AA Recovery Interviews with Howard L.

When he started making the coffee, his life got better.... Thirteen years ago, Dale started attending one of my home groups, a men’s meeting that I’ve been going to for over 33 years. Since he first stepped into that meeting, his service to the group and individual men has solidified his spot in the middle of our herd. In fact, he says it was when he started making and serving coffee in the meetin...

A tough upbringing punctuated by violence and abuse led to Aileen's early use of drugs and alcohol just to survive home life. Her difficult and dangerous relationships in adulthood were mired by alcoholism of one or both parties. Self-loathing and despair, with ideations of suicide, haunted her at every turn. Indeed, Aileen’s story looked hopeless. In the end, it took in-patient mental health trea...

At age 82, Boots had lived most of his life as a moderate or normal drinker, only to find out in his late 50s that his drinking was getting out of control. By the time his family staged an intervention when he was 60, Boots had become a full-blown alcoholic with all of the collateral damage that drinking inflicts upon the unsuspecting. Boots spent four months at an inpatient treatment center face-...

On today’s episode, my guest Karen W. shares a chilling story that every long-term alcoholic needs to hear. It’s a story about alcoholism’s insidious ability to derail 28 years of sobriety into a seven-year relapse that nearly ended in suicide. Karen somehow survived that slip to achieve three years of sobriety as of the date of this interview. Her chaotic life of alcoholism and drug addiction sta...

Originally from Detroit, Robert grew up in what many would consider to be a “normal’ family in which alcohol and dysfunctional behavior were largely absent. Nonetheless, Robert found alcohol at 16 and was immediately lured to its magical properties that relieved much of the anxiety and loneliness he experienced during his teenage years. Though he made it through high school and later college with...

Al D. came into AA at 60 years of age to get sober after a lifetime of normal or moderate drinking. Punctuated by occasional binges and excessive use of alcohol to quell periods of depression or anxiety, Al was able to manage his consumption of booze and sometimes stop for years at a time. But the disease of alcoholism was just off-stage ready to make its appearance when the script of his life too...

Effective sponsorship has been the key to success in Lee's AA Program. Though sponsorship is often discussed, the role Lee's sponsor has played throughout Lee’s sobriety is especially illuminating in a way I wish every AA newcomer could see.  From the time they first met and throughout the careful working of the 12 steps, to the point when Lee started sponsoring others, the importance of having a...

Dow’s revolving-door story of getting sober, slipping, and struggling to get sober again and again should be heard by AAs everywhere. It’s a cautionary tale that shines a bright light on the cunning, baffling, and powerful nature of alcoholism. It’s the disease that’s always lurking just outside the perimeter of AA ready to claim those who let up on this Program of action. In Dow’s case, his famil...

Jim’s life as an alcoholic began with an addiction to morphine when he was 14.  Administered four times a day while he was hospitalized for a month after a serious surgery, Jim found that morphine did more than kill the pain. It helped him escape the mental tribulations he felt from childhood on. But morphine was difficult to get and he soon found that increasing amounts of alcohol was would have...

After a long period of sobriety, Marcia let up on her Program and plunged into a 7-year relapse. Seduced by the disease, she was convinced she could drink normally. That illusion took her to the depths of despair from which few survive. That she barely made it back to AA and sobriety is nothing short of a miracle. Marcia G. first got sober in 1990. But 8 years into that sobriety, her interest and...

As an alcoholic and drug addict throughout his teenage years, Randy L. got sober before being old enough to legally drink.  His difficult childhood was ruled by compulsive behavior, limited attention, and hyperactivity. Later diagnosed with ADHD, Randy was treated with meds that worked, but left him craving a calmer and steadier mental state. He soon relief in alcohol and marijuana. Though the dam...

This 154th interview in my podcast series features Helen M., from London, England. Helen tracks her nearly three years of sobriety as more than 1000 days in AA, experienced the one-day-at-at-time. Though she grew up in a home in which neither of her parents were alcoholic, Helen suffered mistreatment at the hands of her two sisters. To cope, she found the emotion-numbing relief that alcohol provid...

Jim H. is one of those alcoholics whose unabated drinking created serious medical problems amidst all the other destruction of career and family. He did not drink much in high school. But in college, he was a tie-died in the wool hippie, with a penchant for marijuana, hashish, LSD, and psilocybin mushrooms. He used amphetamines to achieve academic success. But it was the alcohol that took him down...

