Abdulfattah Adeyemi

Marriages pass through all sorts of trials before they stabilize, hence the need for couples to be equipped with the necessary knowledge and skills to cope with the ever-changing matrimonial challenges and growing responsibilities. However, it is not enough to find out what is wrong with a troubled marriage so as to fix it, but we should also find out what is right about a successful one so as to...

This lecture features the comparative analysis of our lives and the game of football or soccer, from the temporality of time to the compelling and obvious fact that something is happening in our lives at every point in time. Despite the delight and the disgust in the game, we need to develop the ability to focus not only on the goals but also on the process. The game is beautiful if we play it wit...

The women have always had to put in extra efforts in ensuring that they play their roles in taking care of their families during the month of Ramadhan, so much so that it is unimaginable what the month would be like without them. This is why we should appraise their immeasurable contributions and appreciate their sacrifices. This lecture gives hints on how the women can make things easy for themse...

Our faces define our personalities and that is the gift we are to give to humanity. The face of fellow humans and other creatures in the universe are like mirrors that reflect the Face of Allah. So, in order for us to see the Face of Allah, we should seek His Face in bringing happiness to the faces of fellow humans through love, kindness, and charity. This concept is taken from the Qur’an chapter...

Reality is the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined. Reality isn't harsh, and it isn't easy either.  It is just what it is. In the midst of our daily struggle to fix, to figure, to pursue, to evade, or to sustain, one should not forget to appreciate what “today” entails. It is this adventure, this struggle, this “work in progress” nature...

What type of crime has anger not led people to commit? People have killed and destroyed because they were angry. Anger is a deviation from momentous cerebrations; an aberration to meaningful articulations. You would just kind of talk without saying anything, and you would say things without talking! Anger makes you shout, it makes you scream, it makes you hate, it makes you hit, it makes you hurt,...

Domestic violence comes in many forms such as physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial/economic abuse, and so on. Under no circumstances are such abuses against women and men, in their various manifestations, encouraged or allowed in Islam. There are many examples in Qur'ān and ḥadīth that describe the sort of loving, respectful, and kind behaviour that husbands and wives ought to exhibit to...

A good friend is like a tonic: a medicinal concoction that is brewed to make us feel healthier, livelier, and re-energized. A “tonic friendship” therefore, is like a healthy blend of mutual respect, positive attachment, affection, loyalty, love, respect, and trust. Conversely, toxic friends don’t nourish our souls but suck the verve out of our spirits. Is it not time for us to reconsider our stanc...

If you don’t take time to sharpen the axe of your relationships, you will lose touch with your true nature, and you become unable to create boundaries that protect, nurture, and sustain your self-worth. You misplace your crown. This audio lecture tells stories to prod us to think, and practice the art of silence so as to listen to our spouses’ heartbeats every day. It teaches us to take care of ou...

Wise counsels have freed us from paralyzing fears, severe anxieties, and overwhelming burdens. Can you imagine where we would be if not for people who offered us great, life-changing advice at every stage of our lives? Don’t people fail in life because they got bad advice from the wrong people? Should we take advice from just anyone who shows up to give us counsel? This audio lecture offers insigh...

Malice is a form of emotional abuse typically employed by people without good communication skills, an inability to express a high level of empathy, and avoidance of conflict resolution. Keeping malice appears to be deeply ingrained in our culture, such that it is acceptable to shut somebody out as a way of punishment. A malicious husband or wife, because they cannot prevail over their spouse, or...

If we manage to eliminate those worries that torment our minds and make us ill, then clearly what we have left is that which is timeless, that which is beyond the body, that which is beyond attachments and beyond the mind, that which is truly beyond our comprehension and is called happiness! Indeed, the Qur’an itself speaks of happiness as being one of the rewards for those whom Allah chooses to a...

Happiness is simply an emotional state of feeling good, of being free from pain and unpleasant emotions. Unfortunately, happiness is an elusive state of mind that all men strive for but few attain. For some people, happiness is contentment, joyful satisfaction, felicity, or blessedness. What does happiness mean to you? What are the ‘ways’ and ‘means’ of attaining happiness? What ‘gives rise to’, ‘...

It is not everyone that walks the streets that is “normal”. A whole lot of married individuals have lost touch with the acceptable standards of what a happy marriage should look like, feel like, or be like. From profanity to irascibility, from insincerity to infidelity, husbands and wives have had to grapple with the stark reality of their spouses’ insanity. Whereas, to the outsiders, everything a...

People have been driven out of their minds and compelled by some inexplicable circumstances to experience creepy episodes in their lives. Matters of jinns, sorcery, charms, mental conditions, and psychological situations, are all both sinister and intriguing. By making efforts to understand these phenomena, we can explain many of the mysteries and issues which bother us. We only need to pray hard...

Dreams are parts of the glimpses that remain for us from the unknown. They are voices from our collective subconscious, portents of deep inner disturbances in the individuals’ psyche, bearers of glad tidings of good things to come, or echoes of happy or sad and long-hidden memories. When some people see an unpleasant dream, their lives become disturbed. They become terrified and unable to relax un...

This audio lecture teaches you not to confuse humility with humiliation, pride with self-respect, arrogance with self-confidence, obedience with slavery, and gentility with stupidity! Learn, Laugh, and Enjoy!

Ever wondered why the sick people in the hospital are called PATIENTS? It is because they have to PATIENTLY endure the sickness, the pains, and the inconveniences till they get well. This audio lecture explains how to be patient with the trials of life till you overcome your challenges.

The POWER of prayer.

This audio is an attempt to extoll some of the awesome attributes of Allah, Glory be unto Him, Who is high above all that is attributed to Him. Please join me in my little effort to praise Him!   I’m just a mail away! (abdulfattahadeyemi@gmail.com)   Listen, learn, and think deeply as you Edit Your Youniverse!   Visit: www.abdulfattahadeyemil.com

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