ADHD Mums

There is a kind of grief that mums are not supposed to name. It could be called ungrateful.. but a lot of us feel it. So it stays private, carried quietly while life keeps moving and decisions keep getting made. This episode sits with the grief of the unlived motherhood — the version of parenting that was imagined, planned for, and socially rewarded, and then slowly dismantled by reality. Not beca...

Responsibility’s already on me. If this tips, it’ll be because I waited too long. That’s how the morning starts. There’s a clock running. Shoes half on. Bags not where they should be. One kid slowing down, another winding up. Nothing’s happened yet, but the margin’s already thin. I step in early, before anyone else thinks it’s necessary, and it gets read straight away as 'being grumpy.' In This Ep...

You can feel it tipping before anyone else does. Everyone’s still chatting, still comfortable, and your body’s already tightening. You know if you stay, you’ll be the one dealing with what comes next. It’s that familiar moment where nothing’s happened yet, but you’re already bracing for the clean-up. In This Episode, We Cover What it’s like to step in early when you’re the one who ends up carrying...

This episode sits in a very specific moment: when nothing has technically happened, but your whole system reacts as if something has gone wrong. A message goes unanswered. A reply takes longer than expected. A conversation pauses. And suddenly, silence feels loaded. In this episode, Jane explores why those moments don’t register as neutral. They register as danger. Not because you’re dramatic or o...

If you’re standing at the edge of a new school year already feeling tight, alert, or on edge — this episode is for you. Not because you’re anxious. Not because you’re controlling. And not because you’re ‘that mum’. In this episode, Jane unpacks what actually happens for many mums as school resumes — especially those parenting neurodivergent children. The pressure to stay ahead. To manage outcomes....

If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too soft’ or that your child just needs firmer discipline — this episode is for you. Not because you need to learn how to parent better. But because the judgement itself is the problem. In this episode, Jane unpacks one of the most exhausting myths ADHD parents face: that challenging behaviour is a discipline failure rather than a regulation issue. When children me...

You’re not behind. And you’re not failing at life. If you wake up already tired — before anything has even happened — this episode explains why. Not in a ‘here’s what to do’ way. In a ‘nothing is wrong with you’ way. In this episode, Jane names the invisible thing that keeps so many mums feeling behind, rushed, and quietly panicked even on calm days: carrying responsibility before it’s required ....

You’re not bad at relaxing. And you’re not doing rest wrong. If you’ve ever noticed yourself cleaning, tidying, or “finding something to do” in the very moments you’re supposed to be enjoying — this episode explains why. In this short but powerful conversation, Jane unpacks why so many mums feel restless, guilty, or half-revved when things finally go quiet, and why that response isn’t anxiety or a...

You didn’t fail your New Year’s resolutions. You survived a year that was heavier than the plans you made for it. I asked the ADHD Mums community how their New Year’s goals actually went last year — and the answers weren’t lazy, careless, or undisciplined. They were honest. Tender. Exhausted. This episode is a collective exhale for every mum who promised she’d get organised, rest more, yell less,...

If you feel like you’re failing at parenting because you’re constantly exhausted, flat, or shutting down — this episode is for you. This isn’t about trying harder or fixing yourself. It’s about understanding why ADHD and neurodivergent mums don’t just get tired — we get depleted. In This Episode, We Cover: Why exhaustion can feel like numbness instead of emotion What dopamine debt looks like in re...

What if the calm you felt last Christmas wasn’t a fluke — but a clue? In this episode, Jane responds to a listener who accidentally lost her Christmas list… and felt calmer than she ever had in December. Not because she stopped caring — but because the mental load finally dropped. This conversation explains why ADHD mums hit capacity faster at Christmas, why letting go feels terrifying, and why yo...

I thought I was being polite. I thought I was keeping my options open. But somewhere between exhaustion, people-pleasing, and old survival habits, I abandoned myself — again. In this episode, I share the exact moment it clicked: my 'soft no’s' weren’t boundaries at all. They were apologies wearing polite outfits. And when everything finally caught up with me, my nervous system had already run out...

December brings presents… and pressure. Family dynamics get loud, expectations get heavier, and suddenly you’re managing everyone’s feelings and your ADHD child’s reactions — all while trying not to implode. This episode answers a powerful listener question: How do I handle gift-opening with my ADHD/PDA child without feeling ashamed, judged, or like I’m failing?  It’s not just about presents....

