Abdulfattah Adeyemi

The marriage medal is about giving honour, respect, appreciation, and recognition of our sacrifices, efforts, wears, tears, rigours, duties, obligations, and above all, our love towards our families. This lecture, delivered on 26 November 2022, is dedicated to the soldiers, parents, individuals, and all the hidden and unsung heroes amongst us who contribute gallantly to humanity's protection, pres...

The life and death of Sulaiman (Peace be upon him) are indeed full of wonders from which mankind can derive incredible lessons. Though every prophet was given miracles, Sulaiman (Peace be upon him) was given extraordinary miracles, as Allah subjugated the ethereal and earthly worlds for him, and endowed him with the power to communicate with jinns, and animals. Despite his knowledge and privileges...

This lecture (delivered on 29 October 2022) takes a metaphorical look at the arrow, the shield, and the target as concepts in self-development, and holding on to the shield of Allah’s protection against spiritual arrows of affliction. Enjoy this symbolic exposition on being focused, and responsible, building self-confidence, and giving our offspring the sprint to start life with a dart. Be either...

The story of Ayyub explores a particular kind of ordeal in which the pain seems both inexplicable and fruitless—it has nothing to do with any sin you must have committed, It doesn’t resemble a particular spiritual growth and not the type endured in acts of worship. It is neither a persecution by enemies nor a struggle for mentorship to find direction in life. However, it is a unique type of trial...

Synergetic relationships can be useful measures of an ecosystem’s health, same as in maintaining sanity in marriage. This lecture (delivered on the 8, October 2022) summarizes it all with symbolic references from the Qur’an and symbiotic inferences from nature. The secret of success at home can be found in the pairing: what we have combined, joined, or coupled. Are we trying to bind what does not...

As good as money is, what does it symbolize? Why bother accumulating cash and spending it to gather thingy-things that we shall still leave behind for others? Can we win the game of life when we live solely to pursue money at the expense of quality time with our families? Do we live to work, or do we work to live? How can we achieve a work-life balance such that we can have both? This lecture, del...

This lecture (delivered on the 18, June, 2016) is a philosophical approach to our beliefs about money. It examines how we think about it, how we handle it, where we should look for it and what are the things that influence our perceptions of money. Is having money a matter of luck, choice, effort, or a spiritual thing? Listen, learn, and laugh as you edit your Youniverse! (www.abdulfattahadeyemi.c...

The word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings and types, in different contexts. A similitude of marital love is that of a gardener and his flower garden. He nurtures the flower with utmost respect, regard, care, love and mercy. In this sense, love is ultimately not just a feeling, but a commitment to the relationship. This lecture, (delivered on the 19 February, 2022) recomme...

From chagrin to malice, some spouses have crafted deceptive means of expressing their needs for attention, control, and domination. Should they not stop playing these tricky games of tit-for-tat? Listen, learn and laugh as you edit your Youniverse! (www.abdulfattahadeyemi.com)

Moods have essential connections with our mental and physical well-being. Moods can affect how you perceive, interpret, judge, and translate the world around you, and can also direct your behaviour. Bad moods are connected with depression, anxiety, aggression, poor self-esteem, physiological stress, and a decrease in sexual arousal. A moody person may be going through a difficult stage in their li...

Things happen to us and we happen to things, yet we cannot possibly wrap our heads around everything in the universe. That is why our outlooks on what is good or bad might not be as accurate as we think. Therefore, if you have ever wondered why bad things sometimes happen to good people, you need to pay attention to my anecdotes, examples, and analogies, as I attempt to explain the consequences, c...

Do you feel unappreciated, rejected, inadequate, and worried about what people think about you? Is there any aspect of your life that you are perpetually embarrassed and disgraced about? Do you walk around with your head down because you are ashamed of who you are and what you do? The emotions of shame, when taken too far can adversely affect our self-esteem and we go through life as if we are sor...

This lecture (delivered on 20, August 2022) looks at some aspects of thinking: an introduction to a study in “Mental Security”. It discusses how fantasies, memories, and imaginations are all descriptions of our thought processes and how perceptions, contemplations, and assumptions are all manifestations of our minds at work. Listen and learn to protect your mind, direct your thoughts and edit your...

Fire, water, air, and earth as we commonly know them are but outwardly manifested forms of the Elements themselves. However, each of the four elements is inherently neutral and is neither good nor bad. The human organism also contains all four elements, often manifested in the theories of personality traits. This lecture (delivered on the 8, November, 2014), is for matchmakers, those intending to...

This lecture was presented at a workshop organized by the Abuja Enterprise Agency (AEA), Abuja on 8 February 2022. The workshop was organized as pre-retirement training for civil servants and senior citizens. Although financial security is an important element in retirement plans, this presentation lays more emphasis on the psychological aspects of retirement, especially in matters of adjusting to...

This keynote address was delivered at an event of Toastmasters International, Abuja, Nigeria on 10 June 2022. It comprises clear examples, deep metaphors, and insightful analogies as it discusses four steps towards transformational leadership. Listen, learn, think and edit your Youniverse!

Our identities can refer to what we do, what we call ourselves, or what people call us. Are you identified by what you have achieved, or you are still not sure how you fit into your community? Do you know the core of your uniqueness, or you are going through an identity crisis? This lecture throws a challenge at you, to see if you truly know who you are, or if you are just an assumption. Listen, l...

If the car is the marriage, the man is the driver, the passenger is the wife, and the fuel is the money, what can the passenger do, if the driver is lost, confused, or does not fuel the car? Who is really in charge of determining the speed, the direction, and the destination of the car: the driver or the passenger? This discussion is an analysis of the car as a metaphor in marriage for husbands wh...

What actually makes us valuable to ourselves and relevant in the lives of others is our ability to keep the flow of our nature from human-being to human-doing, and from human-doing to human-being. This nugget is for you to listen, learn and edit your Youniverse!

This discourse takes an analytical look at the reasons behind our trials in life and suggests ways to develop a consistent mentality regardless of our changing realities. Listen, learn and edit your Youniverse!

Having Taqwa (God-consciousness) is not just a fleeting moment of excitement or spiritual lift. It is a journey in spirituality that is characterized by flow, growth, sincerity, transcendence, true knowledge, and service to humanity. Spirituality, therefore, is a relationship and a connection with Allah and with the universe. This lecture (recorded on 30 April 2022) is a glimpse into the study of...

In the pursuit of pleasure, people buy things, use things, and own things, yet pleasant sensations do not guarantee lasting happiness. Where then does real happiness lie? What exactly does it mean to be happy? Is there any real source or condition of happiness? Can you recognize and sustain happiness when you “find” it? Do we inherit happiness? Is happiness a skill that we can learn? Is being happ...

This lecture (delivered on 19 March 2022) highlights some of the overwhelming surprises that the everchanging times bring, and attempts to suggest answers to some existential questions. Are these emerging changes positive or negative? Do our interpretations of changes depend on our personal perceptions? What should we do when these unpredictable changes seem to weigh so heavily on our minds and gr...

You can learn to make meanings, gain insights, make adjustments and make improvements in very important areas of your life if you pursue both qualitative and quantitative existence.  This lecture (recorded on 11 June 2022) takes you on a journey towards self-knowledge through numbers, as you self-track your life, knowing what works for you and what you work for.  Listen, learn, laugh, an...

This lecture (recorded on 4 June 2022) highlights some of the narcissistic traits as mentioned in the Quran and explained in the Hadith. All in all, it can be emotionally draining and psychologically daunting to live with narcissists; hence the talk gives some hints on coping strategies if you must stay, and some advice on how to leave if your safety and sanity are at stake. If you have fallen vic...