Marci's first exposure to Alcoholics Anonymous was at age 12 when she witnessed her father receiving his one year anniversary chip. But though her father maintained his sobriety until the end of his life through AA, little was spoken of alcoholism in her home growing up. Like many AA members who were raised in or around the Program, Marci’s decisions to drink were largely unaffected by her family...

Sex, drugs, and rock & roll were more than a cliché in the life of Elliott M. As a prominent rock musician and song-writer for years before alcoholism drove him into Alcoholics Anonymous, Elliott’s drinking ran parallel to his rise to stardom. Ironically, his best song-writing and performances were largely free from the influence of alcohol and drugs. But offstage, his drinking and drugging were d...

In a story is wrought from a difficult childhood, Diane was the youngest of four and was largely ignored by her parents, especially when her father was drinking. Until he died at 56, his alcoholism also fed a mean streak that landed hard on her family, with verbal abuse and derision often aimed at Diane. As a teenager, she found alcohol as a way to escape and her drinking followed her into four bo...

Though he first attended court-ordered AA meetings decades before his current sobriety date, John had no interest in the Program and no desire to stop drinking whatsoever. Even the week-long coma he suffered after being thrown from the car in a drunken crash did little to inhibit his drinking. John was raised in affluence by parents were "party people" who loved their alcohol and the family's stan...

As a toddler, Jim was taken to parties where he got his first taste of marijuana and alcohol. For his 10th birthday, his adult brother got him a joint and shots of peppermint schnapps. By 13, he was a daily pot smoker and drinking whenever he could. His race to the bottom ended when he got sober at age 21. On this episode of AA Recovery Interviews, meet Jim W., an active member of AA for the past...

To mark the 150th interview in this podcast series, Dwight’s story is both riveting and ominous. It began with alcohol being added to his milk to keep him quiet as a toddler. Raised as an only child by a single mother in the ghettos of Harlem, he was a thief by age six and had witnessed the stabbing death of school mate at 11. A gang member by middle school, Dwight was drinking, smoking marijuana,...

Nicole's battle with alcoholism was set against the backdrop of repressed feelings from childhood and the deep closet in which hid her own homosexuality most of her life. Growing up in London, Nicole drank without consequence much of her life until she faced a seemingly insurmountable period of grief and isolation six years before she stopped drinking. Her escalating alcohol abuse, plus two suicid...

Like many alcoholics, Quinten S. started drinking in his mid-adolescence amidst a chaotic home life. Alcoholism was not prevalent in his immediate family, but the vestiges from earlier generations were there nonetheless. Quinten’s alcohol use escalated quickly during his late teens, along with regular use of marijuana. In high school and later college, his use quickly turned into serious abuse of...

With a family of origin riddled with alcoholism, abuse, and fractured relationships, Soleen was a disenfranchised child. She started drinking at 11 and progressed rapidly into alcoholic abuse. That latent disease deprived Soleen of adult supervision and good decision-making. She married at 14 and had a baby at 16 by a man nearly twice her age. Her budding alcoholism put Soleen in trouble with the...

In David's childhood home, there was one basic rule about alcohol: Don’t let it interfere with your household chores. Lacking any other parental edicts, David started drinking at age 8 and was a regular alcohol user by age 11. Alcohol’s “magical” effect of intoxication helped David cope with both the dysfunction in his family, as well as the intense feelings of loneliness that were fed by the inse...

Imagine you’ve been sober for a while and move to a new country. You don’t speak the language and the nearest English-speaking AA meetings are an hour and a half away. How would that affect your sobriety and serenity in your new digs? My guest on today’s show, Lisa F., faced that uncomfortable situation when she moved from the U.S. to Sicily in 2020. Sober nearly 15 years at the time, Lisa faced t...

Ernie's story is a fascinating excursion into a high-class lifestyle of fast cars, flashy clothes, and glittery nightclubs, all underwritten by a high paying day job and cocaine dealing on the side. As his alcohol and cocaine use turned into alcoholism and drug addiction, all accountability to career, family, and friends evaporated. His risky behavior escalated until he was arrested in a DEA sting...