After 30 with Cara Eriguel

Jealousy is a normal human emotion; and like all emotions, jealousy is meant to tell us more about ourselves and what it is that we need. Once you obsess over something or someone, though, and you start controlling your partner because of your jealousy, that’s when it starts to become toxic. Yes, your feelings are valid. But it doesn’t have to be unhealthy and toxic. Healthy jealousy is possible....

There are two broad reasons why some people cannot easily allow themselves to ask for, or let love in: they are afraid of it , or they feel they don’t deserve it . Consider the possibility that you may fear intimacy. You may feel unsafe and so deprive yourself of the gift of closeness. Preparing for love is an incredibly arduous journey of self-discovery, character building, and awareness. It is d...

Our ‘internal dialogue” or how we talk to ourselves is influenced by our subconscious mind. It reveals our inner thoughts, beliefs, questions and ideas. If we’re not aware of how we talk to ourselves, we may often feel like we are always out of control and overwhelmed by our emotions, thoughts and tasks. If you change the way you think, you change the way you feel. If you change the way you talk t...

"Be thankful for every heartbreak, for they were planned. They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life. And you do." —Unkn...

A cluttered mind is restless and unfocused. Very little really gets done when so much is going on in your head. It really is overwhelming and can get both mentally and physically draining. What are the types of mental clutter? Why do we need to declutter our minds? What then can you do to help declutter your mind? Decluttering your mind is essential to productivity and clarity. You need to make sp...

Sabi nga ni JK Rowling, “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you lived so cautiously that you might as well have not lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” Traditionally, we are all taught at a very young age that failure is bad, and as a result, we all become afraid to fail. Now that we’re adults, we realize failure, as much as it hurts, is a huge...

Hey grateful ones! Happy 2022! I hope you are all safe and well. I know this year must feel like a repeat of the last year (and the year before that) but I like to think we are emerging from it all with a better understanding of ourselves, and the people around us.    This guided meditation I'm about to share with you- think of it as like a pregame to start your “best year yet.” Somethin...

Freelancing is fun and exciting, and scary and most of the time unsure. If this is the type of career path you’ve chosen, then you know how tough it is most times to separate your personal life from what it is that you do because, well, you’re following the pace that you set out for yourself. This requires a whole lot of your energy and your time - both very, very precious aspects of living your l...

'Tis the season of reunions and some (or a lot) of drinking is usually involved. This used to be something I looked forward to in my teens and early to mid 20’s. One of my strengths, in fact, was being able to hold my liquor. This was something I was proud of in my younger years; and bouncing back the next day like nothing happened was a thing.    In recent years, the case has been...

Because of the big shifts in our life and mindset brought about by the pandemic, a lot of us have been thinking about quitting our jobs for a number of reasons. Some have probably been thinking about it for years and just haven’t had the heart to let go.    On this episode, we talk to former radio DJ, former co-worker, TV and events host and podcaster, host of the Halo-Halo show and Teve...

'Tis the season of love and giving! One of our biggest takeaways from the pandemic is to learn how to spend our time, our lives, and our money wisely.  How do we spend our money wisely and kindly for the holidays so that we still have the full-on holiday experience without overspending? We talk to Behavioral Economist and FQ Mom herself Rose Fres Fausto on this exciting episode! We have AFTER...

It’s exciting to finally be able to plan (safely) family gatherings once again after what felt like a lifetime. The holidays will feel complete again, with tita saying tumataba ka or kelan kayo magbbaby? Or bakit si Junjun single pa din?   It’s exciting but also, I’m getting a little bit of anxiety. Parang , how do I even family again??? Ahahaha. If you’re getting a little family reunion anxi...

ARE YOU BUSY? Why is being busy often seen as a badge of honor and a marker of self-worth? Being busy and being productive can often be confused with one another. When you’re busy, you have a lot on your plate , but this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re productive or using your time efficiently. WHAT DO PEOPLE REALLY MEAN WHEN THEY SAY “IM BUSY”? WHAT IS THE CURE FOR “BUSYNESS”? I love hearing from...

As our lives slowly go back to normal, here’s a quick after 30 life hack, little reminders if you will, on how to love and be kinder to yourself everyday. Don’t forget the important life lessons this whole pandemic experience taught us. It’s so easy to get drowned in the business of it all, it’s so easy to get lost in “life”. Thing about life is, you have to live it, and live it with love and kind...

Dating in your 30s hits different haha. Time and experience really does change you, it changes your priorities, the way you see life, and even the way you love. You view the world differently, you feel differently, (physically oof, and even mentally) , you now want different things from life. Most of us are seeking a more serious long term relationship at this age. Dating becomes less of a game, y...

Over the past year and a half, we’ve had plenty of reasons to feel lonely, helpless and afraid. Surprisingly, a lot of us have found ways to smile and laugh amidst turmoil. Comedy is so powerful and scientifically proven to even strengthen our immune system!  On this episode, we talked to professional comedian James Caraan, he is also one of the hosts of KoolPals podcast- about why it’s impor...

Fights, disagreements, arguments are a part of life. Most of the time, they are healthy- if you do it right. Learning how to negotiate and fight better, (fight fair, that is), is crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship. We just have to learn how to express ourselves better without being hurtful, or creating hardcore damage to your partners. Learn how to fight fair, fight productively, so tha...

It has been getting harder and harder to stay mindful and grateful these days, given our current circumstances. Feeling sad is healthy and natural. But sometimes it’s just becoming a little too much. Taking care of our mental health is so important now more than ever. We know that being in a calm and happy state allows us to function better, be physically and mentally healthier, have better relati...

Generally, your 30s is a great time to invest. You’re more established in your career, you're making enough money, and are still young enough to reap the benefits of compound interest.  Here’s the magic question, what then should you be investing on in your 30s? What are the most important investments for 30-somethings to make? How do you even begin?  Podcast Network Asia's Founder and C...

How did LoveYourself inc. come about? What is the story behind this powerful community? Why is it important to talk about sex? How does knowledge and awareness about sex affect us and our decisions? What is the role of self-worth in safe sex? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our lives are greatly affected by our own traumas, whether we are aware of it or not.  How do you identify the symptoms of trauma? And how can you heal yourself from it?   We're talking to positive psychology and mindfulness practitioner and Happiness Coach Kathi Rañeses on this very timely and insightful episode.  I love hearing from you, let me know what you think! IG: @after...

What makes a person confident anyway? First important thing you need to know is that confidence is not something you have—- definitely not something you are born with. It is something you create. Confidence is about believing in yourself. It is the feeling of being certain that you can accomplish anything you set your heart and mind (and soul) to. If you want learn to be more confident, you should...

Remember that scene from "When Harry Met Sally" where Harry says " Men and women can't be friends because the sex thing always gets in the way"? What are the dynamics of a cross-sex friendship? When is a cross-sex friendship considered good and healthy, and how do you keep it that way? #AsAFriend lang ba talaga ang mag Baguio, and would you drive a drunk friend of the opposite sex home without the...

Welcome to the first episode of After 30 life hacks! A series of diff life hacks— each episode having 30 ways to make your life easier! Spending more time at home during quarantine has made you rethink the way your place looks and feels now, huh? All this time inside is making us realize the changes we need to do to make our place look bigger, brighter, and just more comfortable. We work, study, w...

A major "How to be you po" interview and chikahan with an After-30 idol and household name SAM YG on career, love, business, adulting, pursuing your passions, staying hungry and everything in between.   I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did!  I love love love hearing from you. Lemme know what you think! @caraeriguel @after30withcaraeriguel  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr...