A second chance at life®

We all learn lessons from relationships but what if the lesson could cost you your life? In part 1 of this interview, Janet Lewis tells her life story of growing up as a young girl from California. At the age of 15, she found out she was pregnant and moved out with her boyfriend. Once this relationship was over, she entering into another relationship which turned abusive, and became pregnant again...

Growing up, both of her parents were alcoholics. She was molested as a little girl and then got pregnant at 15. Being a teen mom caused her to drop out of high school in the 9th grade. With no education or money, she had to work 2-3 jobs to take care of her family. However, she eventually finds love in doing hair. So she became a hairstylist and became a salon owner for four years. Then a new oppo...

Have you ever been through something in life that was meant to hurt you, but you found the strength to make it through? Well, I have!  My name is Arvilla Beckworth, and I am the host of A second chance at life. A weekly podcast that encourages women to take their past experiences and turn them into a new opportunity in life! This season, I will be doing a "Purpose after pain" series, which wi...

Have you ever asked God for something, hoping he would give it to you just because you asked? My passion is to help women, but my weakness is speaking in public. Whenever there was an opportunity to talk in front of others, I would either decline or be so nervous that I would fumble over my words and talk fast. One morning, I heard a word from God that said, "Stay ready, so you do not have to get...

In this episode, I had the pleasure to sit down with the Founder of Empowered Majesty Team, Host of True Lessons Podcast, and Certified Trauma Recovery Life Coach Lillian Hernandez. We had an honest conversation about going out of your comfort zone to get support, why society puts women against each other, and how to embraces other women. If you love Lillian and want to get to know her better foll...

The longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Unfortunately, that relationship doesn't come naturally, so you have to be patient and continually grow it. I remember self-sabotaging my relationship because I could not love myself, so it made me not allow others to love me either, creating problems that were not there. Having a loving relationship with yourself looks like kindness, g...

Have you ever had those moments when you felt unlovable? Not from anyone else but yourself? There was a time in my life (20 years ago) when I didn't love myself properly. My self-esteem was low, and I felt like I was losing myself. I would wake up in the morning, dreading getting up because I had hit a low point in my life. Then I did some self-flection and found out that I was unhappy in that cur...

Today's episode talks about how dating myself changed my life. During my dating season, it seemed like I was giving all of myself while they were giving nothing, and I got sick and tired of always being last, so I decided to start dating myself. It was time to put myself first and enjoy what I like to do and not do what others wanted to do. After I started dating myself, it became rewarding, and i...

"If you want to find the love of your life, look in the mirror" ~Unknown In my journey of learning to love myself better, I could never figure out why it was so hard for me to show people how to love me.  I was often frustrated because I thought the way I loved people was the same way I would receive it until I came across a book that thoroughly explained to me what I was missing.  Many...

Why is it so hard for people to apologize when they did you wrong? I remember when I was looking for an apology for someone who mistreated me, and did you know that the person acted like I was the reason I got mistreated!! So instead of admitting that they did me wrong, it was easier for them to place the blame elsewhere. For years this bothered me because I was looking for an apology to validate...

 When you haven't dealt with unhealed trauma, it seems to show its ugly head at the wrong time. I remember trying to hide my previous abusive relationship for others. It showed up through frustration, low-self esteem, and physical scars on my body. It even started to affect how I interacted with other people. Once you recognize you need to heal yourself, you will do what you have to do to kee...

As part 2 of this two-part interview continues, Lauren goes into depth about her anxiety. Not only did it affect her family but also her pockets as well. She had to file bankruptcy due to the multiple ER visits, ambulance rides, and blood work. Lauren's body knew something was going on and was trying to protect her from it. She eventually got depressed and didn't want to leave her house because he...

In this two-part interview, I am talking with Lauren Brown on overcoming unhealed trauma. Today, she talks about her childhood and the loss of her father at an earlier age. On top of that, at the age of 3, she was separated from her mother due to her drug addiction. This caused her to develop anxiety and uncertainty later in life. As her mom continued to go in and out of rehab, Lauren had to stay...

Have you ever been triggered by a person, place, or thing? Some think being "triggered" means rubbing someone the wrong way when in all actuality, being triggered is anything that reminds someone of a traumatic event. In this episode, I talk about my personal dealing with triggers. Do you have any triggers you are dealing with? I would love you hear from you! You can reach out to me at arvilla@arv...

Before creating another resolution, I want to give you ten things to consider in 2022. To have different, you have to think differently. You will have to make changes that will take you out of your comfort zone to get where you are trying to go. Listen to today's episode and see what areas of your life you need to change before going into the new year.

As we wrap up 2021, what do you want to leave behind? Imposter syndrome Lying to yourself Toxic people Insecurities Self-sabotage No matter what it is, if you don't change your mindset, you will go into 2022 with the same issues. Today I want to give you five things to leave behind in 2021. Click the click  Free 15 minute clarity call click here www.arvillabeckworth.com

Did you know that a cluttered mind creates a messy home, and a cluttered home creates a messy mind? Today I talk about how you can better manage your stress by simply decluttering some things in your life! 🧹 Book: Organize Now! A week-by-week guide to simplify your space and your life  Jennifer Ford Berry

When you have a demanding lifestyle, it is hard to find time to rest even recharge. You try to keep up and do your best, but eventually you start to slow down. You are not meant to do everything in a 24hour period, so you have to put things in place to rest and recharge. Your body will tell you if it is time to stop and regroup. I learned the hard way by not listening to my body. It eventually shu...

As women, we get burned out because we overextend ourselves. We are either helping some through a problem, taking on extra work, or being too distracted with other stuff that we can't focus. It's great that you can help others and be a support system but how many people return the favor? Well, today I want to give you five ways you can start showing up for yourself! Email: arvilla@arvillabeckworth...

During the month of November, I will be focusing on self-care. No matter who you are, self-care should be a part of your life. Think of it as a cell phone. When your cellphone gets low, you charge it back up, so why wouldn't your body need the same thing? In this episode, I give 8 tips you can use today, to take care of yourself.  If you are not following me on social media, head over to Inst...

What if someone gave you $86,400 to spend every day? As soon as you wake up, the money will be sitting in your account. The only thing this person asked of you was to spend it by midnight, or whatever was leftover would disappear.  Sound simple, right! Well, let me switch it up. What if someone gave you 86,400 seconds a day to use. Would you use it the same way as money? Go ahead and listen t...

As I wrap up the narcissist series, I want to encourage anyone who is currently in a relationship with a narcissist and is ready to leave to get a support system around you to make that transition safely. Once a narcissist knows that the relationship has come to an end, they may try to do everything in their power to win you back. Be strong and remember why you are leaving. In this episode, I give...

It can be difficult when someone you love doesn't know how to love you back. They lack empathy and even blame others, but what do you do when it is your family member? In this episode, I give you four tips to deal with a narcissistic family member. Please don't call them a narcissist: Unfortunately, people with a narcissistic personality disorder will not recognize that they are the problem. They...

What do you do when you have a narcissist in your life? Narcissistic Abuse Coach Joy Larkin of Live Narc Free, LLC is joining us today as she talks about narcissists. She originally shared her story on YouTube and received 10,000 views and 60 comments! Joy explains how she not only dealt with an ex-boyfriend but her aunt as well. She removed herself from both of them and then turned her pain into...

How many of you know a narcissist? I believe we all have seen, met, worked with, been around, maybe in a relationship with a Narcissist. Someone who thinks you should praise the ground they walk on exaggerates their accomplishments and even removes people from their lives if they are not beneficial to them. Taylor Counseling Group stated in an article "How to deal with a narcissistic family member...