are the fuel for everything we do. In this episode you'll learn what feelings are, why they matter and most importantly... what to do with them! This episode is relevant to anyone with a brain! Not just those who have been through infidelity.   Want to work together? Let's talk ... book a completely free, no obligation chat with me right now...

When betrayal happens, it's common to assume that guilt is only experienced on the side of the unfaithful partner. Further into the healing process however and sometimes a certain set of circumstances can align and cause the betrayed to have similar feelings, but for different reasons.   Find out more in this episode!   For those who haven't reached this stage in the recovery process, access and d...

Are you are trying to heal from infidelity? But no matter how hard you try, every discussion is like setting off a firework! Then this episode is for you. Things are rarely what they seem, and that includes your partner.   I'm currently compiling a list of questions to specifically answer in future episodes. If you have a question that you would like me to answer, then get in touch. See below for...

Truth, True and Fact ... are these the same things? In today's episode I'll explore my thoughts around how they affect the experiences we have within our relationships. The image I refer to in the show is this one (I take no credit for the production or creation of this image)   To contact me and discuss any of the topics within the show or to ask a question that I can answer in a future show... W...

In this episode I'm discussing the common ways we misinterpret each other, in particular within relationships. This stemmed from a recent conversation with my sister about how we can make quick judgements, react to that judgement and become blinkered to other possibilities as a result. Get your FREE how to survive after the affair guide from my website. Link below. Website: www.lifecoachluke.com F...

In this episode I am exploring the concept of letting go of the outcome. This is an important part of the healing process from infidelity. When your partner has cheated, it is challenging to not want to look into the future and attempt to predict it. This is often not as useful as you might think. I also talk about some useful steps to help you begin the process of letting go after the affair.  ww...

Join me in this first episode to discover a little about me, but more importantly an exploration into my thoughts and insights into the world of infidelity.  I talk about perception, and how what you experience may be different to your partners. All about relationships and what they really are. How you know you are doing ok after discovering an affair and some tips on what not to do. And finally,...