ADHD Mums

If you’ve ever stepped away for five minutes… come back… and everything has already escalated — this episode is for you. Because it’s not just the moment. It’s the feeling that if you’re not there… it doesn’t hold. And somehow you’ve become the thing that keeps everything from tipping over. In this episode, we unpack the invisible role so many ADHD mums carry — the one where you’re not just part o...

In this episode, we unpack the invisible load of trying to do something simple inside a day that won’t hold it. The interruptions, the split attention, the constant restarting — and how quickly that gets turned into ‘I’m the problem.’ From the outside, it looks like nothing happened. But inside it? You were doing that one task over and over again. 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: Why ‘simple task...

In this episode, we unpack the very real (and very common) experience of showing up already stretched… masking it with humour… and then internalising the entire thing as a personality flaw. The jokes land. People laugh. It looks like you’re coping. But underneath it — something else is happening. 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: What’s actually happening when you default to self-deprecating humou...

If you’ve ever left a group chat replaying everything you said… and everything you didn’t… and somehow landed on ‘that felt off… was that me?’ this episode is for you. Because this isn’t just about group chats. Or school committees. Or awkward conversations that go nowhere. It’s about what happens when everyone in the room is solving a different problem… and no one realises it. In this episode, we...

If you’ve removed the pressure… stepped back… even taken a break… and you still feel on edge — this episode is for you. Because this is the part no one explains. When nothing is ‘wrong’ anymore… but your body is still acting like it is. In this episode, we unpack what happens when stress isn’t the thing driving your anxiety — and why removing the load doesn’t always create relief. If you’ve ever w...

There’s a moment when you realise it’s not just a ‘bad term’ at school. It’s mornings that feel impossible. A child who won’t go. Or can’t go. And suddenly the question changes from 'how do we fix this?' to 'where do we go now?' WHAT WE COVER – What actually happens when mainstream school stops working – Why some children aren’t ‘failing school’ — the system is failing them – The reality of altern...

There is a moment at a family barbecue where your child isn’t sitting at the table. They’re walking. Talking. Eating on the move. And someone says it. 'We didn’t have this ADHD thing when we had kids.' And just like that, it stops being about lunch and starts feeling like it’s about you. Because what sounds casual lands like doubt. WHAT WE COVER – Why 'we didn’t have ADHD back then' still shows up...

Somewhere in almost every ADHD conversation, someone eventually says it. 'There weren't kids like this when I was at school.' Or the slightly more polite version: 'Why are there suddenly so many ADHD kids now?' And if you're a parent of a neurodivergent child, you've probably heard this one too: 'Maybe it's just screens.' This episode pulls that myth apart. Because the truth is far more complex —...

School systems are built to notice disruption. The child throwing chairs. The child refusing to sit down. The child who can't stay quiet. But there is another group of kids. The ones who sit still. The ones who follow instructions. The ones teachers describe as 'lovely', 'polite', or 'no trouble at all'. And those are often the kids quietly falling apart. Because when a child internalises stress i...

You're told your child is doing great at school. 'Wish I had more like her' 'No issues here.' But every afternoon at 3pm something else happens. The car door shuts. And the child who 'had a great day' collapses. The meltdown doesn't start at school. It starts when the mask comes off. For many Mums, this creates a strange kind of confusion. School says everything is fine. But home tells a completel...

You’ve sent the emails. You’ve attended the meetings. You’ve tried to be calm, collaborative, reasonable. And nothing changes. Then suddenly something serious happens — a suspension, an incident, a formal complaint — and overnight the school moves quickly. So what just happened? This episode unpacks the moment many ADHD mums eventually hit: the point where being reasonable stops working — and why...

There is a particular kind of confusion that happens when your child likes their teacher. If you’ve ever thought, ‘But she’s so lovely… why isn’t this working?’ I explore this massive question wth Bronnie Hammond-Vale. This episode is for you. WHY THIS MATTERS Sometimes the problem is the gap between teacher intention and system capacity. A teacher can care deeply. A teacher can try hard. A teache...