Silent rage at Christmas isn’t a personality flaw — it’s a nervous system collapse. In this episode, we unpack why ADHD mums hit overwhelm earlier and harder during December, why the “tiny straw” moments feel massive, and how the invisible mental load of Christmas pushes your brain into shutdown mode long before anyone notices. This is a compassionate, nervous-system-first explanation of why you’r...

Christmas isn’t “cosy magic” for many ADHD mums — it’s a high-pressure, high-sensory, invisible-load marathon that no one else sees. In this episode, Jane breaks down why holiday overwhelm hits harder, why silent rage feels frightening and unfair, and what your nervous system is actually doing long before the wrapping-night meltdown. You’re not failing Christmas — you’ve been carrying it. What We...

If December already feels like you’re sprinting through wet concrete, this episode is your deep breath. Christmas asks ADHD mums to hold the magic and the mess — late-night wrapping, invisible labour, the Boxing Day guilt hangover — and still somehow feel like we’re not doing enough. This is the story of the year Jane finally said: good enough is enough. And maybe this is the year you get to say i...

Some days it feels like you need a medical degree just to parent a neurodivergent kid. The waitlists, the myths, the pressure to ‘get it right’ — it can all become overwhelming fast. In this episode, child psychiatrist Dr Mimi Xu finally gives mums clear, compassionate answers about ADHD meds for kids, without judgement or jargon. 💡 What We Cover Why ADHD medication is never a one-size-fits-all d...

If you’re already running on caffeine and obligation — this one’s for you. December has a way of convincing ADHD mums that magic only counts if it hurts. But what if “good enough” was actually enough? This week, Jane shares the story of the Christmas she finally stopped performing for everyone else — and started living it for herself. 💡 What We Cover Why ADHD brains struggle to know when to stop...

If you’ve already cried in a shopping centre car park — you’re not alone. In this raw and funny ADHD Mums Christmas episode, Jane breaks down why the season feels like an emotional Olympics for neurodivergent parents — and how to stop performing and start protecting your energy. This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing less on purpose. Using the ‘Red Pen’ approach, Jane shows how to cross out...

When a child melts down in public or refuses to eat, the world sees “bad behaviour.” But often, what looks like defiance or poor parenting is actually neurodivergence — and a family doing their best in a system that doesn’t understand them. In this deeply validating conversation, Jane sits down with Tracey Jewel — author, advocate, and mum of a neurodivergent family — to talk about reframing “bad...

Trigger Warning This episode includes mentions of intrusive thoughts and parental burnout. Please take care while listening. Episode Overview Have you ever gone from wanting to run away to feeling overwhelming love for your kids — all within five minutes? You’re not delusional. You’re devoted. In this raw and deeply relatable episode, Jane unpacks the wild emotional contradictions of raising neuro...

💊 Why do ADHD meds seem like a miracle one week… and stop working the next? If you’ve ever sat there wondering if you’re failing because the meds don’t seem to work anymore — you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. In this episode, Jane tackles the most common questions ADHD mums ask about medication for kids. From appetite loss and 3PM crashes to puberty shifts and masking, we break down what’s...

For ADHD mums, school pickup isn’t chit chat — it’s performance. The smiles, the nods, the weather talk. On the outside you look friendly. On the inside, you’re collapsing. In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks why masking at the school gate feels so exhausting, how it impacts ADHD and autistic mums, and why it’s not about being unfriendly — it’s about survival. ✨ What We Cover in This Episode Why ev...

💊 They’ll sell you $60 gummies and promise calm — while your child is still wide awake at midnight. If you’ve ever handed over cash for gummies that didn’t work — you’re not the only one. In this episode, Jane sits down with clinical nutritionist Brittany Darling to unpack the minefield of supplements for ADHD and neurodivergent kids. From magnesium gummies to iron deficiency, we break down what’...

🛁 Self-care feels nice… but self-regulation keeps you alive. Ever wondered why you feel calm after a walk but snap six minutes later? You’re not failing — that’s the difference between self-care and regulation. In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks the crucial difference between bubble baths and nervous system regulation. Self-care soothes. Self-regulation catches you mid-climb and stops the burnout...