Affirming Power with Christyl Benford

Have you ever found yourself in a cycle of constant failure? Whether it’s failed relationships, failure in your career or business, or circumstances that keep repeating themselves. These failures seem to creep up when we least expect them. Failure in life is inevitable. It is also a good way to learn quickly and gain wisdom so we don’t repeat the same mistakes. However, in certain areas of our liv...

Everyone faces disappointment. But did you know that if you cannot move on from those disappointing moments that still sting and reside deep within, it could affect you mentally and spiritually? This can lead to conscious and subconscious actions of self-sabotage. It can also hurt your motivation and the progress you’ll need to fulfill your purpose. In this episode of the Affirming Power podcast,...

Did you know that approval addiction goes hand in hand with the need to get validation from others? When we find ourselves in a place of looking for people to validate how good or important we are, we are asking them to give us a stamp of approval from their eyes. The danger with this is that people can be fickle in how they view us. They can love us today and dislike us tomorrow. In this episode...

Have you ever felt dissatisfied in life or not good enough? It’s almost as if you were looking for someone else to approve your work or who you are so it would validate your worth.  In this episode of the Affirming Power podcast, you will discover the most common foundational elements that lead you to not feeling adequate within yourself. Plus learn the 3 Simple Ways to Conquer Approval Addiction...

When you are abandoned at any age, it can affect you for years to come. It tends to change your perspective and expectation of others in various relationships. It not only affects you and how you handle people, but it also makes it challenging for them to be in a relationship with you, friendship or otherwise.  If you experience abandonment issues or abandonment trauma, then this episode of the Af...

One of the most important natural and spiritual commodities we've been given is our minds. Having the right mindset can help us reach our highest potential or catapult us to doing more than what we thought we were capable of. In this episode of the Affirming Power podcast, this compilation episode gives applicable life tips to help you self-reflect on the health of your mindset and inspire you...

Have you ever heard the term “misery loves company”? Well did you know that this can be a subconscious and unconscious behavior that most don't ever recognize they're doing? When we sabotage others or it’s being done to us, it's not always an evil tactic to bring someone down or to purposely stop them from excelling in a particular area of life. It's because it's that person’s...

Have you ever found yourself struggling to reach a goal? Or if you reach it, you find it hard to maintain it? That's because there are limiting beliefs or other underlying issues within you that are manifesting self-sabotaging behavior through you.  In this episode of the Affirming Power podcast, you'll find out why we sabotage ourselves, the #1 WAY to turn self-sabotage into self-improvem...

When we think of distractions our minds usually go to a thing or person. But what if the root cause of what is distracting us is what is coming from within our spiritual battle and misbeliefs? There are four spiritual distractions that we will unveil in this episode of Affirming Power Podcast. You most likely face these types of distractions when you are building something bigger than you. By the...

Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. But why is it that most of the population accomplishes less productivity daily and has difficulty finishing their to-do lists and accomplishing their dreams or goals? It’s because there are too many distractions and not enough intention. Are you feeling stuck in life while facing distractions and lacking productivity? Here on the Affirming Power Podcast, I’...

Have you found yourself second-guessing your decisions because of past failures? Or do you shy away from pursuing bigger and better opportunities because you don’t think you have what it takes? This is called Limited Belief. Welcome to Affirming Power with Christyl Benford! In this episode of How to Overcome Limiting in 3 Steps, I’m going to talk about where this comes from and how to turn those n...

We are uniquely crafted in every single way. From the way we think and speak to how we handle ourselves around others. All parts of who we are make up our personal brand. A Personal Brand is not just something to think about if you want to start a business or a ministry. It should be at the forefront of your mind because it is how others experience you and how you show up in the world. In this epi...

Perfectionists put so much pressure on themselves to do everything perfectly. They rarely leave room for error. This can cause so much stress and mental duress that it often leads to unfinished projects and feelings of failure. However, there is another way to get the same results you strive for as a perfectionist. In this episode, Perfectionism vs Excellence: Why being a perfectionist is stressin...

One of the worst things anyone can do is reject wisdom when it’s given because they think they know everything. For some, it’s already hard to ask for help when needed. But it’s worse to be in a prideful state of mind and spirit where you don’t think you need any help or that you can do it all on your own. It’s one thing to be confident. It’s another thing to be overly confident (prideful) which c...

Has it ever been hard for you to admit you were wrong or take accountability for an action you did that didn't turn out how you anticipated? If so, that's nothing unusual because everyone feels this way sometimes. But the bigger issue that this could turn into is if you turned that blame onto an innocent bystander instead of taking accountability for your negative actions, mistakes, or fai...

Have you ever felt like a fraud or as if you weren’t good enough for an opportunity, job, or relationship? If so, you are NOT alone. This is not just a feeling of insecurity but it actually has a name and it’s Imposter Syndrome, which is also known as the “fraud syndrome”.  There have been many people that have felt the same way. They have talked themselves out of amazing opportunities because the...

It's easy to watch others from a distance living their best life. Whether it's on social media or in person, you see their wins and accomplishments which might make you sometimes feel like you're lacking, failing, or not doing enough. Not true at ALL! Comparison is one of those self-sabotaging traits that has a way of sneaking up on us to remind us of our failures or our hardships. But...

Do you often feel like whatever you're working on is never good enough? You will work on it for days, weeks, or even years getting it done because you feel it needs a few more "touch ups". With Perfectionism, it can be a never ending spiral. It's a breeding ground for procrastination, fear of failure, approval addiction and more. It's not just about doing an amazing job, it&#39...

Have you been in a situation, whether personal, career, or business and found yourself looking to others to inspire, encourage, or motivate you in order to gain momentum? However, when they don't do either of these, you begin to lose your enthusiasm with your own project or vision, making it hard for you to follow through on getting that task done. When we depend on others approval or praise,...

When you think of success do you think of all the hard work that will come along with it? Maybe you find your self thinking about if you’re ready to handle the success when it comes and it makes you anxious. Fear of Success is more common than you know. A lot of people tend to sabotage themselves by pulling back on meeting their goals. There is an underlying feeling within them that believes there...

Does the thought of failing just make you cringe to the point that you hesitate when it’s time to do something big or important?  Fear of Failure is a real thing! People who suffer from fear of failure have a tendency to procrastinate or freeze under pressure which keeps them from moving forward with life goals. In today’s Affirming Power podcast episode , we’ll uncover how to overcome the fear of...

Procrastination is the #1 self sabotaging trait that keeps most people from succeeding in life, career, and relationships. Today on the Affirming Power Podcast we are continuing the Avoid Self Sabotage series. In this episode we’ll cover 4 ways to unravel and stop procrastination so you can start doing the important things that are going to positively shape the rest of your life. JOIN THE Avoid Se...

Have you ever doubted yourself in a job, opportunity, or relationship even though you have the skills, knowledge, or ability to do it well and succeed? Most people who suffer from self-doubt sabotage themselves out of great situations every day because of limiting beliefs about who they are. In this episode of the Avoid Self Sabotage series here on the Affirming Power podcast, Christyl Benford cov...