You’re sitting in a meeting thinking you’re here to talk about support. There’s a plan. There are ‘adjustments’. And yet your child is still escalating… and suddenly the school is hinting at removal, reduced hours, or ‘this isn’t the right setting’. This episode is the practical middle bit no one gives you: When a plan exists, but it’s either the wrong plan — or it’s not actually being applied. WH...

There is a moment in some school meetings where the language changes. You walk in expecting support. Adjustments. Solutions. But then different words start appearing. ‘Safety.’ ‘Impact on others.’ ‘Capacity.’ ‘We’ve tried everything.’ And you can feel the shift before you fully understand it. You start thinking: How did this go from help… to risk? WHY THIS MATTERS ADHD mums are already carrying in...

You’re not lying on the couch saying ‘poor me.’ You’re functioning. Packing lunches. Showing up. Holding it together. But quietly, inside, you’ve started believing: ‘This is just how it is for me.’ WHY THIS MATTERS ADHD mums carry more correction, more visible mistakes, more invisible labour, more system friction. So when something goes wrong, it doesn’t land as ‘that was hard.’ It lands as proof....

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel like they’re living inside a nervous system experiment. The kind where everything is technically ‘fine’… until the TV is on, someone’s making mouth noises, a child is asking 400 questions, another one is humming, and your body is trying to exit the situation through the nearest wall. We talk a lot about overstimulation like it’s a personal flaw. Like you shou...

This episode is for ADHD mums who have ever sat in a car park before an assessment and felt their whole nervous system start negotiating with the evidence. Because the paperwork looks fine. The report cards look fine. Your life looks fine. And you’re standing there knowing that ‘fine’ is exactly what disqualifies you. This is the ADHD myth as it actually lands. Not as a hot take online — but as a...

This episode sits right in the space where mental load, motherhood, and neurodivergence collide. It’s about the exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing one hard thing — but from having to remember everything, explain everything, repeat everything, and stay emotionally available while your own capacity is already gone. For many ADHD mums, the hardest part of advocacy isn’t the paperwork. It’s being...

This episode is for ADHD mums who feel their nervous system spike over questions that look harmless on the surface. The kind of questions that arrive when the brain is already full, already tracking consequences, already holding the household together. What’s commonly said is that this is about tone, patience, or communication. What actually happens is that one brain becomes the default place wher...

There is a kind of grief that mums are not supposed to name. It could be called ungrateful.. but a lot of us feel it. So it stays private, carried quietly while life keeps moving and decisions keep getting made. This episode sits with the grief of the unlived motherhood — the version of parenting that was imagined, planned for, and socially rewarded, and then slowly dismantled by reality. Not beca...

Responsibility’s already on me. If this tips, it’ll be because I waited too long. That’s how the morning starts. There’s a clock running. Shoes half on. Bags not where they should be. One kid slowing down, another winding up. Nothing’s happened yet, but the margin’s already thin. I step in early, before anyone else thinks it’s necessary, and it gets read straight away as 'being grumpy.' In This Ep...

You can feel it tipping before anyone else does. Everyone’s still chatting, still comfortable, and your body’s already tightening. You know if you stay, you’ll be the one dealing with what comes next. It’s that familiar moment where nothing’s happened yet, but you’re already bracing for the clean-up. In This Episode, We Cover What it’s like to step in early when you’re the one who ends up carrying...

This episode sits in a very specific moment: when nothing has technically happened, but your whole system reacts as if something has gone wrong. A message goes unanswered. A reply takes longer than expected. A conversation pauses. And suddenly, silence feels loaded. In this episode, Jane explores why those moments don’t register as neutral. They register as danger. Not because you’re dramatic or o...

If you’re standing at the edge of a new school year already feeling tight, alert, or on edge — this episode is for you. Not because you’re anxious. Not because you’re controlling. And not because you’re ‘that mum’. In this episode, Jane unpacks what actually happens for many mums as school resumes — especially those parenting neurodivergent children. The pressure to stay ahead. To manage outcomes....

If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too soft’ or that your child just needs firmer discipline — this episode is for you. Not because you need to learn how to parent better. But because the judgement itself is the problem. In this episode, Jane unpacks one of the most exhausting myths ADHD parents face: that challenging behaviour is a discipline failure rather than a regulation issue. When children me...